How to recover from being a wierd girlfriend?

Question

Basicly... this morning before I left for work, I asked my boyfriend of almost 4 months if he would ever cheat on me. He got frustrated by this and wondered why I even asked. I didnt' really say anything for 5 minutes. We just hugged. Saturday night we were at some bar, and I saw him glance at some big boobed girl like 6 times. I was drunk...and I know I am a very pretty girl and really chillen too, but for some reason I guess I felt unpretty at that moment. It was sort of on my mind for a couple days, so this morning I finally said something. He is an amazing boyfriend that is so sweet and does every kind thing he can do for me! If I am thirsty or need anything... he tells me how amazing I am all the time. This morning though, he woke up to that question, making him wonder if I trust him and he was sick last night too. I feel bad about it. I usually go into his work 4 lunch on Tuesdays cause he waits tables this day. Now, I think maybe I should give time- he will miss me soon

Answer 1

You need to give him a new experience about you that is positive. You don't want the last thing that he remembers about you is a negative encounter.

If you are still feeling upset, just leave him a voicemail that says that even though you were in a mood this morning that you wanted to let him know that he is an amazing guy and he matters a lot to you etc. etc. Do not talk about yourself, just about how good he is.

Of course he got frustrated. Your question was selfish and absurd. You were asking the question in order to heal your wounded self-esteem after the bar incident. There was obviously only one answer to give to a question like that, so why ask it?

Give him a new positive experience to think about. When he gets home greet him with a hug and kiss and be happy to see him. Sometime later, after a good dinner or something, tell him that you're sorry for being in a weird mood before. Do not make the conversation all about your feelings. Just apologize. Then ask about his day or whatever and listen while he talks.

If you do this then you will be back to normal with him. If you do not listen and make this all about you and your feelings and what made you feel this or that way, then you are focusing only on yourself and not the relationship with your boyfriend.

Answer 2

We all get insecure and we all have our doubts. Of course you trust him and you need to tell him that! It is a very hurtful thing to have the one you care about distrust you ... and even question you on cheating ... especially when there is no reason for it!!!

It's entirely different when you have every reason to think he would (or is) cheating on you ... but to throw that on him because he looked at some big chested girl is hurtful for him. Now granted he should have been a little more discreet about his glances ... because he obviously was not since you noticed!

I would still go in to lunch like you always do ... if you don't it makes it seem like you are upset. He is a little hurt right now ... be strong ... show your love and support for him and do not it turn into something big when it does not have to be!!

From now on try to control the jealousy a little ... and remember that although he might look at another woman from time to time ... he goes home to YOU!! And ... let's be honest here! You notice other men as well ... you are just better at hiding it!

Answer 3

Frist off if you go to lunch with him on this day. You need to be there! If your thinking he wondering if you trust him or not, well not going will really make him wonder. Hun there are going to be times when he will look. But just becuase he looks does not mean he wants to be with them. You cant tell me that you have walked down the street or been somewere and seen a guy that you thought was hot and looked. Did it mean you wanted to be with them. No of course not. Its human nature to look. Why let one night of drinking put this wall up. What lesson you learn from drinking... When drunk you dont think straight. Dont be a FOOL!!!!! If you are to be there for lunch BE THERE !!!! I promise you think there is problems now.... Just wait to you put more doubt in his head that maybe you dont trust him. You can contact me if you like

Answer 4

The spoon is used by addicts for heating or cooking heroin, or crack cocaine which is then injected into the body.You will probably find needle puncture marks on her body.Some addicts are very good at concealing the needle marks so they inject themselves under their toe nails or other difficult places. Sorry there is really no known recovery just attempts you can rarely if ever recover completely.

Answer 5

Typical. Everything's going your way and you look for a reason to make waves! Men are visually-stimulated animals; we look at soft, bumpy things passing us like cats at a ball of yarn. Don't take it personally and it doesn't mean he's thinking about cheating...it just means he's a normal healthy male.

Answer 6

Suggest you and he drink less, it has a habit of letting our tongues run away if we are bothered. The straight answer is the one you do not want to hear. He does not know the answer and possibly has not thought of it before and does not wish to now

Answer 7

Dont make a big thing over it or he'll be gone. Its in a man nature to look at big boobs, they can stare at them all night. Show him you are mature enough to get over it and trust him. If he wreaks that trust, thats going to be his problem, not yours.

Answer 8

yeah u shud giv time. that ALWAYS works. just dont act as interested, just b quiet. :D i don't kno if u r overreacting, to other ppl u prolly r. But i am the same way. :T . good luck. U dont need giant boobs to stay in a good relationship, unless they end the same nite. ;)

Answer 9

well move on if they cant answer a question truthfully in 5 seconds they lie so move on

Answer 10

Respect your man..you inflamed the situation and now he is cold on you? Can u blame him?