Im 14 and my parents wont let me go out. And i refuse to go behind their backs;;coz i like being trusted n i cant go out until in 18 or so
Im a boffin :P [ straight A student for those who dont know what a boffin is]
Im mature and poised [ so i have been told] and i woulndt dream of sex untill after im married
Recently my unrequited love turned out not to be unrequited and i have been asked to go out but my parents wont let me
Any ways of convincing them to let me go out?
ma parents both know all the guys i mix with really well
when i say i cant go out, i mean i cant date
2007-12-18 08:29:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are still very young my dear! Its not that your parents doesnt trust you, but i think your parents doesnt trust the people around you. And i think its normal nowadays, considering street crimes happen everywhere almost every minute. I am a boy and i live here in the philippines and my parents is as strict as yours before and i really get upset when they wont allow me to go out even with group date when i was 15. Now im 27 and just a few years back that ive realized how lucky i am for having a parents like them. You might not understand what i mean right now just like how i dont understand my parents before. If you really wanna go out with this guy, ask him to ask your parents about it. Its very hard if the guy is 14 also but take your chances. Your parents might give you a chance if you and your boyfriend asks your parents at the same time. For plan B in case plan A wont work, ask some of your friends that your parents know personally to ask your parents for sleep over to their place. If you are lucky, then its your chance to go out and date. Just plan carefully with your friends every action you are going to do so its not going to mess at all. But if going to date is not your priority right now, better not to go. Anyway when you turn 18, you can always spread your wings and fly freely.
2007-12-18 08:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by jazzpherboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Group date.
Go out with a BUNCH of friends, but all of them on a date with someone else. Tell your parents up front that while it is a date, it's a group date, and there's no way you're going to be alone with anyone, with so many people around.
Heck, have your parents be the drivers and drop people off on the date (kindof not fun, BUT if it get's you out on the date, then it's worth it).
Or, just get a group of friends together and make sure he's one of them. That way you can have unofficial dates.
Good luck!
2007-12-18 16:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by smlingrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're parents have a comfort zone that you have to work within. They don't want you to find yourself in a position that you can't get out of. Even good kids do stupid things, or get caught up in a bad situation not of their creation.
Ask them if you can invite you're friend along on a fun date - like playing minature golf, roller skating, etc. You can have some alone time, with your parents only a shout away.
Eventually, you'll have to leave the nest, then you will be 100% responsible for your own welfare - but by then, you'll be old enough, strong enough, smart enough, to take care of yourself.
2007-12-18 16:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Prophet 1102 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 year old son who keeps bugging me the same way about dating. Look... you're 14! Don't forget that part of the equation. Dating is for the benefit of falling in love and finding that special someone in your life. At 14, you're certainly not ready for that. Just enjoy hanging with your friends and have friends that are guys. Wait on the dating part of it. Your parents will see when you are ready.
2007-12-18 16:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get guys the parents like to call at a pre-arranged time, and be absent or in the shower or something. Have them say, "Mr. [insert name], hi. I've only got a second, but I'm going [insert location] with some friends and I want [your name] to come. Is she available?"
If they say they don't know, have the guy show up to pick you up, and do the routine again. (It would help if there's other people in the car...like HIS parents).
I'm sure you can work it out from here, but write me if you've got further questions.
2007-12-18 16:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah - I would just keep it to group outings then. Your parents have their reasons, and it may not necessarily mean that they are not trusting you, but there are other factors out there that are out of your control.
Not many people I know now or when I was 14 was allowed to "date" at that age.
Kudos to you for being so intelligent and mature!!
2007-12-18 16:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by IJToomer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them about how honest you are being! they'll really appreciate that! let them know that you really appreciate their trust, and that your at an age now when you can go out with your friends. Tell them the guy you like and maybe even offer to introduce him? they might like it if they meet him ahead of time and then let you go out....o and you should also go out with a big group of people instead of just the one guy....good luck! it's hard with my parents too....i guess they dont want to believe their kids grow up!
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and yes i love man utd! u?
2007-12-18 17:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by *Fluorescent Adolescent* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents, they know best! Parents have the experience of life to draw from, unlike the children who give advise on here! You really are too young to be dating.
2007-12-18 16:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them you respect theyre decision and be patient. or that you think you deserve a reward for keeping good grades and stuff like that
2007-12-18 16:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by vampire_princess_of_the_realms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋