I have met what seems to be a great guy. He told me that he still maintains realtionships with all his ex's. I was ok with this at first but he says how his ex's get jealous when they start to think how he kisses and treats other woman. (He's a very romantic guy, hope that makes sense) so to me, it seems his ex's still have feelings for him; because wouldn't they be happy for him instead of being jealous?? I don't know if I'm overthinking or being blind. PLEASE HELP!!
2007-12-18 07:38:08 · 17 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to your exes too. when things like this come up in my relationship, I just fight fire with fire. if he thinks he can get away with it, good, cuz i can too. Watch me text one of my guy friend's from work, while you talk to your ex on the phone. We'll see how he likes them apples THEN!!!!!!!
2007-12-18 07:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some thoughts - one is to ask for feedback when you call back and ask if there is anything you need to know for the next time you apply for a job, anything that they would suggest that you need to do differently. They may not tell you anything but whatever they do tell you will be important - if you can do it in person and see how they act, so you can look at their body language that will give you the best information. Second thought, they may think you are overqualified or won't be happy doing menial work. Not sure how to get over that, but if you are aware of it, perhaps you can come up with a way. Final thought, you say you are desperate. People sense desperation and it makes them uncomfortable. If you are coming across as desperate people might be unconsciously avoiding hiring you for that reason - they won't say that, but it does affect their judgment. Perhaps to get around that potential pitfall, you can say some positive affirmations before you interview so you come off as confident and secure.
2016-05-24 22:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being blind-open your eyes! If the women still have feelings for him, he is probably encouraging it! And he enjoys everyone-including ex girlfriends and current girlfriends-knowing that he has these ties, that he isn't going to end them, and then watching how they all are jealous over who is with him at what moment. He does not have what I would think are healthy relationships that he "maintains" with his exes. He is the one telling you how they are jealous, he is the one that maintains the relationships with these women.
This is not someone you should put much time and effort into. Unless you want him to play you against them until he's tired of it, when the novelty wears off, where will you be? Will you be the one woman he chooses to stay with? Or will you be yet another ex he maintains a relationship with, and tells his new girlfriend about how you get jealous? He's a gameplayer, and unless you are into that kind of thing, do not roll the dice with this guy!
2007-12-18 07:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have known two types of guys like you are describing. One is a player, and the other is just a really nice guy. If he is a player, meaning that he doesn't just talk to these ex'es he also still sleeps with them when he is lonely, then you know you have to run. But since you are asking the question of what to do, I think he is guy number 2. He is friends with everyone, really nice and you can count on him in a crunch time situation. If this sounds like your guy don't worry about the other women. As with any man make it very clear early on that you only have sex with one person at a time and you would appreciate the same consideration. My best friend in college is the kind of guy I think you are talking about, he was and is friends with all of his ex's but that is because if things fell apart in a relationship he took the man way out. No cheating, no fibs about the other person or rumors, he was a perfect gentlemen who let them down easy, or took it well, depending on the case. So don't let it bother you that he talks to ex's, it means he understands that in this world it is hard to find people you click with on any level, and once you find someone you need to keep knowing them, even if the romance can't go any further. Just watch your heart, make sure he is really interested in you in that way, because another side affect of being "that guy", is open flirtation, with no follow through. Good luck!
2007-12-18 07:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by CaCO3Girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm, I was going to tell you that you were overreacting, until I saw that the ex's get jealous part. I am friends with most of my ex's and I'm happy that they are in relationships and never get jealous.
Theses ex's should never be reminiscing about their past romance, that is out of line. And it's even more insane to vocalize it.
He's not necessarily doing anything wrong. But, if I were you I'd just go into the relationship with my eyes wide open. Keep a close watch on his ex's and his relationship with him, but don't give him any ultimatums-they will back fire.
2007-12-18 07:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Highly Evolved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are now acting just like one of his ex-girlfriend---in a jealous manner.This guy ,according to you, will be a great boyfriend for you. He appears to be trying to be open and honest with you.But I also think he is bragging about his ex girlfriends and their so called continued attraction for him and he also seems to be happy about their jealousy of any new girl that he is dating.While on the surface there is nothing wrong with maintaining a friendship with one's ex, it has to be understood that it is only platonic.Before you start to act like a jealous girlfriend, you have to make sure that you are his girlfriend; just because you like him and think that he will make a great guy does not yet make you his girl friend.I will advise caution with this guy though , he seems to be full of himself and his own power of attraction. Do not be blind to these facts just cause you like him.
2007-12-18 08:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I think it all comes down to how he treats you. His ex can always be jealous, but does he do things to appease her and make you feel left out? If he is paying more attention to her needs then you have a problem, otherwise relax.
2007-12-18 07:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by daze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they definitely still have feelings for him, and are jealous that other people are moving in on a guy that they still like. the only thing that you can do is to ignore them. they aren't going to lose their feelings for him, just like you wouldn't lose feelings for someone that you really cared about.
2007-12-18 07:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a guy and i know exactly what he is doing and i hate to say it but RUN from him. he is going to end up hooking up with one of his ex's cause think about it he had feelings for them at one point or another. but yeah i would say that he is probaly just a player but it is always your cal so hopefully you pick right!
2007-12-18 07:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by Kyle R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probable keeps in touch with his pathetic ex's to feed his giant ego.
RUN!
2007-12-18 07:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by Nashgirl4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋