I have a boyfriend but recently I went out with a group of friends and I met this other guy. I think he is nice but I would never like him in a romantic kind of way, at least not while I'm dating someone else. Only problem is that he seems to like me in a more than just friends way. He told me I looked beautiful and he asked me if we could go out for lunch or dinner somewhere. I would like to go but just as friends. Is this alright of me, or should I not be going out with male friends while I have a boyfriend? Please help!
2007-12-18 06:33:00 · 47 answers · asked by cat_lover 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. You should not be going out with guy while you have a boyfriend. To do so would be giving this guy the message "I'm dating someone else but you can have a shot at me, too." If I were your boyfriend, and you went out to lunch with a new guy, I'd be really pissed.
Wow. You girls are really naive. You want her to go out with this guy but explain to him that they can only be friends. This guy is going to smile and sure "Sure! You bet!", and by the end of the evening, have his tongue in her mouth while his hands go for the treasure box. And then her boyfriend is going to be here in YA wondering WTF is going on with his GF as she is ignoring his texts and e-mails and shrugging him off in the halls because SHE DOESN'T HAVE THE GUTS TO TELL HIM!
Sister, if you are going out with this guy, just break up with your boyfriend before hand. Because when he finds out, it will be over except for the name calling. Don't play games with either of them. You WILL end up the loser.
2007-12-18 06:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to have platonic male friends when you have a boyfriend, but the problem here is this other guy has a crush on you. the best thing to do is NOT lead him on, so no phone calls, group outings, lunches or dinners. even if you do tell him you already have a b/f that you are totally into, and continue to hang out with him you're giving him false hope!
2007-12-18 06:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by ohmygosh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I would stick to going out with him only with a group a friends. That way you won't be though of as a romantic friend to him. You won't be cheating and you can get to know him better. If in time you feel different then break up with the other guy and go for it.
2007-12-18 06:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how well do you know this other guy first look at how this other guy might fill if you go out to eat with him keep in mind he likes you more than a friend knowing you have a boyfriend knowing you know he likes you more than a Friend will give him
an ok to keep pursuing you and more than a friend even though you have a boyfriend + you boyfriend could be the jellus type I don't know but here is my Advice is
Ok first tell him you think he is nice and all but you just would like to be friends how ever if he want to go out and eat as a friend than go out to eat with him with you boyfriend cause really you guys are a couple so go out to eat with a friend as a couple if he won't go then his instrest in you is purely not pure if he really liked you he would be satisfied with being you friend and knowing you happy if he can he does not want to be you friend he wants something els thats my spin on it
peace
2007-12-18 06:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ajrp3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course this is just an opinion, but I think it would be prudent of you to break off any or all communications with this new gentleman. He may be charming and he may seem to be interested in you, but, in the end, if you continue a relationship with him someone will wind up getting hurt. You don't want to be responsible for that, believe me when I say it can make any relationship turn sour. Let the new guy know how you feel, that you like him as a person, but you don't think it is wise to foster a relationship on the side.
2007-12-18 06:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you like it if your boyfriend went out with someother girl to lunch, it is okay to have male friends, but having a guy that is just a friend is something to be very leary of unless youve known him for a while, this guy sounds like hes interested in you other than friends, which unless you are going to dump your boyfriend i probably wouldnt go through with it it will create a problem, i think you like this guy and are trying to justify going out with him to lunch, even though yiou know its wrong. this aint a game becareful because you might end up hurting someone on the process, you need to evaluate your relationship. just do the right thing, I think you know what that is! good luck to you and merry christmas!
2007-12-18 07:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by jolene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can go out with male friends, but some of them have alterer motives be careful with what your doing remember that going out with this other guy can end up braking your boyfriend heart every heard the saying " action speak louder than words'' this is true y don't you look at this guy action an see if he just want friendship from you. then you can make your decision about him or you can run this by your boy friend be smart use your head ask if you and your boyfriend can have dinner/lunch see his response, that will tell you what you need to know.
2007-12-18 06:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by tashie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your own conscience has already answered your question, although a it is a very good question.
Faithfulness is one of the most important, although maybe not the most exciting, value in a relationship. If our honor or trust is questioned or threatened it takes a long time (or sometimes never) to heal.
To explain further: If we were going out and my (woman) friend who is very attracted to me wanted to take me to lunch or dinner would you find it ok?
I think you get the point.
2007-12-18 06:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to go out with him as long as he knows it is just as friends. You might want to let your boyfriend know just in case someone sees the two of you together and thinks there is something more going on, this way your boyfriend will already know that it's just a friend thing.
2007-12-18 06:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by Confused 24/7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you know his expectations it might be wrong. You must ask your self two questions, Can you tell this other guy that you are in a relationship with someone else and you are only looking for friendship and two can you tell your current boyfriend about this guy and that you will be going out with him and he be ok with it. Sounds to me like you might be sticking your hand in the tigers cage. I'm not saying its gunna be bitten off but it might!! To me sounds like you might feel somthing for this new guy and want to explore it but is it worth risking what you now have??
2007-12-18 06:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by tangoboyz2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋