2007-12-18 08:11:03 · 9 answers · asked by THE TIGER 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Ok most people here will say..."oh he's just a teenager, or leave him be he'll change as he gets older, or it's normal" - Ok I totally agree that you have to give your teen some space...
HOWEVER there are too many parents that are NOT butting into their kids lives UNTIL it's too late.
You SHOULD know where and what your child is doing at ALL times. You SHOULD know who are your childs friends. You SHOULD look in your childs room and make sure that there's nothing there that shouldn't be...I could care less how old he is...KIDS ARE KIDS and kids mainly get into trouble because of 'other' kids and parents who 'look the other way'. YOU are a parent and if you feel something isn't quite right, then YOU are more than likely correct.
Of course you can't ground him because he wants to go somewhere or do something with someone other than his family. (this truly is normal for teens to want to "experience" all the can. Just get into his life more...ANY way you can possible.
Does he play sports? Go to his practices and games.
I can't stress enough for the children's sake that we parents need to be NOSY about what our kids are doing.
There have been too many kids that have died because the parents didn't stay involved in their lives.
Make yourself involved.
God bless for NOT looking the other way.
Merry Christmas!
2007-12-18 08:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he doing for fun while out? If you can offer some of the same types of fun he's having, you may see him more.
If it's girls or friends, invite his companions over for dinner more often. No kid turns down a good meal! But if he does, it may be you that he's avoiding. Maybe your embarrassing him some how? Lots of possibilities.
Try sitting down w/ him and tell him you would like to have him around more. He may come clean about something you didn't consider. When I was his age, it was party time! You may not be able to compete w/ his version of fun.
Good Luck!
2007-12-18 08:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by slowburn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never allowed to come and go as I pleased. I was only allowed to go out one night per weekend unless there were special circumstances. Now, I do think that was a bit extreme, but I do believe in limits. Kids are going to be upset when you deny them the ability to use your home as a place to sleep, but it shouldn't be about convincing him. It should be about making certain things mandatory. In our house, the rule is that you never miss dinner and you never miss a family function. We also require straight A's for privileges.
2007-12-18 09:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by Allison P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 you still get to make the rules. Tell him to stay home!
2007-12-18 09:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by Itsa Secret 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son is a teenager. He will do as he wants, You cant really convince him to stay home with you guys. It will change as he gets older.
2007-12-18 08:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Boss Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the times that he HAS to be home and then tell him when its okay to go out. Make him understand that family time is required. Don't give him the option to just up and leave when he feels like it all the time.
2007-12-18 11:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's typical behavior for his age. try scheduling a "date" with him. make one Sunday (or other day) out of every month a family day where you do something together for an hour or two. more often if you can. maybe let him choose what you do or what he'd like to eat. involve him in the planning as much as possible.
2007-12-18 08:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to setting rules and disciplining him when he was a child?
2007-12-18 09:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone.
btw if youi look back at his life you may see why he doesn't wanna come back
maybe he resents things about you
if you find em fix em
2007-12-18 08:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by truthb4dlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋