for anyone who has usefull input. my son is six. he was diagnosed with adhd when he was 3. after several trips to the e.r. we realized he does not have the enzyme to breakdown medication, so he takes nothing. we have had continuous problems with daycare, and now school. he is in kindergarden and testing out on a second grade level, but they cannot controle him at school. he is in constant trouble. yesterday he got suspended from school. my new concern is that hi eyes are constantly dialated. i never thought anything about it before, because they have always done this, until another person brought it to my attention. now he is complaining about headachs. everyones first reaction is 'its medication" but he takes no medication, none at all. can anyone help me with any of my problems?
2007-12-18 08:35:38 · 17 answers · asked by pb_patches 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You need to take him to a children's hospital that specializes in adhd problems. I don't know if Children's Hospital in Dallas still has a unit, but they saved us from a lifetime of misery.
Get him tested up one side and down the other, physically and psychologically, and either find a med he can metabolize, put it in shot form, whatever. You guys can't go through this much longer. Dialated eyes--that's another symptom that shouldn't be allowed to continue.
Your son is getting a really bad experience out of school, and if you're not careful, he's going to quit school and never come back. You want him to be successful in school, not constantly failing.
I'd have a neurologist look at him (dialated eyes), and I'd have a psychiatrist look at him, to make sure he's diagnosed properly and work on that enzyme problem.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I almost had a nervous breakdown with mine. He was diagnosed PDD, ADD and bipolar. We finally found the meds that work (try carbatrol) and he's under control, though his behavior is not what we would like to see.
TX Mom
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2007-12-18 11:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how the hell was he diagnosed at 3 years years old with adhd that is too young to know whether or not he has adhd all 3 year olds are hyper. Second of all i think you should take him to an eyedoctor about the eyes. 3 rd of all something sound suspicious (well suspicious may be the wrong word) here it sounds like he may actually have something else that is causing all of these symtoms including the ADHD and the enzyme thing. i will get back to after doing some reaserch.
2007-12-18 08:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by LDawnZ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your son's pediatrician refer you to an opthamologist. An opthamologist is a specialist that deals with the eyes in more detail than an optometrist. The opthamologist can give you a better idea as to why your son's eyes are dialated even though he's not medicated. And if surgery is necessary, the opthamologist can perform it or recommend someone who can.
As for the behavioral problems, part of it may be because of the headaches. Deal with the eyes first and then you can deal with the behavior by trying to teach him how to focus his energy in a more positive way.
2007-12-18 08:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Rubette73 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son needs to see a doctor about his headaches and pupil dialation. Don't rely on the answers you might receive on here to deal with that.
As far as his schooling issues, have you tried therapy combined with homeschooling? The homeschool teacher (could be you or a hired tutor) can plan lessons that help to teach him coping skills for the ADHD and is one on one so his behaviors can be properly dealt with. Since he was suspended due to his ADHD behaviors (get a doctor to say that his behaviors were a result of ADHD) you might be able to get some help paying for a tutor (even if that tutor is you).
2007-12-18 08:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs behavior modification therapy with a psychologist. You should also get his eyes examined to rule out eye sight issues. If he can not see properly, he may be getting frustrated and acting out. Limit all processed foods from his diet. I am doing this with my 11 year old and we may be going to gluten/wheat free if needed. In some ADHD children a diet soda has the same stimulating effects as medication. As a parent with an ADHD child, I know how frustrating it can be and how it feels to want to do all you can for your child.
2007-12-18 09:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under the guidelines that child psychologists are required to follow, they are not supposed to diagnose ADHD until the age of 6. Your child can probably be treated with a strict diet that excludes all processed sugar and whole wheat products. There are many books on teh subject.
That aside, your child's dilated eyes could be nothing but could be a sign of retinoblastoma. Please go to a doctor/ophthalmologist to have him checked out.
2007-12-18 09:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by Allison P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his doctor and see if the school can help you come up with some kind of behavioral treatment plan. Being smart will do him no good if he is too out of control to be taught. Its also not fair to the kids who do behave, they are losing out on valuable teaching time, when the teacher has to spend that much time on just one kid.
2007-12-18 08:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his eyes are dilated? get him to a doctor immediately he may have some kind of neurological issue and you need to make sure he's ok
only reason i say that is bec. his eyes are constantly dilated
better safe than sorry
just wanna tell you somethin that if he knows he has adhd he's a lot worse off try to "cure" him with placebo's and patience i find that most adhd cases either have a prob focusing or have moronic doctors
2007-12-18 08:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by truthb4dlie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you tried changing his diet? don't let him eat things made with any kind of flour or with dairy. it's called gluten free and casein free diet. it can help with his behavior. go to the library or a book store and see if they have books on what he can eat and can't eat. some kids with ADHD or autism literally are addicted to wheat and milk and they act like drugs. if it is going to help, you should notice a difference in a week, but it might take as much as 6 months for the full affect. since he can't metabolize meds, this is probably true with certain foods also.
2007-12-18 08:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please have him see a licensed clinical social worker. One of my professors is one and said he successfully treated many kids with ADD and ADHD by treating the child and family in therapy. Those medications are very dangerous for children, their delicate brains are still developing every day so if there is a non-medication method that will work - I highly recommend it.
2007-12-18 08:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋