a choice between three great guys?

Question

i have a choice of liking/going out with three guys - let's call them "bob", "joe", and "ean"

bob is nice, funny, and likes me very much. But, he is unpopular and not really all that attractive. Also, he's a little immature. I'm a little worried what people will say about me going out with him.

joe is very cute, nice, funny, and also likes me veryyy much. He tells me all the time that I'm beautiful. But, he doesn't talk to me alot. Also, he lied to a few people that he saw me naked.

ean is amazingly cute, and has an amazing music taste [the same as me]. He tells me everyday that i have beautiful eyes, and gives me that "giddy" feeling. I realllly feel a connection. The problem is that he has a long-term girlfriend, and i have heard from others that he just uses girls for sex.

opinions??

Answer 1

If Bob, Joe, and Ean are your only choices, then go for Bob.

Joe is a liar. If you went out with him for a while and then things went sour, there is no telling what lies he would tell about you.

Ean is unavailable. If he has a girlfriend, he should not be flirting around with you telling you things like this. If he would flirt around with other girls while having a gf, he would do it to you too if YOU were his GF.

As for Bob, he would probably treat you like a queen. If he is not particularly attractive, he probably will not have near the ego of the amazingly cute Joe and Ean. Bob will most likely treat you with more respect. I know this is a gross generalization, but it is probably true in Bob's case.

If you like Bob, he will become more attractive to you. Don't worry about what other people would think. It is NONE of their business. If YOU like Bob, then that is all that matters.

If you will allow me to contradict myself a little....
If you do not have any physical attraction to Bob because of his looks, then you probably should look for guy #4. Even though it might be considered by some to be vanity, you can't help it if you not attracted to somebody.

Hope it works out for you.

Answer 2

First let me start by saying that looks are not everything when it comes to relationships. Popularity is not all that important either. If we always worry about whether a guy is hot or popular then some of us would be single for life. You cant judge a book by its cover. If joe is going to lie to people about seeing you naked then imagine what else he would lie about. And if Ean has a long term girl friend then he should be out of the question if you know he has a girl friend. It sounds to me like you might just have a winner with bob even though he isnt all that attractive and popular. Every one is a little immature in there own ways. I hope this helps and try not to go by whats on the out side You will find that the most amazing person may not be what you would want him to be on the outside.

Answer 3

This is easy.

--No to Ean. He already has a girlfriend. You don't want to be "that girl." Everyone always wants what they can't have..end of story.

--No to Joe. He's already disrespected you by telling people he saw you in the buff. Who's to say he won't continue ruining your reputation.

--Bob wins! Popularity and attractiveness should always be secondary to how someone treats you (looks fade, honisty and senserity do not). The immaturity thing may be an issue, but it is NOTHING compared to cheaters and liars. If you have to pick one, pick Bob.

One more thing... Never worry about what other people think. They're not living your life. You are. Always strive to make good decisions for yourself and ultimately feed your own happiness. Forget about what others' think of you NOW!!! Do what YOU want to do.

Answer 4

#2 lied and disrespected you
#3 has a long-term girlfriend and a reputation for using girls for sex, which would also make him a cheater if the info is true
#1 Bob...is nice, funny and likes you, but is unpopular and unattractive and you worry what OTHER PEOPLE will think??? Bob sounds like a guy who deserves better than someone who judges him for something he has no control over, and is more concerned what other people think than how well he treats her and cares for her.

You call him immature, but I think YOU need to mature a bit more before making decisions this important

Answer 5

Hi! So I'm reading over your question, and you do seem to have options, but honestly, none of these guys seems good enough for you. I'm guessing you like Ean the best, but you're uncertain about him because of his long-term gf and the sex rumors. If you aren't fully comfortable or confident in choosing any of these guys, then don't. Just stay friend with all of them. Don't ever "settle" for someone you don't like so much just because they're more easily attainable than someone else you REALLY like. Take risks. And if none of these guys makes you truly and fully happy, wait till someone better comes along. Someone better WILL come along, I promise you. In the meantime, enjoy the flirting and the fun. Go out with your girlfriends and meet new people. Whatever you do, try to make decisions you won't regret later. Best of luck, take care, and happy holidays...

Answer 6

if you read you answer the choice should be obvious. Go w/ "Bob". He may be a little immature but that is better than having a boyfriend that lies on you or is just using you for sex when his main girl is not available. Besides if your dating "Bob" then it does not mater what anyone else thinks cause they dont have to deal with him and if that effects their "image" of you then they are not real friends anyway.

Answer 7

My vote is for "Bob". I think one of the most important things in a relationship is the ability to make your significant other laugh.

Also, if you're TRULY worried about what "other people will say" about you going out with him, then my suggestion is that you don't pursue ANY relationship with ANYONE until you figure out that it doesn't matter one hill of beans what anyone else thinks. Are you really going to give that much control over your love life to someone who isn't even involved in it?

Good luck.

Answer 8

Wow.
Well, I would say 'Bob' is your best bet. Don't worry what other people say about you if you truely like that person.

Joe sounds like he would use you.

And Ean sounds like a dick, no offense.
If he thinks your 'beautiful' and you give him that 'giddy' feeling, then he should break up with his girlfriend. And he's probabley just playing you.

So yeah, I would say 'Bob'.

Answer 9

put all 3 of there name's in a hat and draw the name u pick will be the lucky guy.but seriously pick the guy that feels right to your heart,not because he's better looking are because of what people will think ,the guy you like the most.you could also date nobody does this anymore you don't have to rush into anything just date a couple lots of guy and pick the guy that treat u the best.

Answer 10

if u wanna get down(jiggy) go to the 2nd guy, hes the one thats uses girls for sex.
if u want something casual nothing serious, go with the first. he'll be more like a good friend and not a bf
if u want something special and actully want something more than what u c than go with the third. the rumor that u hear is most likely a lie from someone who just sterotypes