I have known this guy for about a year,ive kept my distance because he was going through a divorce and has a 10 yr old daughter(idid not want that drama)well just recently we started dating(about a month now)he is a good person,his ex left him for another man and the divorce was finalized 4 months ago,everything has been great with us until last night when he told me she still talks to him about getting back together even though she is living with another man,he says he does not want her at all,but now Im worried about sticking with him because of his ex , what do you think?
2007-12-18 05:22:49 · 12 answers · asked by kelly k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that he talks to you about it is a good sign. I'd be more worried if he kept it secret and you found out somehow. If you wanted to press the issue, you might ask him to make sure his ex understands that he has no intention of ever getting back together with her.
2007-12-18 05:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Joe R 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is with you,right. That's all that matters. I am going through the same thing, except I am in his shoes. My ex left me, but calls me all the time asking to get back together. My current live-in bf knows about it, but I love him now and I am not going anywhere. I wouldn't worry about it unless he seems less interested in you and what you guys have. He is being honest by telling you, so be happy about that.
2007-12-18 05:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Through my experiences dealing with the ex. They end up getting back together. Just take it slow and try not to rush into the relationship so fast. Think with your brain and not your heart. Keep your eyes wide open and don't be blinded by love. Good luck!
2007-12-18 05:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by brianjana01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he does have to talk to her, about the kid he has, but, if she's talking to him about getting back together when SHE divorced him for another man, then you should stick with the guy. The go and UPS that chick a pole and tell her to dance because the way she's acting is really slutty.
2007-12-18 05:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not too attached, I'd move on. I love kids, but 10 year olds are easy. Just wait until the teen years and you're dealing with him and the ex. On the other hand, if you're in love and it's too late then just get used to the ex hanging around. She will always be the mother of his daughter - that means future school functions, financial support, college, marriage... they aren't kidding when they say "until death do we part!"
2007-12-18 05:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is over the ex, don't let that bother you, hes with you for a reason. She is trying to control him. Talk to him about it. If they start getting close, you might want to bail out on it. For right now, don't worry too much about her. Shes jealous you have him and she doesn't. Its her way of making him upset because she is not happy herself.
2007-12-18 05:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOODNESS! Take it from someone who knows!
Talk to him and tell him that you would appreciate for him to stop talking to her because they are divorced now and you are in a relationship. AND she left him so what makes him think she would change.
I would tell him to kindly ask her to keep conversation related to the child or money matters and that is it. If he is truly done with her, then try not to worry. I have somewhat of the same situation going on and it is hard not to worry about it, but if you trust him you have to let it go.
you will drive yourself nuts! trust me.. . :) good luck!
2007-12-18 05:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by Construction Chick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow your heart. You sound so guarded...let your guard down. Pain is fast & rare, but in the end we are better for it.
If you care about him, stick it out. If it doesn't work out, at least you lived!
2007-12-18 05:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by buckshotbullies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he gives you a real reason to think he's not over it, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Don't let jealousy ruin the relationship.
2007-12-18 05:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by JeffyB 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think he's still vulnerable. if he still loves her thats hard. you need to talk to him and see what his feelings are for her still. if she cheated on him she'll do it again especially knowing he'll come back to her anyway.
2007-12-18 05:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by luvkisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋