Well all my buddies I dumped my boyfriend! You guys were right I totally confessed my cheating and I feel better. But there is more trouble.My new sex buddy wants me to be slutty.He likes it. But we dont really want to be boyfriend and girlfriend its just sex.I dont mind it. But if we're just sex buddies then why should he care if I'm slutty? He always calls me going "What are you doing" or "Hey sexy whats up" I dont care to talk thats the whole point but he ACTS like my boyfriend. We already discussed I dont want a serious relationship. But why does he call and always want to talk or ask me out? I do like him but I dont want anything serious. Am I being a hoe or a bioch? I'm a total hazard to the relationship world! I just dont want to be in a relationship. Plus why do I have to meet his parents? We're not dating. Should I go out with him or like dump the whole sex thing?
2007-12-18 08:09:36 · 33 answers · asked by tiffinynb93 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get a dildo and a vibrator. They don't talk back.
2007-12-18 08:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'd say this guy wants a regular relationship with you. A lot of committed couples do role-playing (like having the woman act slutty), and the whole meet-the-parents thing is a dead giveaway. If that's not what you want, tell him to back off, or you'll have to go find a new sex buddy (which shouldn't be that hard to do, for a woman). No, you're not being a hoe or a bioch, you're just being honest with yourself and with him.
2007-12-18 15:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by grizzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you want is a sex buddy then you tell him that is all he is to you. Don't go meet the parents. He doesn't sound like he fits the bill for what you are looking for. Find a new one.
I want to add that you are not a whore. Just because you enjoy having sex and want to be able to do so without strings attached is not a big deal. When I spit up from my ex-husband, that was all I was looking for. So I just wanted to tell you not pay attention to everyone that is just calling you names.
2007-12-18 08:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by Heather B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex should not be a fun extra curricular activity. Do not degrade your worth by giving yourself away then you will have no value. Sex is very costly and it could cost you your life are you ready to take that chance? Start valuing yourself and you will get a better choices in mates if you every want kids and if you don't want kids you should not be having sex. Sex=babies and if you are not ready for that responsibility than don't do it and if you do do it don't blame it on the child or puppy you just need to get fixed. Dump the sex thing it's too risky.
2007-12-18 08:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by Vivianna 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you!!!! You know what you want; not many people can say that!!!! the problem is how to get it.
I'd say if it's just sex, dont meet his parents, if you want to go out and hang out that's ok just keep things clear with him. And when he calls asking what are you doin, answer with something funny, not what you are acutally doin, I have a friend that whenever I call her and ask her what she's doin she playing baseball. It is up to you to keep it casual. And if you are not in the mood of seeing him or having sex with with him just dont answer the phone.
2007-12-18 08:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by HEIDY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was young once, and as a child unsure of the complex world I thought that all was expected of me was to have sex to prove my maturity level. At that time aids wasn't as vocal as it is now, but we still had different types of vd's that you would only have to go to the doctor and get the ole cotton swab on a stick and some penicillin pills would clear up. Today if you catch aids/HIV you are closer to death, and the fact that they would rather expose all of the sex offenders and hide all of the affected people is beyond me, but sex 2day is one big crap shoot. You might not be as promiscuous as your sleeping partner but sex is like a addicting drug and all it takes is one time to affect you or your partner. Do you trust your partner with your life? I mean to have sex is cool and to lust is even better, but to trust someone with your life is another story, a story you must ask yourself. They say condoms with nonoxydol nine is gr8 but without the cure are you sure?
I'm not your pops or nothing but I am using your posting to save someone who don't know about the risk. So if you don't fit the profile lets just use our lives as a tool to save.
ps
Statistic show that everyone on this planet know 5 people with HIV and if you dont then they are not telling you. do you think everyone that is infected is running around telling that they have it?
2007-12-18 08:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well my guess is just sit down and tell him its is a sex relationship so yeah he shouldnt expect too much from u ...if he says yes then there it is if not u wouldnt find a trouble finding another, right??
about the slutty matter, i think u r already a slut so whats the question again? i mean if he asks u to be then u r already i mean just go with the flow if its a sex relationshi then the slutty part is pretty necessarry right??
anyways and its my presinal thinking why not be his gf ???at least u found someone who cares about u...i mean the wolrd is living through males crisis..find one stick to him ;)
good lucks ;)
2007-12-18 08:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the boundaries again and let him know that if he can't stick to them (this is about fun sex - not a relationship - no meeting parents, intimacy - like talking etc...) then you will have to break it off.
2007-12-18 08:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is something you should do if you love someone, and he doesn't need to tell you to act slutty, no offense, having sex with a guy and not even calling it a relationship is already pretty slutty. If you like him make it official, if you just want sex, there's a place for that..
2007-12-18 08:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Dump him and cut him off. I think you need to stay away from guys for little while and get things straightened out. He totally wants you to be his gf and figures the more he hangs out with and the more you get into his personal life the more likely he is to get you.....run....run fast......
2007-12-18 08:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to re-explain what sex buddies means to you, it sound to me that he would like to or is interested in being more than just sex buddies
2007-12-18 08:15:01 · answer #11 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋