I am having problems with a certain sin, can someone please help me?

Question

I am having a problem with my homosexuality again, does anyone have any advice? I am feeling pretty low right now, so encouragement would be very much appreciated. Ever since I have become a Christian, I have been attacked harder by temptation it seems.

I know that God wants me to be more than that, but I just keep slipping up, big time!

Answer 1

Sin is an outdated concept. Don't base your life on a cherry picked subset of 2000 year old lists of obsolete rules.

If you're happy being with someone, and that person is happy to be with you, there's no problem. Stop stressing about it.

Answer 2

Im sorry I cannot encourage you to be someone you are not. Many people are told by christians that you have a choice to be a homosexual. YOU dont it is the way you were made before you were born. the only choice you have is not to act on it. Not many christians can keep away from sex... some getting married at 18 so they can remain virgins till they are married then live a life of misery because they picked the wrong man or woman. They are asking you never to live the life that is normal for you. I find that hypocritical. Find a church that accepts you for who you are. Unfortunately I dont not believe in a god that is so cruel but that is my choice. My main advice is too do no harm.. do unto others as you would unto yourself..Find a church that loves you for who you are...

Answer 3

Everytime you sin, repent and ask God to help you resist. You may need deliverance (have a demon cast out of you). Do you know someone that can do this for you? I know that I was having problems in an area, and after having a demon cast out the problem immediately left (I had not more temptations or problems). I am praying for you.

Answer 4

I like the advice someone else gave here: focus your mind on positive, constructive things, like God and family and even career. Christians do not hate homosexuals (or they shouldn't, anyway), so don't hate yourself and don't let yourself get down. Ultimately, in Christian theology, we are all sinners, whether we're gay or we're axe murderers or we are disrespectful toward our parents. Often, we are born with these proclivities, and there's nothing we can do about them but to choose whether to act on them or not. In terms of our sexualities, there are many Christians who are able to lead productive, deeply spiritual lives without sex. Of course you already know this, but sometimes it helps to hear it from someone else. Your faith can get you through ANYTHING, even the anger directed at you on this site.

Answer 5

I consider myself a christian. I think that I have a strong relationship with God and there are not too many things (religiously) that I have concerns about. My major rift with Christianity is the area surrounding homosexuality. I cannot believe that this loving God who has nothing but love and concern for all of us, has an issue with homosexuality. I believe that we have misinterpreted things in this area and that God would say that you aren't doing anything wrong.

Answer 6

please, do not listen to all these other people! just know that God will get you thru this! do not stop praying. He WILL answer your prayers, just dont cave into temtation. that is exactly what the evil one wants. you have been being attacked more and more because satan knows what a great leader you'll be in Christianity, and he does't want you on God's side! dont think im a loony or fool, but the Lord put it in my heart to tell you that, ok? Remember what Jesus did for YOU and you'll realize that what you've been put up to seems like an easy task, compared.

Answer 7

Are you attending a Spirit-filled church? If not, you need to find one. Matt 18:20 says "For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them." Through fellowship with other believers, continuous prayer and reading God's Word, God will help you kick your problem.

Accountability is also key. You need to find a Christian who you can trust, and ask them to pray for and with you through this difficult time. God never said that when you came to Him that it would be smooth sailing. He said "13"Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it." (Matt 17:13-14) It may not be easy, but it will sure be rewarding in the end.

Answer 8

Oh for Pete's sake! Homosexuality is not a sin! It's who you are! And it's not just gonna quietly slip away.

What are you gonna do? Lie to yourself about it being a "sin" and hoping it will "stop"? But then again, since you lack intelligence and converted to a Christian anyway, self-deception is probably the road you'll go down.

JonJon, if I were on Level 2, I'd thumb you up.

Answer 9

It's not unusal to be attacked when you become a Christian. Satan does not want to lose you.

Turn everything over to God. Everything. Offer it up, every time it hits you, remember you are redeemed by the sacrifice of Christ. His suffering was more than we can ever imagine. He understands your suffering and is with you. Turn to him and he will be there.

Also, here are a couple of sites you can read that are helpful and supportive. http://exodus.to/component/option,com_frontpage/Itemid,1/
http://couragerc.net/index.htm

Answer 10

A person who has a drug or alcohol related temptation problem is in the same boat.

You must flee the opportunities that sin affords you, and you must resist the temptations that satan throws your way.

Remember to put on the full armour of God that you may be able to withstand in the day of battle.

Pray, read the Word, and humble yourself before God.

Also, remember that you have been (already) crucified with Christ, so you must "reckon yourself dead, indeed, unto sin, but alive unto God."

Finally, the blood of the Lamb not only cleanses us from sin, but sanctifies and sets us apart, so take a spiritual cleansing.

And renew your mind. Whatever is true, whatever is lovely, whatever is noble, whatever is pure, if it is praiseworthy, (et cetera) think on these things.

God bless you as you draw your strength from Jesus and learn to overcome in His Great Name.

Additional comment:
Those who tell you to just give in because God doesn't care - they are creating their own religion and they serve an idol that they built up in the vain imagination of their own wicked hearts, rather serving God, who tells us what is right and wrong. Don't listen to the lies of satan. Read Romans chapter 1.

Answer 11

I pity you. Seriously. If you're gay, you're gay. You can believe what pseudo-"religious" nutcases tell you about it, but I guarantee, you'll be miserable your entire life. No "God" would deny you for being as He made you.

Look at all the people being thumbed down for telling you that you should accept who you are! It's sickening. These people who pretend to be "religious" would rather have you live a life of self-denial and self-hatred, because in their gross ignorance and bigotry, they imagine they'd be more comfortable that way. I hope you will eventually see that THEY are the ones who are wrong, and they do NOT speak for God.

I love how they just can't resist comparing homosexuality to alcoholism or even rape. You know what? I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, in a committed, monogamous relationship, and we love each other, and there is NOTHING "wrong" or "evil" or "sinful" about that. And if a few deluded, intolerant, hate-mongering bigots have a problem with it, I dismiss them with the contempt they deserve, and leave them to obsess over somebody else's sex life.

PS - There ARE churches that will accept you for who you are, with love and tolerance and understanding. You don't have to torture yourself with the bad company you've been keeping. I hope you find such a community - that's what will REALLY help you out.

And by the way, I'll wear my thumbs down here as a badge of honor, considering some of the other answers.