I just met a really nice man not very long ago at all, he's a cop. He's much older than I am, but very attractive. He seems to be very caring and understanding. We talk as if we've known each other for months. However, he told me that he's falling in love with me! I've been hearing a lot of creepy stories about cops and the women in their lives. Should I be creeped out???
2007-12-18 08:07:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bring him around your friends and family. Then ask them for their honest opinion of him. Others can often see things you can't because their heart isn't in it. Also they have your best interest at heart.
2007-12-18 08:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by acadicon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say go with your gut and quit believing everything you read/hear. Creepiness is not limited to a profession. There are more creepy men in this world that I have encountered than I care to think about. Take the same precautions and approach, don't shalk it up to him being a cop. I do think that at times, some law enforcement officials take advantage of their "power" butthat should be pretty easy to spot (jealousy, limitin your activities, obsessiveness). He may genuinely like/love you and find it hard to meet women with the hours he works. If you don't love him, don't tell him you do, if you need to, tell him he needs to slow down because the relationship is moving too quickly and if he has been in any way inapporpriate or made the hairs on the back of your neck stand up (in a creepy, not sexy way) then get out and cut all contact.
2007-12-18 08:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by seafires1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off I think your logic is flawed. The pressures that may cause couples to divorce from a job are doubled with both on the same job. Understanding what others feel and being able to communicate is not enhanced by doing the same job. My empirical experience is that cops married to other cops on a first marriage appear to have a higher divorce rate than cops marrying normal people. Second marriage seems different, they do stay together. Anyway as far as dating, that depends on the department. Some have no rules, some say not if you are in the same unit. My very large department only has a problem if one of the officers is in a command position over one they are REGULARLY dating or married to. Casual dating means nothing to my department but if you are "steady", living together or married your can work together as long as you are both the same rank, but if one party has supervisory role over the other than they must be in separate units.
2016-03-17 04:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not creeped out but not stupid. He's older and in a few months he's in Love Hummmm !? Ok I don't know you at all and you don't know me. As you know actions speak louder than words. I don't understand the man. Does he just like beinging seen with a younger woman?
Attractive meaning that you'r attracted to him and why?
or is he good looking and thinks that he's good looking and a cop and has authority that he can have any woman he wants by saying that he's falling in Love with you Well okay !
Please try this because ego is a bunch of bunk so ok see him please don't move in with him and maybe really consider going to a movie or out dancing with just another male friend.
I say this to see if he gets authoritive with you, This thing needs to be put to the test. Or will he get you on the guilt factor Like why are you doing this to me I'm in Love with you.
If that's the case you're not or haven't done anything to the man. I think you are your own woman and you know who you are and what you want. You seem educated because of the question that you posted on here.
Are you around alot of different people that laugh and joke and have humor in their lives? If so then you already know it's fun to be around people like that.
the police are around negitive people all day long they have heard alot of things and know alot about investigations.
how would you like it if he wants to know anything and everything you are doing at any given moment every day.
(LOL) I have investigated people at any rate becareful see this man and enjoy going out to dinner however have other dates with other men friends if he calls you for a date and you already have one lined up tell him when you'll be free or available because you have a date tonight and if you don't have a date go out with the girls go to someone's house for dinner. go see you brother or sister or mom.
If he's so much in Love with you then make him work at it. I'm a man I want a lady but what does he really want? take care Dear
2007-12-18 08:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should break up with him
cops are no good.
where there's a cop there is ALWAYS trouble.
I know what I'm talking about.
especially the crazy ones and the power hungary ones.
the crazy ones will look up your file and blackmail you and get jealous (you never know they're crazy because if you did you wouldn't be with them in the first place).
the power hungary ones are the ones who take part in police brutality or do unfair things and get away with them.
cops just have too much power.
they all abuse it somehow some time.
break up with this guy before it's too late.
2007-12-18 08:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cops are individuals, just like the rest of us. There's good ones and bad ones and in-between ones. You are not dating a cop, you are dating a person. How does this person treat you? How does he treat your friends? Is he married, divorced or single? etc. Look at the person, look at the heart.
2007-12-18 08:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by Leopardlady 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dated a vice once he was so creepy plus he was small so he turned me off automatically but anyhow I have 2 friends 1 married to a cop & one dating one we all had the same thing to say their really possesive but if you have good intentions don't sweat the hear say....go for it
2007-12-18 08:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Run. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Run. Run like hell. Run until you outrun this man/cop. Cops are evil incarnate. So run for your life.
2007-12-18 08:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by LadyBug 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are people too, i mean we all heat cops but they can be sensitive, emotional caring, ect. If you like him then go ahead.
2007-12-18 08:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Vitaliy D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be creeped out by anyone who professes love in less than 6 months.
2007-12-18 08:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋