It's not like we go any other time of the year, and she's far from being a bible thumper, but its a "tradition".
I'd much rather spend time with the family (which, by the way, is where it's really at...look no further).
Any suggestions?
2007-12-18 08:59:27 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
put your foot down. you are the man, arent you?
2007-12-18 09:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by negaduck 6 · 1⤊ 6⤋
First sit down and talk to her. Is she only going because its a "tradition" or is she going because it does mean something to her? Are her parents still around? Is that where the tradition started? Find out "why" she goes, and I mean actually LISTEN.
If she goes because it is only "Tradition" and she doesnt really get anything out of it, then there is no reason why any of you need to go.
If she is going because it is "tradition" and it MEANS something to her, then GO. She is your family too, remember? What better gift can you give her than your Love, consideration and respect for HER feelings.
After all, THAT is what Christmas is really all about.
2007-12-18 09:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by pammypanda1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor your wife's tradition with good humour and grace. She doesn't make you go the other 52 weeks of the year. It would not be Christmas without the Christian religion that began with the birth of Christ, so even a token attendance acknowledges the true meaning of the season. Why not go as a whole family? Which, by the way, is REALLY the point.
2007-12-18 09:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by CYP450 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why don't you look for a church family to join and attend worship all year. Then it won't be such a burden on Christmas. You may have been exposed to traditional church services. Try a contemporary praise service to see if the modern music and context suits you better. Good luck.
2007-12-18 09:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel, perhaps you can think of a new tradition to replace it, one that would keep the family at home? Maybe buy a board game of some sort and wrap it and open it on Christmas eve and play it with the family????
2007-12-18 09:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mariah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you'd rather not go, this gives her the option of agreeing to stay at home.
However..
If she is determined to go to Church, then tell her you will come - not particularly because you want to but because you love her and want to be supportive with the things she wants to do and you want to spend Christmas night with her! Then make a big effort for the evening, and the next time you want her to do something for you, she may be more likely to make the effort herself :o)
2007-12-18 09:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Powerhous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you comprimise? It's not like she makes you go every week. she's only asking you to go one night out of the year. Spend christmas eve at home with the family instead. Anyway, once everyone's opened the presents and had dinner, christmas is over. Get her to make a deal with you, she'll have to do something nice for you in return.
2007-12-18 09:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by Emily Rugburn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just explain to her you feel the importance of spending time with the family outweighs your yurning to go to church. Offer up an alternative like reading passages from the Bible that are Christmas related. Or you could do some other form of tradition like making cookies or caroling. Something could replace the form of traditional worship while not cutting out the real meaning.
2007-12-18 09:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by caligurl1382 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Christmas is about the birth of Jesus. Not about presents or anything like that. It shouldn't be a big deal if she wants the family to go to church for an hour on Christmas Eve.
Support her in it and go with her. You both will be happier for it.
2007-12-18 09:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Why don't you try saying to her what you've just written? If she's going out of tradition and not because church means anything, then you're right -- she'd do better to stay with her family on that night.
But if she insists, you should respect that.
2007-12-18 09:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Lemmee get this straight.
She says it's an important tradition for her, and you want to talk her out of it?
All she asks in terms of religion is ONE ceremony a year, and you want to talk her out of it? You get your own way 364 days a year -- you can't put up with ONE night of going to church when everybody is on their best behavior and the music is pretty and it's a nice, happy occasion without the least likelihood of anybody saying anything about you going to hell?
Nice.
My suggestion is that until you grow up, you learn to suck it up. Put on your suit and tie, shut your mouth and open your heart to your WIFE's desire and just go.
2007-12-18 09:19:34 · answer #11 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋