Ok, where do I begin...?
I see all my friends attracting all these guys, and yet no one ever makes even HALF of an attempt to approach me. Most of the time, I'm fine with this, because I'm not feeling any of those men anyway, but this seems to be a never ending occurance. So every now and then, I'll ask my friends point blank "Am I ugly?" They always tell me that I'm not, that I'm pretty, and that men are just intimidated by me. But I can't buy that. I don't see how men can be intimidated by a woman. I just don't. So I assume that my friends are just telling me that to be nice.
Then every now and then, there'll be this influx of men attempting to talk to me, and then they all fade away. My friends also say that I give of this "Don't effing talk to me vibe" but I don't see how that can be since I talk to my friend's boyfriends and their friends whenever they come around. So what's the problem? Are men really intimidated by attractive women?
Thanks in advance!
2007-12-18
09:01:57
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Another thing that I didn't get to add into the original question:
Does being dark or light skinned matter? I know that in the black community, there's this ridiculousness that being light skinned automatically makes you cute. Along with having straight hair makes you cute.
I'm about a shade darker than a Hershey chocolate bar, and I almost never wear my hair straight. Could that have some kind of effect?
2007-12-18
09:13:06 ·
update #1
Is it possible these women aren't as attractive as they think they are? ~V.
2007-12-18 09:05:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes, it is true.
Men are intimidated by attractive women, and it can be really aggravating because naturally you want to be approached and feel attractive like your friends are being. The thing is it appears that the more "medium" attractive women are more easily approached, I guess because guys figure they have a better chance? Eeehww? Does that sound mean? ....... because I don't mean for it to, it's just that's how it seems to work.
Here's what I've figured out = Make yourself accessable, be the one to start the conversation, let them know that just because your pretty doesn't mean your conceited, or that your not interested. Go out of your way to show your interest in others. Make good eye contact, be outgoing.
It's worked for me.
Other than that I guess you'll have to stick with advice you get from men, they'll be the real experts on this one.
Good Luck.
2007-12-18 09:25:57
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answered by mchlmybelle 6
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I am not only tall(5'10) but i am an extremely attractive woman and sometimes guys are intimidated by me.I carry myself with confidence and sometimes I think that can be mistaken for arrogance.I am assuming that that is what your friends are talking about.Unfortunately, guys that I am not interested in are always in my face while the ones that I could possibly be interested in just sit back and watch.It doesn't always happen this way but it definitely happens.Bottom line is, if you rock, there is nothing you can do about that and if a guy is intimidated by this,then that's his obstacle and not yours.Besides,who says that you can't approach a guy.
Does having light or dark skin matter?
Does having long or short hair matter?
Does being tall or short matter?
Does being smart or stupid matter?
Of course it does!!! That is... to the individual.
Everyone has preferences and there is nothing wrong with that. Just like I'm sure you do too.Every ones standard of beauty is different. Do you see what I'm saying??? You can rock at 110 pounds or 300 pounds,dark or light,wheelchair or not etc...(i could go on and on)it all depends on the individual and what THEY are attracted too.So girl, you better rock your dark skin!!!!
2007-12-18 09:20:27
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answered by Juliana 3
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Sadly, you are mostly correct in your assumption that men are intimidated by, not so much, "attractive" women, but definitely by "beautiful" women. Not all men. But many. Trouble for the girl is that too often, the man that will cozy up to a beautiful woman, is usually very attractive, a jock, or a man of means, and a man who thinks more of himself than of the lady. Too often the beautiful woman is looked at more as a sex object to be had than a person. I would hope that there is someone for everyone out there, but the beautiful people are so often so into themselves, that the average or attractive people are afraid to step up and say hi :) how bout a date? Average folks are often too insecure. They are afraid of being put down. The insecurity is more the problem than the looks, but one seems to affect the other. Not always! But often. Nothing is 100%. Beautiful people do find love. If they are beautiful people inside and out, the chances of finding love rather than meaningless sex and failing romances is much better. I believe personality is the secret. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want people to love you, love people..... not just sex, but true caring for others. If sex is all you want, a beautiful woman can have sex any time she wants. A wink and a smile is all it takes. Well, I'm rambling on. Hopefully something here might be helpful :)
2007-12-18 09:23:00
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answered by Danno 2
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Most are intimidated.
Being very dark and beautiful still applies by the same rules. Yes, lighter skin and straight hair is an all around desire as Asians want their eyes surgically altered to look like they have an eye lid... Scary, but true.
If you are beautiful or good looking, then yes... the same rules apply to most men being intimidated by this.
Sometimes you have to go the extra mile by saying "thank you" and smiling whenever they attempt a compliment.
Just know that being attractive either makes you seem untouchable or appear to be stuck up when your just shy.
Being good looking can actually attract men that are confident in themselves, so try going to different places or surroundings where there are more good looking people that frequent a place.
Looks fade with time and being respected is more important than being accepted. Because, a person of influence can affect more people than a good looking person who is forgottten tomorrow.
REALITY.
2007-12-18 09:06:34
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answered by Anonymous
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Trust me it happens! And I am in the same boat as you... I've come to realize, that YES - we have to change the way we think! Do you believe you are attractive & can get involved? OR have you given up? Are you OK within yourself? These factors are what you wear to the outter world... Like attracts Like & therefore, the types of men you are interested in are not on the same page as you are. I really feel that once we change the way we think, we will attract those who are worthy, & then have the pick of the litter (sort to speak)...
I went out a couple of weeks ago, with NO intent on attracting a soul... I was out to have fun with my friends! I was told over & over how much fun I was & very attractive. No, I didn't pick anyone up, but HEY, it sure felt good to have the attention that was positive!!!
2007-12-18 09:11:10
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answered by T. 6
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2016-05-14 21:14:30
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answered by Ivette 4
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Yes, guys have told me this many times. I'm very out going. I usually strike up conversations with the guys. I'm into sports and this really works well with me. Guys are very attracted to personality also. I don't want anyone that wants me based on my looks alon. When you're facing this situation, don't stay on the back burner, take matters into your own hands.
2007-12-18 09:10:54
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answered by Sunday's Best 5
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Well I’m 15 so I’m out and about every weekend flirting with girls and getting numbers. Yes it is scary approaching an attractive girl as they are more likely to have a boyfriend and the boy can feel they are not worthy enough for the girl. REJECTION IS SCARY!
2007-12-18 09:07:23
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answered by Anonymous
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Yeah and that's why I'm still single. :( It may also have to do with your approchability factor. Even if you're an amazingly attractive woman you could be giving off vibes that say "I'm taken" or "please don't talk to me, this is the fifteenth time today someone's hit on me." So just smile more and try to be open to talking to any and everyone and you'll meet someone eventually. You've got to raise the odds if you want to win.
2007-12-18 09:06:04
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answered by caligurl1382 2
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Yes they are. Men have to deal with all sorts of anxieties when deciding to approach a woman. An especially attractive woman also brings to mind such things as she is out of my league.
I took months and months to learn how to get past that. To me now days a woman is a woman is woman.
So, how you doing? You come here often? Want to go have a drink?
2007-12-18 09:06:41
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answered by Anonymous
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