Ok, I am dating a great guy and he wants to propose to me in April. We will be dating for 5 months then but we want to get married in April of 2009. So are rushing the idea of marriage?
2007-12-18 07:33:35 · 32 answers · asked by Palmetto Princess21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My fiance and I got engaged after about 5 1/2 months and are getting married next Sept. (a year from engagement). We got lots of comments from people we hardly even knew about not having been together long enough blah blah blah...The truth is that a marriage can fail just as easily after 20 years as it can after 2. No matter how long you are together for you still have to work at the relationship. As long as both of you are willing (and mature enough) to do this then there should not be any reason it won't work out. You still have 4 more months to get to know him before he plans to propose and then another year after that before you get married to really figure out all the quarks he has. If you find something in that time that you simply can't live with then you can call it off before you go through with the marriage. It is still very early for you so take it slow and let things unfold how they will. But when your Mr. Right comes along you just know, so don't pass up the opportunity just because people will tell you it won't work out.
2007-12-18 08:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Stained Glass- Baby C 11/15/09!! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was 36 when I got engaged after dating for 6 months, we have been married now, it will be 15 years in March.
Just don't rush getting married. You will be engaged a year by April of 2009. If you don't break up first. That is what an engagement is for, partly, is taking things a step at a time.
Who knows, you might break up before you even get engaged. Or 15 years from now, still be married.
2007-12-18 08:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've been dating for a month, so yes, you are rushing the idea of marriage. Why rush to the next step when the initial dating phase is so much fun? Get to know each other a little better. Find out the bad things about each other, not just the surface stuff that you learn in the first month. If you still want to get engaged, then do it after you are together enough to know for sure.
2007-12-18 07:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ray 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me... You've only been dating for a month and you're already talking marriage? YES, you are rushing it. If you were wise and experienced enough to be confident in making this decision in such a short period of time, you wouldn't be posting this question here. I'm not saying it's impossible to decide in a short amount of time - but in order for it to be a good decision, both of you have to be self-aware, confident and mature. Something tells me that this isn't quite the case in your situation - it sounds like you're very young, and don't really have a lot of experience with serious relationships. It's not a bad thing - everyone has to start somewhere; just don't rush! There's no hurry to get married. Best of luck.
2007-12-18 08:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he proposes in April and that will be 5 months, does that mean you've only been dating for 1 month so far?
That seems a little early to be ready to commit to marriage.
Yes, you are rushing.
But, stranger things have worked out.
2007-12-18 07:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by lovespring 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how old you are, and how mature both of you are. Whatever you do, make sure you give yourself plenty of time between the engagement and the wedding to get to know each other.
Personally, I think it's very soon, especially since you've been dating for a month, and it's unlikely that you really know each other. Then again, my grandparents got married after 2 dates, and they had been married for 52 years (until my grandmother passed away)
2007-12-18 12:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know this is the one, then absolutely no problem. I was engaged after 10 months of dating my husband. It would've happend sooner except he was working overseas. We got married two years later and have been married happily for six years. A long engagement (like what you're planning) is a great idea because it'll give you the chance to really get to know each other and work out your quirks and kinks.
Congrats!
2007-12-18 11:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by curious gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that you can't really know if a person will consistently continue to act they way they have so far in such short time. But how old you are is important also. If you are definitely eager to settle down at this point and are in love, then it is certainly possible, but if you have the time it might be better to wait a little longer.
My great aunt and uncle got married after seeing each other about 5 times (he was in the navy), and they just had their 50th wedding anniversary.
2007-12-18 17:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's review: three months ago, you posted a question about a not-yet-divorced guy you were dating for a month and wanted to know if you should be jealous of his soon-to-be ex, and 8 months ago you posted a question about your boyfriend breaking up with you in e-mail because he was afraid to do it over the phone. Now, you're dating a guy for a month, planning to be engaged four months from now, and are planning a wedding for 16 months away.
You are not near mature enough to be considering marriage. You fall in love easily (or what you mistake for love), and don't understand the depths and levels of relationships. Wait until you've had considerably more life experience before you consider anything so serious as marriage.
2007-12-18 07:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That all depends on you and the guy. My parents were married after dating just 6 months and they will have been married 30 years in August 2008. For some people it works, and for others it doesn't. It totally depends on the two people involved. Congrats and best wishes for your future together.
2007-12-18 07:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by iceprincess_12_04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋