10 pts! Guys, What do You Look for in a Girlfriend?

Question

And let's please stay away from the obvious, good body, etc. What makes a girl attractive to you, strong, not whiny, not clingy, etc. Thanks!

I am really impressed by the maturity and depth to these answers. Thank you guys!

Answer 1

Not whiny is a BIG one!

So is having interesting things that you do on your own, and are willing to talk to him about trying together, OR to keep on doing on your own if he's not interested.

If all you bring to the relationship is "I want to do everything you want to do" than you look like you have no life. Who wants to share life with someone who doesn't have one of their own?

Ask about HIS interests, too. See if they are ALSO something you two might be able to do together.

Forget about "traditional roles." Do what works best for both of you. Maybe he cooks well, or maybe you are a good fighter and can defend the two of you.

Be ready to try new things, IN bed, and out. Ask him if he has any fantasies, and if they're not an unpleasant idea to you, try to fulfill them for him. Sometimes just being asked, and being able to tell, will be a great kick for him. Tell him yours, if you think they won't scare him.

Be seen as an ally, as someone who's on his side. When he's in the right, stand up in public and let it be known you think so. When he's wrong, keep quiet in public and talk to him privately about it.

BE CAREFUL ABOUT MONEY. Money troubles break up more relationships than ANYTHING else. If you have similar incomes, take turns paying for things. If one makes a lot more than the other, let the wealthier one pay but the poorer one should do more work. Try to even things out.

NEVER WALK AWAY FROM AN ARGUMENT. Try to work it out. Walking away might let one of you cool off, but you can bet theother is stewing and getting angrier while waiting. Settle things right away. Don't let resentments fester.

Kiss each other and say "I love you" A LOT. A simple thing like that helps. A pat on the behind as you pass in the hall on the way to something else will go a long way. People LIKE to feel attractive and needed.

Be honest. Talk directly. Don't play games. There is nothing worse to a man than a woman, who when asked "What's wrong?" says "Nothing" when that's CLEARLY not the case.

Don't expect him to guess ANYTHING. Say it outright. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you find yourself getting angry and saying to yourself "He ought to know thus-and-such about me" -- there's no kind way to tell you -- YOU ARE IN THE WRONG. He is not a mind-reader. It may be obvious to YOU, but it clearly isn't obvious to HIM. Open your mouth - that's what it's for.

Don't be coy. If you want him RIGHT NOW, say so. We love that.

Answer 2

me in a females body. luckily that girl found me. my point is that you can't ask what do guys want in girls, because different guys like different things, some men want submissive women, others like dominant women, some like women who don't express themselves, some like women who can cook, others like women who are financially stable. even the obvious answers will differ, some men like breasts, others like butts, or legs, or eyes, or long hair, or short hair, or tall or short. The point is... you have to find someone that likes YOU. who you are, what you look like, and what you like.
This is the problem with our world, we are always trying to be something or someone we're not, because we think it will bring us happiness. I don't know how old you are, but you better get it, and get it quick. it will save you unnecessary pain and suffering until you learn it. maybe you should concentrate on your own well being before you worry about finding a partner. Besides there is a saying, when you're looking for something, you'll never find it, when you stop looking it appears right under your nose. somethin' like that. you get the idea.
If you are young, try completing your education and get into college, they will be plenty of hot bods to drool over there. and by then the frontal lobe of your brain will develop allowing you to think maturely and rationally, saving you from yourself.

Answer 3

I'd appreciate it if women just learned the bare basics of posture and grace. Most walk like Popeye, chew like cows, and eat as if they were actors in a Viking movie. They think all they need is $100 jeans and that's it.

Answer 4

Usually I do the whole every guy is different thing but for this I'll tell you what I like. I'm looking for someone who is outgoing, quick-witted, adventurous with maybe a little bit of a crazy streak (but not too much). That's me of course and other guys are going to go for different things, but a girl with those traits will hold my attention.

Answer 5

A secure woman that can make me laugh and can also laugh at herself. Someone that is comfortable in different surroundings,down to earth. I guess what I'm trying to say is a good person

Answer 6

To tell you the truth (I really did not know it was important to me until it happened) but, I looked for a girl I could see myself growing old with and having my children. Once I found her, I knew I was going to marry her right away.

Answer 7

Beautiful Eyes and Lips.. A fashionable and trendy dres sense... a great body and an amazing personality which includes being outgoing, openminded, intelligent, asense of humor, caring affectionate, independent, goal oriented, and great in bed. =)

Answer 8

ok personally i look for a good sense of humor she has to be able to make me laugh, a good personality, she needs to be calm and be able to admit when she is wrong fun to be around and make me feel good. playful you know that sort of stuff

Answer 9

Honest, hardworking and yes strong (emotionally) meaning that she can stand up for her. And also what alitopedo said.

Answer 10

Beauty, intelligence, and kindness.