So, I'm a lesbian now?

Question

I get the feeling that my family, assumes that I'm a lesbian or something or I can't have anyone;male. Ok, I will admit that I had some bad realationships with guys, but who hasn't? I haven't had a lot of boyfriends in high school; it's not that I'm ugly or anything. I'm a very beautiful young lady and I'm very attracting. There has been a lot of guys who have approached me, but I'm give them the cold shoulder and pass them up. I'm just chilling until, the right one comes along, but don't get me wrong; I'm lonely as hell. I ask God everyday, " When will I meet him and how?"; I'm just that desperate. I just want everyone to stop assuming that I will never have anyone and become a loner who sits at home all day and nags. I can't even imagine myself like that 5,10, or 15 years from now. How can I get this theory out of people's heads and prove to them that I am going to have a boyfriend and he's going to be worth it?

Answer 1

do what you want. i do. who cares what people think of you? if you worry about that, you'll never get anywhere in life.

Answer 2

Just because you're not rushing into a relationship with every guy you meet doesn't make you a lesbian and your family should be proud of the fact that you're waiting for the right guy, have you ever expressed that to them? Maybe they think that because you've had such bad relationships and you haven't dated anyone for a while that you've give up men period which a lot of women are doing, but just make it clear to them what you're doing. But bottom line is it's your life and you should live it however you see fit, you shouldn't lower your standards for anyone (unless they are impossible to live by, like you'll only date someone who's 6'3 or only date someone of the same race, you could be passing up people who you could have a real connection to).
But don't look, the person will come to you. I was single for three years before I found the right person. I started a new job and started chatting up with a cute guy who worked there, we hit it off immediately and became best friends for almost a year before we dated. We've been dating for over two years now and still going strong. If it's meant for you, it'll come to you. Even though that doesn't mean you shouldn't be in the right situations to meet people, takes up social interests that you have so you can meet other people with like interests (like charitys, church events, cooking classes, etc)
Good luck! ;D

Answer 3

You can't change the way people think. Even when you try they just roll their eyes and think to themselves, yeah right. So really all that matters is how you feel about yourself. I too felt as you did. Thinking I would never find him, the one. Sweetie, I found him and never let go. You too will find him and it always seems to happen when and where you least expect it. When your looking hard it seems hopeless. So just relax and have fun. When a guy walks up, don't give him the cold shoulder. Give him a chance. For all you know he could end up being one of your best buds. So never mind what others think. You're young and beautiful so live it up. Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 4

how do you know you haven't already met Mr. right? if a guy approaches you don't be a ***** about it, give them a chance. and I'm telling you, DO NOT pass them up because they are not the most attractive person. the guy I am in love with I never would of thought would happen. I thought he was the complete opposite of me when I met him but I gave him a chance and it turns out we have so much in common and I am VERY attracted to him now. you can't just chill and wait for Mr. right to walk up to you. especially if you feel as lonely as you do. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. don't sit on your *** all day waiting for some fairy tail to happen. you have to make it happen.

I'm positive you can do it. sure you will probably fail a few times but thats completely normal. make it happen for yourself. =)

Answer 5

i am the same way. all my friends have boyfriends, and there i am without and single. a lot of guys have asked me out, but i turn them down - a) becasue i don't think of them like that b) i don't want a boyfriend right then and there c) i don't know/like them at all
i guess people feel like i can't get a guy, but i force them to see that i don't want a guy - or atleast any that i know. Sooner or later they'll just have to understand that you are one of the smarter people eho don't weant to waste your time eith someone when you could be single, waiting for the right one to come along.
and i'm guessing that not having a boyfriend doen't make you a lesbian.
:-)

Answer 6

Hang in there. I was the same way when I was younger. I dreaded family gatherings at the holidays because it was inevitable - someone was going to ask, "So, are you dating anyone?" Then they would be uncomfortable and I would sigh and tell them no.

But I was like you. I was just waiting for a good one to come along and guess what? He did.

Keep your standards high. Don't fold just because others think you should.

Answer 7

dont worry about proving it, keep sticking to your guns and waiting for a good guy! You know what you want and when they see you w/ that great guy they will know you are not a lesbian and you found someone worth the wait. Maybe it will imspire others to stop dating every "Tom, Dick & Harry" just to pass the time.

Answer 8

Just because your not throwing yourself out toe very guy defiantly does not mean you are a lesbian. Good for you for being strong enough to wait for the right man. Many women don't and they get labeled as a 'slut' for dating around to much. The right guy will come around when you least expect it.

Answer 9

You won't meet the Prince unless you check out the frogs along the way....

Rarely does anyone have the man of their dreams fall out of the trees, you have to search and develop relationships.
Passing things by, because they aren't perfect is spinning your wheels....