Searching for marriage records in Ireland?

Question

I want to make my widowed Mum a personalised gift for Christmas but I don't know how to search online for the date of her marriage - and I can't ask her as I would give the game away, so please if anyone can help by giving me some pointers it would be very much appreciated.

My parents were married in Ireland.

Thanks in advance
Cozy xx

Hi Shirley B - they were married in Cahir, Co. Tipperary Rep of Ireland, circa 1955, if you can help it is much appreciated. Thanks x

Answer 1

At lot will depend on when they got married. Most civil records were destroyed in a fire and there was no backup. Try here;
http://www.ancestry.co.uk/

They are offering a 14 day free trial so give it a go. You could try the Morman family history centre if you have one in your home town.

Answer 2

You probaby have some idea how long your Mum is married, and when her anniversary falls due. The big thing is where. Can any family members or long-time family friends help?

Most but not all brides marry in their own home town parish church, and records there can be viewed (you will need to get permission from the parish priest or vicar). Census records are not made public for 100 years for privacy reasons, as the people named therein might still be alive.

from http://www.ballybegvillage.com/civil_census_records.html
Birth, Death and Marriage in Ireland

Marriage Records: As Catholic marriages almost always took place in a Catholic Church, the Church at which the marriage took place is recorded on the marriage register. Here you will also find the date, names of bride and groom, their ages, their marital status (single or widowed), occupation, place of residence, names of fathers, occupations of fathers, witnesses, priest's name. Quite a lot of information from one small entry in a book. If this is the first record you come across, you will now know mother's age, therefore her year of birth. Find her birth certificate and discover her mother's maiden name. Soon you'll be jumping from book to book, crosschecking, confirming, and making great discoveries. You might also make a mistake or two, but don't worry. Everyone makes mistakes!

In some counties, separate books must be consulted if researching Protestant marriages. These separate books are usually kept at the Registrar's office.

Answer 3

If your spouse says "I have fallen out of love with you" don't panic. It doesn't mean your marriage is over. It doesn't even mean they don't love you. How to get your spouse to love you again https://tr.im/r0JAw

What it does mean is that your spouse has lost their way, or doesn't understand the many stages love and a relationship goes through.

You are being called to take charge of the situation, guide your spouse towards understanding this process, and even begin to rekindle your relationship.

The key to success is in understanding what is happening in your marriage and the role that love plays. It's very easy for us to connect losing the feelings of being in love with actual loving when it is not really the case.

Answer 4

Dear Cozy. I might be able to help if you knew where she was married, North or south Ireland and nearest town if you know. SB

Answer 5

If you know where and approximately when (try asking other relatives) then you can contact the church or registry office directly.