One time I got a small soap and shampoo in a packaged basket worth about $2 the most. To me I felt greatly offended. I even heard one of the people in the background say: "I need to take a shower."
Ok. I take no offense, but if gift giving comes from the heart, which I believe it does regardless if a person smells or not, would YOU give a gift like this to someone and then people snicker and make fun of.
Example: Let's say Jane had bad teeth, and I'm talking need braces or straightening, and I gave her a toothbrush and toothpaste as a gift, wouldn't that be demeaning and sad to her???
I think it would.
2007-12-18 08:43:13 · 9 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
whenever i give (and that's all year long), it is always from the heart.
2007-12-18 14:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by benejueves 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think they gift the soap and shampoo becoz you smell? I think that you are getting defensive, takeing it too sensitively and personally, and jumping to some conclusions here that might not be true at all! Look around any store....there are gifts of bathroom products (shapoos, soaps etc) packaged for gift-giving everywhere. Why do you have to take it personally? Why get so sensitive about someone making a joke on that gift? Let them! People like to make jokes. Take it light and laugh. But appreciate the gift.
I do believe gifts come from the heart - atleast I give from the heart. And isn't giving something better than nothing? This person who gave you that, could have simply not given u anything! But he ir she did. And that is telling.
I sincerely think you need to stop looking at the Value of gifts and start appreciating that you were given something.
And no one gifts anyone a toothpaste and toothbrush. Unless it is a special kind that maybe the person has been wanting for ages....there r always exceptions to everything! Sometimes, people who r real close to each other and gift each other very normal day to day items! It's the thought that counts. Stop being offended.
2007-12-18 17:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in this case based on the background comment, this was no gift, but merely someone trying to tell you something you just might need to hear. Be honest, and don't get offended... a lot of people do have issues with body odor and they have no idea. It could've been handled a lot better and more respectfully.
A lot of the gift baskets sold in both upscale and discount stores are ones with fancy soaps, perfumes and other health and beauty aids. They're sold as spa packages. Either way such a gift is only appropriate for people you are closest to. Way too personal for a casual gift.
Believe it or not, one of the trendiest gifts this year? paying for someone else's implants, other cosmetic surgery or Botox treatments? I consider that tacky as hell, but apparently they're selling big time...and some really appreciate it. So who knows what "Jane" might think? Each to their own.
2007-12-18 16:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well even if its a gift exchange, I always try to buy the best. If its a gift exchange of a $20 budget, I try to get the best I can find. We do know that in many stores they sell gift baskets with soaps, lotions, etc. Those people that made that comment obviously are ignorant.
2007-12-18 16:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by easter_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm torn!
i see good and bad points!
for one it's a nice way to say something to Jane instead of saying you need better teeth!
but it's also something you need - every 3 months you should have a new one!
so if you take the soap we all need it!
but with all that aside
it hurts when others do that crap!
when i was in school the class bought me a bone! yeah a bone! they use to bark at me! Now i could understand if i looked or acted like a dog! it was because my last name had BARK in it and i wasn't popular (by choice) could of been if i worked at it! but i really didn't care!
reguardless it still hurt!
in general gifts do come from the heart - but not everyone cares!
2007-12-18 16:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all gifts come from the heart, but it is true, "It's the thought that counts." And you can tell, when that inexpensive gift is from someone who thought highly of you and wanted to offer something, even though they had limited means, or if it's from someone just going through the motions because they felt they "had to," or if it's someone trying to make a different statement entirely. Sorry to hear that this happened to you! =( I hope your holiday season gets brighter.
2007-12-18 16:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by JenV 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people DO give gifts from the heart, the people you're talking about obviously give from some other orifice.
2007-12-18 16:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No some people use it as a joke
2007-12-18 16:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i really don't like those gag gift type gifts.
2007-12-18 16:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by GOLDENFAIRY 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋