falling for him....AGAIN?

Question

me and my boyfriend went out twice and i dumped him both times because i thought he was too shy.

its been like a month and we talk a little bit but not really that much more. everytime i look at him it goes back to really nice memories but i think he has moved on.

everytime i think about him, i always smile and think of things we could have done if we stayed together longer

what should i do???

i miss him but he has i think moved on =[

i wanna move on but i cant

should i tell him anything

should i text him telling him how i feel

ANY IDEA OF WHAT I SHOULD DO

ANYTHING

or should i call him

see like we went on a field trip to school the other day and he fainted. after all that i asked if he was ok and idk there was a moment where you look at somebody you like and they are looking back and on the bus i would look over and he was looking at me and i checked my makeup mirror and my face looked fine so was he thinking about me? or am i really just in over my head

i also feel this guilt whenn i am going out with someone that i dont deserve them
is that normal?

Answer 1

this is a tough one

there's a difference between wanting him back and just looking back with fondness at a past relationship

don't break his hear again for nothing... be sure

Answer 2

I suppose it is a good thing that you realized, even at this late date, that somewhat shy guys can be really terrific companions. The longer you know them, and the more time you give them to feel comfortable, the more they show that they are worth 1,000 of the self-assured, shallow ones. But, I hope for his sake that he has moved on! Because to do that to a person TWICE has really got to be painful for him, and he really doesn't deserve that treatment, honestly! And I really have to wonder, if you did go out with him again, whether you would actually give him fair treatment, or whether you would give him the heave-ho a third time. I suppose you could try seeing if he will give you another chance - but you would really need to lay it all on the line, and tell him honestly that you know you don't deserve another chance, but that you realize that you were very wrong, and he is a genuinely worthwhile person, and if he could see it in his heart to forgive you, you realize what you were missing, and you miss him. But if he responds well to that, and does give you another chance, you'd better be patient and not be so dump-happy - you'd better be sure that you really and truly want to be with him, otherwise that would be too cruel for words!

Whatever you do, if you DO decide to follow my suggestion, DO NOT NOT NOT text it! If you are giving someone a heartfelt apology, it HAS to be in person, otherwise it carries no credibility whatsoever, IMO.

Answer 3

just tell him that you are sorry for dumping him and ask him if he wants to go to the movies sometime i mean it couldn't hurt. and if he is dating some one else then god will find you the right guy just wait

Answer 4

obviously if you broke up with him twice it won't work out again. you are just missing being with SOMEONE. move on as well and try to meet someone new!