Girlfriend family still using her,what should I do?

Question

make a long story short we been 2gether for a year and 3 months.she has my name tatooed on her back.She lives with me in ny.She had a hard life,mom died when she was young and her father was abusive.She has a godmother that she considers her mother and fam.The house is over crowded.Here's the list of people who live there,godmothr,3 sisters age 20,18 and 15 all got kids.one of the sister's babyfather lives there,a recovering crackhead who is the mother cousin they live in nj.Her 3 godsisters expect her to buy stuff for the baby and take care of them like she helped bring them in the world.They constantly expect her to babysit and they always want her to buy the babies things.I told her if thats the case we might as well have our own baby lol.
What should I do about this situation?

I posted a similar question a few days ago.If you read it you'll understand.http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ak.bMxQDcjdhHg_fvVk4aN7sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071216213241AAtyjSs

what should I do?

Im 23 and my girl 20

Answer 1

Hard to say, really best bet is to get her to a position were it DOES feel like a chioce to her, how well does she trust you? Reason I say this is because alot of that helping she's doing is not really for the sisters, that doesn't make sense, its for the godmother, she needs to be in a position were she can feel that the godmother understands your absents. Because in the end buddy, she trust godmother more then you. It happens, abadonment issues and all keep one from reaching on to others. But once they do, watch out! Never get rid of them. That aside, it well always be a constant dance, I'd have to talk long and hard to both of you about this, because theirs ALOT of history there. But just worry about stablizing yoru guyz relationship and maybe try to talk to the godmother, she's the mastermind to be honest, talking to her and getting her help to help your gf see the problem is most likly your ONLY course. Trust that her love for you is different then her love for her godmom, but trust also it isn't anywhere as intense, no matter how much you hit that, love that, or show that compassion, you can't fight godmom, so you better get her on your side, she holds more parts of that gf's heart.