I am in A school right now in Pensacola Florida. I got married in October and my husband just got stationed in

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Oklahoma. We are both Navy (it wasn't A school love, we have been together for four year) He is active and I am full time support or active reserve or whatever you want to call it. Well, today I just found out that there is no way in hell I am going to be stationed anywhere near him for our entire 6 year enlistment. Yay! :::sarcasm sarcasm::: I went and tried to switch to active but that was a no go...so for those of u that are military and married to military and stationed nowhere near your family...how do you deal with it? Right now it feels like someone is asking me to go 6 years without oxygen. I've been trying to think of a way out all day but that isnt really an option, the only way I can figure to do that is get pregnanat and I am pretty sure he would kill me if I did that on purpose. So please give me an idea or help me out with how to handle this. I feel like I'm dying right now.

~Rachel

Answer 1

Best bet, try and time your leaves so you are together. Been there, did that.

Answer 2

Was not well thought out to start-the odds of a full time support Reservist and an active duty person being stationed together is actually fairly remote. Since you are full time reserve support you really aren't going anywhere easily or soon so the question is what is your husbands rating? If it is one that is authorized at the base you are on he could request a transfer there after his tour of duty is over n Oklahoma. If his rating is not authorized there he can try to get stationed near where you are at. Actually little will happen until he is due orders. You time things and go on leave concurrently and meet up; happens in the service and happened to me-first wife was in the Navy, not A School love either, she joined after we had been married for six years, but never was a guarantee that we would be stationed near each other-spent about two years on different coasts and countries and then ended u stationed about forty miles apart and lived in the middle and drove 20 miles each. Gas was a bummer.

Answer 3

Why would you enlist in the reserves, knowing your husband was active duty ?

You had to know, as a full time reservist, you would be serving in the reserve unit, you enlisted in and he would be where ever the navy sent him, and it surely wasn't gonna be on a reserve base.

I just don't understand why you made that decision.

Answer 4

If you are Navy Reserve, go see an Air Force recruiter who may be able to get you a conditional release from the USNR to go active duty USAF. (lot's more USAF opportunities to get to Oklahoma). I went from Army reserve to active USN a thousand years ago and they let me do it at the time.

Answer 5

How exactly does full-time reservist work? It was my understanding that you couldn't do that for more than three years, and that was to be a recruiter or a DI. Anyhow, you can appeal to your congressmen, and explain that you would like to activate and serve your country in a more in-depth capacity. If you go that route, be prepared to have a pissed of command. They can't punish you, but they'll be pissed off.

Answer 6

Hi Rachel,
Good Luck with that. You might talk to the Chaplain and petition for a "hardship" reassignment or release/conditional release.
Relationships are hard enough with even just one person in the Service.

Answer 7

easiest solution is to have HIM be the one to relocate. of course, your ratings have to be compatible and he has to be within an ETS window.

OK means Aviation.. You being in Pensacola means Aviation, or CTx. . If you are Aviation as well, you stand a decent chance of him being able to PCS to where you are.