I have some weird psycological problem...everytime I have a boyfriend no matter how much I like him and how well he treats me I always have the urge to cheat...I get bored with the relationship to quickly anyone have advice?
2007-12-18 07:39:18 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is nothing you can do about it.....just accept that is how you are and make sure you don't get caught at it.....There is nothing wrong with cheating as long as you don't get caught and you are not taking anything away from him.
Don't have sex with him and deny it to your bf because then you are wrong....Don't cancel plans with your bf to see the other guy....because then you are in the wrong.
But if you have some free time to kill then have some fun....There is nothing wrong with it.....people just want you to think that there is so they have something to hold over you.
2007-12-18 07:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by My Sharona 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Krystal I think it's a shame you feel that way because a long term relationship has so much to offer!
Can I ask how old you are? (I am only 20 so I'm not going to sit here and be your mum if your younger)
I think it's probably due to the fact that you have an issue with commitment. Have you acually cheated on past boyfriends or do you break it off because you have these urges?
And do you get the urge to cheat because you meet someone else you fancy or do you just get the urge to cheat with anyone?
If it's the latter I definitely think it is a commitment issue.
I'm not being nosy here trust me but I think I could give you some good advice if you wish and answer my questions? :)
2007-12-18 07:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way sometimes. Although, I'm 27 now with a daughter from my boyfriend so, everything has changed. But I still get bored and fantasize about other people.
Honestly, I think it's low self esteem. I think that when we're with someone for a while, it's not new anymore and the "new" feeling is gone. That attention is what keeps us going and makes us feel good about our selves. Once that's gone, we look for others to give us that "new"feeling and attention.
Sad but true. But at least if your aware of it, you can work on making it better.
Eventually, you will find someone who you will realize is not worth loosing. Even if you still feel bored, you will know in your heart, that no one is worth risking that relationship on.
2007-12-18 07:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just like the rush that comes with cheating. But it makes you a horrible person.
Eventually, however much fun you have sleeping around won't be worth everyone hating you.
Save some dignity and figure out what you want before all you really want is for that rash to go away.
2007-12-18 07:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a form of self hate. You feel as if you don't deserve to have a healthy relationship. For some reason you feel as if the good relationships are boring. You aren't interested in a person unless they are treating you like crap. Stop getting in relationships period, until you go through some type of therapy to start loving yourself. When you like yourself, you gravitate towards more positive things and people.
2007-12-18 07:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your ego is unhealthy. Sleeping with someone else is your attempt to remind yourself that you’re desirable. Another possibilty is fear of commiting (only you would know why that could be).
Whatever it is, stop making commitments if you can't control this urge, you are obviously not prepared for anything serious. Play the field and don't give anyone the wrong idea. And please protect yourself.
2007-12-18 07:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by BillyTheKid 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really liked your boyfriends you wouldn't cheat on them period. I suggest that you just don't get a boyfriend for awhile to get that fun out of your system. Wait until your ready to settle down with someone and not cheat on them. If you get the urge again then maybe your not ready to settle down.
2007-12-18 07:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way until I met the guy is now my husband. We dated for 5 years before we got married, and I never cheated on him once! The right person can change everything!
2007-12-18 07:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by WT 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My kinda girl when I was in HS. You probably like it for the same reason most cheaters like it. Its bad and wrong and that's exciting. It gives you a tingly feeling inside. Maybe I'm wrong...
2007-12-18 07:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by Joey C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok. Honestly, i am the same way. you can flirt with others.... just dont do anything physical. and when the time comes that you think you will cheat, make sure to let him know you dont want to hurt him first, and that y'all maybe should chill out for awhile.
2007-12-18 07:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by Cat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋