Last Christmas, I originally just bought my friend a Christmas gift but then her boyfriend bought me a gift just from himself. I felt obligated to go out and get him something in return. What should I do this year? I feel obligated to get him a gift just because he got me one but at the same time, I'm a closer friend to his girlfriend, not him.
2007-12-18 07:44:50 · 16 answers · asked by Thing 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I already gave his girlfriend a gift.
2007-12-18 07:56:31 · update #1
Just get a gift card to someplace he likes. Ask your friend what stores he likes to shop at and get recommendations from her. You can't go wrong with that.
2007-12-18 07:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by _I_love_warm_bananas_ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your boyfriend. The girl cheated, and you don't know them that well. Why do you want to celebrate a cheaters wedding day? Giving a gift is like exchanging for the food you will be fed at the wedding, and to help out the new couple with their new life together. Does this girl deserve you to show her proper etiquite, when she didn't bother to show your friend that herself? You don't have to be like her, but you don't need to mess up your own relationship with your boyfriend because of her. She probably just sent you and invitation to brag about her accomplishment of finding a new guy. I don't really know her, but Ive seen her type before. Just send her a note that you can't make it, and give her well wishes, but let that be enough.
2016-05-24 22:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never feel obligated to buy anyone anything just becuase they buy you something. Gifts are supposed to be out ot kindness without expecting anything in return. Gift-giving should be from the heart so, while it would be nice of you to give him a gift, I would say it's probably better not to if your only motivation is that you feel forced by obligation.
2007-12-18 07:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by ChildOfGod_1982 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just think it's plain weird to buy your friend's man or your girlfriend's friend a gift for Christmas, unless you're all great friends or something. I also hate it when people jump the gun and get me a gift before we know if we're really cool like that. He's probably going to get you something again, so I say get him something, but try to make it something you like or could regift later on in case he doesn't get you anything after all.
2007-12-18 08:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very strange. My mom always taught me to buy back up gifts. 2 or 3 little gifts that can go for either male or female. That way if you get an unexpected gift you have one in your stash you can grab. You might want to stash one aside for him. Last year may have been a fluke, but just in case.
2007-12-18 07:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bad Answer Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, not really obligated, but it'd be nice. It's weird that he got YOU a gift if you aren't close friends, but in this case I guess it'd be nice of you to reciprocate. Maybe some chocolates would be enough, just as a small proof that you thought of him but didn't get him anything too personal.
2007-12-18 08:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lprod 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with getting them a gift... like dinner and a movie. One of by best friends is married and has kids. These days I just get them a family gift.
2007-12-18 07:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by JK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it can't hurt, you don't have to spend a fortune. But especially if you and you friend exchange gifts together you might want to. Also he did seem to make an effort to show an effort to be your friend by giving you a gift. I guess after al that my answer would be yes why not.
2007-12-18 11:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by joe m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a gift, especially since the gift was just from him; it was not like she bought the gift and signed his name to it.
He will most likely get you a gift this year. It is better to be prepared.
2007-12-18 08:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are never obligated to get anyone a gift. you should give gifts because you like someone and want to make them feel happy. if you like him, and want to make him feel good, get him a gift. it's a nice thing to do and giving usually makes the giver happy too. if he only gives you a gift to get one in return he doesn't deserve a gift anyway. if he does out of friendship, get him something if you can afford it.
2007-12-18 07:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by halloweenie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋