they are those uptight rich people that have been going to cotilion for years so they liked to torture me and insult be just because i'm not rich and i was never taught manners.
can you all help me defend myself?
2007-12-18 06:09:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i am super sweet to them... to their faces. but they say that i wasn't raised right and that my parents don't seem to teach me anything. ??? they don't even know my parents and i have put up with this lady for almost two years! she drives me crazy. they like to get their hair done and nails done right in front of me. and they GO TO RESTRAUNTS (SUPER EXPENSIVE) AND MAKE ME PAY FOR THEM!!! rethink your awnsers i have always been sweet to them. like last friday they made me hold their seats to watch a recital WHILE THEY LEFT TO GET THEIR HAIR DONE! they were gone for 3 hours.
2007-12-18 06:25:50 · update #1
These people sound like nouveaux riches. I would coolly and politely decline any further contact with them. Don't cite any rude things they've done to you, since it probably wouldn't do any good, but just keep saying, "Oh, I'm sorry, but I can't."
2007-12-18 07:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by aida 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say she is your friend, yet you call her and her mother a b*****.
You've "put up with" them for 2 years
You tag along to restaurants you can't afford, then get offended when you have to pay
You watch them while they are getting their hair and nails done - but I'm unclear as to why you are there in the first place
Do you wish/hope they will pay your way to their lifestyle since it's beyond your means?
Seems like they don't enjoy your friendship any more than you enjoy theirs.
Even if you indeed have no manners, it would be rude to point it out. Even when done in a loving way, that is very touchy.
Find new friends so that you can enjoy yourself and they no longer have to try to get rid of you.
2007-12-18 07:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by It's Her Again!! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't need money to be well spoken and have proper manners. I am from a lower to middle class family and think that I have been brought up to have good manners and speak quite eloquently. As for the flip side, I have seen rich people who were absolutely disgusting and had no manners, take a look at TV lately, trash socialites with no manners. Yes manners and proper etiquette are on a steady decline but they have little to do with caste.
2007-12-18 06:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hey your the girl who just asked the question about grateful people... man, seems like you're having a rough day!! Manners are good, what were they considering bad manners?? Cause burping at the table is BAD manners. Using cuss words in front of your friends parents is BAD manners...
Hope your day gets better!!!
2007-12-18 06:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by JK 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you are around them, try to do as they do. When in Rome, do as the Romans right? I mean, you don't need to change who you are,but if you are a guest I would try to have better manners. When they are at your home or you are out, be yourself but don't be rude. After all, you are who you are.
In response to your additional information, why are you still hanging out with them? It's obvious that they are using you, so why do you put up with it. It doesn't sound like you are close friends with that girl so why bother? You'll be better off with friends who respect you and treat you right.
2007-12-18 06:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure your just upset... that's why your not using manners right now!
by talking like a sailor!
the first answer has it on the nose!
don't try to prove your self and don't put money in the photo!
even if they do!
don't treat them how you want to be treated because that's one of the most selfish things you could ever do!
treat them how THEY want to be treated!
best of luck
2007-12-18 06:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off, they have been going where for years?? Second, you have been tought manners you just have to use them. Dont chew with your mouth open, dont talk with food in your mouth (its not cute). Dont talk to her parents like they are your friends. They are not. They are your elders and you should respect them. Other than that I would have to know why she said you have no manners to help you.
2007-12-18 06:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Bad Answer Queen 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First, use your manners, and watch your language. If you carry on like that, maybe she's trying to tell you something to help you....
2007-12-18 07:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd rethink that friendship. They sound horrible.
2007-12-18 06:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Monica 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no it is not proper to defend yourself, just ignore them and send them a nice fruitcake for xmas
2007-12-18 06:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋