I know sex before marriage is wrong, but how far is too far before marriage....
I mean can we touch eachother in a intimate way? What exactly draws the line....or is everything okay besides sex?
2007-12-18 05:19:15 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not listen to your heart instead of what some religious wackos tell you what they think is right?
Edit: You can thumbs down me all you want, biotches, it STILL doesn't make you right only self-righteous.
2007-12-18 05:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well now I have to say that anything sexual is sex. So there is no gray areas. Either you are having sex or your not. Any sexual behavior is still sex. If you wish to wait until marriage than wait. But do not kid yourself. I really think that it is great you wish to wait until marriage. It is a great gift to the man who is to be your husband for life. Remember that he might wonder what you consider to far before marriage. If you feel uncomfortable about your behavior and have doubt on what is sexual or intimate, then quit it and I am sure the guy will understand your wishes. Good Luck and remember that all is not about sex. Blue (the cat) says the guy you marry will be so proud of you and God will also be ready to bless your union. This will make your marriage very special.So keep up the good work...And yes it is work today to stay away from all sexual behavior as it is everywhere. But stick to your guns....and remember sex is sex..
2007-12-18 05:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by fnbug 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl I commend you on Standing up For What You Believe in.
That Takes Courage especially on here!
You know Deep In Your Heart What You Feel comfortable Doing already with this guy.
I say If it condemns you to where you are feeling like something is not right you should not do it.
Waiting until Your Wedding Night can Be So Special and what in the world is wrong with it? It makes it So Much Hotter
I think. So MUCH HOTTTTTER! You will Rip Each Other Apart On That Happy Night!
Go With Your Heart It will Never Lead You Wrong-You're Getting Married-Make The Very Best of It and Let there be some Adventure there. I think Waiting can make it so Much Hotter, and you really have to have control and It's like climbing a Mountain-You know what you want-You know where you going and you will eventually get there.Take Time to Enjoy The View Before You Reach the Mountain Top-Then you Can Explode In Joy Together- You Made it! What an Adventure and something to look forward too. We short our selfs out sometimes by jumping the Gun before we've had the chance to get the Feel of The Pistol. Get My Drift? Love you for Being Brave Girl-Kudos to you!Take Time To Enjoy The Ride Of Life!
GOOD FOR ALL YOU GIRLS THAT ARE STANDING UP FOR HOW YOU FEEL.I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW MANY ARE LEFT OUT THERE-GOOD FOR YOU AND GUYS TOO!
2007-12-18 05:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry that someone told you sex before marriage is wrong. It would be SO awful to marry a guy only to find out that he's inadequate in that department. I mean, you test-drive a car before you buy it, right? Well, I don't want to judge anyone on their beliefs, so I will just tell you this: from all the Christian people I've met who have decided to wait until they're married, they all seem to be "everything but" girls, and by this I mean that by the time they finally get married, they've already done pretty much everything they can do except sex itself. Since it's a man-made rule dreamed up to keep kids from getting pregnant back before the advent of the Pill, I say just interpret "no sex" however you choose, and I promise God has better stuff to do than smite you for having some fun with your beloved.
2007-12-18 05:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Do what a christian would be comfortable with ahug akiss on the cheek is acceptable behavouir. Get to know each other well dislikes/likes and future goals. Think of it this way. God created sex! Gave us guidelines to follow so were not cheated from this blessing! If you and your mate were virgines when you met and followed gods way- when you married and had made love it would be the best sex love making you ever will experience simply because not only do you no no other sexual experience - anything other would mean that you've been cheated.I sincerely hope these words may help.God bless!
2007-12-18 05:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by whitewolfhowling 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm Christian too and I don't think there is anything in the 10 Commandments that says you can't have sex before marriage. It says you're not supposed to commit adultery, which means a sexual relationship with someone else's spouse. However, if you believe sex should be done after marriage, there's nothing wrong with that too. It just indicates that you're a mature and responsible person who thinks ahead. Good for you!
As for boundaries, you're the only one who is supposed to set the boundaries if the society around you doesn't draw the line for you. If you live in the middle eastern country, you're obviously very limited in your interaction with your opposite sex. In the US and other western countries, you're pretty much free to do anything you want with your partner. I just want you to understand that the more intense your activity is the farther you're traveling to that dangerous zone that can break your resolve. If you get way too excited, you won't be in control anymore and you may end up having sex before marriage.
2007-12-18 05:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by sir_b_man 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Anything involving sex, is forbidden in the Bible.
Yes you can touch in an intimate way but it will complicate the relationship if you grow out of it, want more from the relationship, and the guy doesn't and keeps asking/begging.
It's lust, it all affects the best of us. Just don't let it ruin a good relationship. If you go too far the guy will be expecting more than just a little intimacy.
2007-12-18 05:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by sinkingsailors 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you want to get technical then anything at all is too far based on the Christian faith.
Now then, let me ask you this. Are you ok with waiting to find out that you and your then husband are not compatible at all in the bedroom? That is the most likely outcome of waiting until marriage. I have dated a lot as have many of my friends. A large number of them are women so I speak from both perspectives. Only about 1 out of 5 people seem to be a pretty good match in the bedroom. The rest just don't cut it. Sex is just as important in a successful and happy relationship as being compatible on raising children and finances. Would you marry a man without knowing if he spends money on betting at the race track?
2007-12-18 05:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's really what you are comphortable with. If you have sex before marriage, it will not stop you from being a christian. A word and teachings of God from the rule of men are two different things. Allot fo these "rules" were created centuries ago, when men wanted to make sure that the woman they are marying is not pregnant with the child of another men.
In other words, this should be your personal choice and NOT a rule in the book! Believe me, if every christian would be forbitten to practice their religion or go to church because they had intercourse before marriage, there wouldn't be any worshipers in the church!!!!
We live in different times Sweets, so use your BRAIN!
2007-12-18 05:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You say you are a Christian and you know the difference in right and wrong with out us here telling you how far not to go. You should already know where the line is drawn with out going into details. A man will take it further over that line you just have to say no..
2007-12-18 05:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being a Christian you should already know the answer to this question. We all know that physical contact with someone we are attracted can arouse sexual feelings. The best thing to do is avoid that physical contact. As a child of God you should have the mind of Christ and know what is and is not acceptable behaviour. May God Bless You and the one you love, and remember to keep God in your relationship. Quality relationships are only successful with God in them. It is you both bringing each other to a relationship with God. If you love one another you can wait til marriage. Remember the marriage bed is not defiled.
2007-12-18 05:28:01 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋