i love him but i am so sick of him everytime i want him to spend time with me he always has something better 2 do. i'm getting sick of getting da back seat. he has been getting on my nerves since i was about 6 months pregnant with our daughter. he argues with me everytime i say something he is just annoying. he does things just cuz he knos it annoys me like eat my food while i'm gone to work... hde da remote... and anything else he can think of.... WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2007-12-18 06:31:50 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask yourself, Do you want your daughter to grow up without a father?
Statistically, girls who grow up without their fathers are MUCH much more likely to look for positive reinforcement from other men outside of their family at a young age -- This often times leads to teenage pregnancy and a series of abusive relationships.
I am only quoting the statistics I have heard from numerous counselors time and time again.
So, if he is not abusive, but just insensitive and selfish, try getting counseling to make the relationship work.
Something you can start doing today is... instead of focusssing on how annoying he is, re-focus your negative energy on the relationship. There's a chance that he may be filling insecure OR unloved in the relationship and that's why he is pulling away.
Lastly, his actions could mean he has no interest in the relationship anymore. Could he be seeing another women? pornography?
But regardless, I think you should try EVERY option to make it work for your daughters sake. Your daughter is MUCH better off with a father then without
2007-12-18 06:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by John S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when you put the cart before the horse. The sad thing is that the two of you selfishly made a baby together, before you were ready to commit. Now you have a child who is the innocent victim in all of this. I feel for her. I don't know what to tell you. You need to decide what is best for your Daughter, your needs and his need frankly don't matter. At this point it is all about her. If the two of you can be civil and get along, then you should get married for her sake. But if that is not possible, then raise her on your own, move close to your parents, so she has a decent male role model and NEVER date again until she is 18.
If you both decide to put her first, then you will figure out how to make your relationship work so that she can have a happy stable home.
If it weren't for the child then I would say- Kick him out today. If you are still pregnant, you can always look into adoption so that your child has a happy stable home.
2007-12-18 06:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart...I'm feeling you. I just had the same exact problem with my beau of a year and a half. I wrote up a timeline of all the times he chose something else other than being with me...the list is 7 pages long!!! This includes holidays, special events, and other important times he decided to do something other than be with me... Just recently, I've dumped him.
Having said this, since you are pregnant with your and his child, the circumstances are a bit different...now there's a child involved, and simply up and leaving him has much more significant ramifications...i.e. that your decisions affect your child.
So, in this case, I would suggest trying to see a counselor if you can...or someone who you both could talk to who may get him to understand his behavior is negatively affecting not just you but as well your future child.
2007-12-18 06:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him that he is dragging you down and you can take it no more, if he don't change he will have to leave. thats If you really love him, if you don't really love him get ride of him. It sounds like he is trying to make your life harder on you and you don't need that when you work and raise a kid. and don't worry about finding someone else the time will come. as a women you need to be strong and do what you feel is right to you. he might say he will change and he might change but it also might be just for alittle bit.
2007-12-18 06:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by mustang. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 21:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
KICK HIS A SS TO THE CURB HUN.
there are a lot better guys out there
that will be there for you and your daughter.
2007-12-18 06:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by [kristi lou!♥] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough situation. your pregnant with a kid and its his, i'm not sure if you should tell him to get out. after all, your going to need money to support the baby. i think you should wait till the baby is born before you decide what you guys should do because the baby can be a problem unless you have the money to support the baby. if there wasn't the baby problem, i would just leave him. i wish you good luck.
2007-12-18 06:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Emily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yo yo yo..kick da sneak azz 2 da kurb. Get hyphy on hez azz, babyz daddy need a dose o reality chek
stupid mofo
2007-12-18 06:38:28 · answer #8 · answered by John m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is doing everything he can to get kicked to the curb.
2007-12-18 06:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie grab your daughter & leave
YOU deserve a bettter guy out there & you can't let your daughter see you being hurt like that with her very own eyes.
leave, there are plenty of other guys out there that'll be willing to date you & live with you & your daughter.
dont think there arent.
leaveee HIM!
2007-12-18 06:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by theresa =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋