My father-in-law wants to borrow my subcompact car so he can take a 1500 mile "joyride" over Christmas. He says he can't afford the gas if he takes his minivan. He's going by himself, and there are two other cars in his household he could possibly use, but he's having marriage problems and probably doesn't want to start a big fuss.
Anyway, I don't feel good about this amount of miles being put on my car, and I just don't feel comfortable about it in general. The answer is "no", but I'd like to know a good way to say this.
2007-12-18 08:36:52 · 18 answers · asked by It's the hair 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Simple, NO.
Check with your insurance and see if your father would be covered if he was driving it. I expect not. Then you can use that as the excuse. No, my car insurance would not cover you as a driver.
If his or yours would cover him - then just say no I am not comfortable with lending my car to anyone - even my father in law - unless it is an emergency situation.
2007-12-18 08:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you not say that you have a couple of things planned over the holidays and really need the car yourself?
Alternatively how many miles per year did you say you travelled when you took out your insurance? If that would take it over those miles then it would cost you a lot more come renewal time......
2007-12-18 16:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him there is no polite way to say no...and tell him (to use your own words):I don't feel good about this amount of miles being put on my car, and I just don't feel comfortable about it in general. The answer is "no", but I'd like to know a good way to say this.
2007-12-18 16:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by Boddah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably never find the right words to say no without hurt feelings, maybe say your insurance won't cover if you let someone take the car for an extended period of time/out of state?? Can you help him paying for a rental, maybe you can cover half the cost of renting a small car for a Christmas present??
2007-12-18 18:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Chelle Mary 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him you need your car, does he actually expect you to be without a car for all of that time when he has two other cars to at his disposal? What a tool! What does your husband say about this? He would know best how to handle his parents and should know that his dad is putting you in such a bad spot.
2007-12-18 17:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "I really don't feel comfortable lending you my car... not because I don't trust you, but just because its such a long trip. I wouldn't mind so much if it wasn't 15 hundred miles."
He could always rent a car that gets better gas mileage. If you really want to help him out even though you aren't letting him barrow your car you could offer to help pay for the rental.
2007-12-18 16:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by Katy I 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Simply say that you have a low priced autoplan that does not cover additional drivers, and therefore you cannot legally risk lending him the care.
Or simply say: I'm sorry, but I am not comfortable with that much wear and tear being put on my car.
2007-12-18 16:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Susie D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him that you don't loan your car to anyone. I never let anyone take my car, and you shouldn't feel obligated to let him either, especially if there are other cars in his family he could take.
So it would start a big fuss if he took another car in his household? That's his problem!
2007-12-19 07:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not impolite to say that you simply do not feel comfortable with that. I learned my lesson the hard way to NEVER loan my car to anyone. Would you be prepared to deal with the aftermath if he has an accident- you would be held legally responsible.
2007-12-18 17:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just say no.
if he asks why, say no and leave.
You do not need an answer.
his problems would become yours if you get involved.
say no.
The car is in your name, and be held responcible for his actions.
Hard to do if heis a "manipulator" and thus NO works all the time.
2007-12-19 03:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋