Once he cheats (and there is no doubt about it), the relationship is over. When trust is gone, I absolutely cannot bring myself to stay in that relationship, even if he swears it will never happen again. I just cannot believe him ever again. Anyone else feel the same way? Is this unrealistic?
2007-12-18 08:27:16 · 11 answers · asked by Peachy Keen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you are right. You have character, and are refusing to be used like a doormat.
And you are also right to not believe the "Swearing not to do it again" baloney. I can pretty much gurantee you that if they cheat once, they will cheat again. I have seen this over and over and over.
There are plenty of men out there of character, like me, who won't.
Take care and good luck.
2007-12-18 08:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by madcat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex boyfriend cheated on me and i would never take him. Once a cheater always a cheater in my book. If you cant trust him then end it you dont to be in a realtionship where you cant trust the guy.. you did the right thing an no it is not unrealistic for you to feel that way. good for you.
2007-12-18 16:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by rosebunnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your decision not to take the man back is not unrealistic. It is very realistic. However, I will not agree with the statement that "once a cheater, always a cheater." If the person is sincere in their heart about changing and have totally changed their lives (i.e. given there life to Christ), then they can change. I have seen this change in my friends' relationship. But no sweethart, you are not being unrealistic not wanting to take him back.
2007-12-18 16:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by hartbreaker00003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i do the same thing. once a cheater always a cheater!! i tried to work it out w/ a guy who cheated on me and it just went worse. so its ok, guys will know that u want serious relationships
2007-12-18 16:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by miss curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO I feel you. If a man does not love and respect you enough to be honest and faithful then he doesn't deserve you. I wish a lot more women valued themselves and decide not to put up with unfaithful men.
2007-12-18 18:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by babygurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheat always a cheat. i would never take back someone that did that to me and put myself in that position again.
2007-12-18 16:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
peachy keen, Good girl, put that dog out and don"t let him in again ! I was the victem of a repeat cheat cause I kept letting it slide !
2007-12-18 16:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly realistic. I feel the same way. 2D
2007-12-18 16:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by 2D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do good. you're better than most guys should not be given a second chance after they do something so stupid as that
2007-12-18 16:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you go girl. if he didn't want to be with only you, then you shouldn't even give him the time of day.
2007-12-18 16:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋