My son will be turning 6 in late December and for some reason he was gotten into the habit of pooping in his pants again, but he alway makes it to go pee. We have been talking to him and taking away a few privileges, but it doesn't seem to be working. I would like to know what you would do. Please only serious answers. Thank you!!
2007-12-18 07:09:43 · 17 answers · asked by kmg 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You shouldn't punish him. You're stressing the poor kid out.
Instead of punishing use the reward method.. You can make a
chart and give him a star when he goes to potty.. With say
10 stars you can buy him a treat, toy or something he likes.
You can even take him to Wendy's to celebrate.. You can
eat healthy there..
2007-12-18 08:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta say that our son did this when it came to NAP Time in pre-school/kindergarten EVERY single day. The ONLY way we stopped him was to let him know that he will have go back to wearing a diaper. Period. No you can't make him clean it...what a real mess you'd have then. He's only six so it could be a reason why he does this. LOTS of times it happens because they are playing and just don't to take the time to go....set up a time for poopy time. (after breakfast - after naptime - just get him into a routine). I wouldn't take away privileges...I would give him a book and have him go sit on the potty.
2007-12-18 09:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation with my ex and his 5 year old son. Our relationship couldn't stand the stress of fighting over him and we broke up. Even though we were living together I didn't feel like I had the right to act as the mom figure and discipline him because of the way his father would react. If your guys' views are that far apart then I think you're in for a lifelong battle.
2016-05-24 22:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's odd. I took care of a girl who didn't like to poop on the toilet, either. She was only three, so she wasn't able to, or didn't want to, explain why. However, what she did was hold it in until nap or bedtime when she was allowed to wear a pull up.
I would be curious as to why your son does this. You could try asking him. What I did with the three year old was offer her an extra book before nap if she would poop in the toilet. It worked. At six, I would probably not be so positive about it. I think I would treat him similarly to a grown up who pooped his pants, expecting him to do all the clean up, himself.
2007-12-18 07:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my daughter does the same thing....she justs gets so into playing that she doesn't want to take the time to stop and go to the bathroom, which results in her holding it till the very last minute, and of course results in her not making it to the bathroom on time...so as a result, afterwards, her undies get thrown out, and I wash the pants...and she has to stop and take a bath, and then she cannot play for the rest of the day...so in the end, the time she waited does not outweigh the time she now lost...and it took about 3 times when she finally got the picture, now..she makes it on time. :)
2007-12-19 02:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something new, that just started, then there must be something going on, this can be a sign of something truly upsetting him happening, and he is manifesting the stress in this manner. You need to seek a doctors advice.
2007-12-18 08:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Angela C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop removing priveleges. that is the one thing you should not due. a child will do the opposite if he sees he gets attention . tell him you will put him back in diapers. and don't threaten unless you follow through
and stop punishing him kids want love not hate love him and he'll want to make you happy
2007-12-18 08:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by truthb4dlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bed wetting or doing it in your undies is a sign of stress. There are things bothering him but too afraid to mention it to you for fear of getting reprimanded. Try the reward strategy.
"lf you do it properly next time, I'll give you an extra hour in the TV/computer" or "Mommy will buy you a -------- (something that is not too expensive").
2007-12-18 07:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has some sort of stress in his life. Children of his age do not poop their pants for fun! Has there been a major life change in his life? Moving, new baby, new school, death or loved one leaving? Those things can trigger it. Also, it can be a sign of sexual abuse. I would stop trying to punish your son, and start trying to figure out what is causing the behavior! Take him to the doctor!!
2007-12-18 07:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Emily E 6 · 14⤊ 2⤋
it's probably a medical problem that he can't control, in which case punishing is counter-productive. look up encopresis on the internet. take him to the pediatrician.
2007-12-18 08:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by ... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋