Whats wrong with atheists?

Question

ok so i met this girl in our public library, and now we have been dating for 2 months, I am 17 but I live with my 26 year old cousin with my parent's consent and I pay the rent too, she is not my girlfriend yet since I will be going to college this fall sem and I don't have my own house yet for her to move in but I really feel that we have this "connection". She is an Atheist I am a Christian, I don't have a problem with that, now I told my parents that I will introduce her to them during this Christmas celebration, and when I told them she is an atheist they told me to stop seeing her!! and out of my anger I went out the door and never picked up their calls one time my mom mentioned that i will go to hell for going out with her(or did she said "yoking") now my Girl is asking what happened and I just lied about it so that i will not upset her, now for my question; What is the problem with Atheists??? coz other than beliefs I don't think there is anything wrong???

Not offending dude, they are Christians yet they discriminate others

Seven I have to hang out in libraries I still need to pass some tests

she knows I am Christian and she is also fine with it, I pray every night and she don't

Seven, if thats what you believe then ok =)

Stefan lol yes she owns me

Answer 1

My parents did the same thing. They were not supportive at all and tried to undermine our relationship every step of the way. They didn't even come to our engagement party. But finally they got on board for the wedding but still pushing their religion. They finally stopped when we had a baby.

Most discrimination comes from religious people. They normally don't understand the atheist position and sometimes think it means things it doesn't. For example like you are amoral or worship Satan. Good luck with it and it is always great to see someone not letting religious differences get between them and someone else.

Good luck again!!!

Answer 2

First, a few questions:

1) Why can't she be your girlfriend now? She has to live in the same house as you in order for her to be your girlfriend?
2) I assume if you want to move in with her, that would include sex. I'm not judging you, but if you claim to be a Christian, there are some pretty clear guidelines about avoiding sex outside marriage.

There's nothing "wrong" with atheists. But, (again), if you claim to be a Christian, there is a very real danger in being involved in a serious romantic relationship with someone who doesn't share your core beliefs. The concept your mom was referring to ("yoking") comes from the New Testament. It's actually a farming term. The "yoke" is a wooden collar-looking thing for farm "work" animals. Often, a yoke would collar two oxen together and tie them to a plow. Farmers would avoid "yoking" two oxen of different strengths/sizes together, because the farmer would be pulled in circles and get no work done. This is the picture that the Scripture is trying to paint. If you get seriously romantically involved with someone whose core views on life are different than yours, your relationship will end up being an unpleasant circle of conflict. Not because either of you are "evil" people. But, because it's impossible for two people with radically different values and beliefs to live in the same direction.

Of course, if you consider yourself a Christian simply because it's how you were raised, and the teaching of the Bible has no real bearing on your life, then you and your "almost" girlfriend will get along just fine.

Answer 3

You are a much better person than your parents claim to be. There is nothing wrong with atheists. Ask your parents if they would be as offended if your girlfriend were a Catholic, Pentacostal, Buddhist, or Hindu. Religious belief has no bearing on whether or not a person will be a good person or whether they'll be a good person for you UNLESS you yourself decide to make a big deal out of it. Your parents, well, they don't seem to be very tolerant of differing views, but that's okay. You are your own individual, and more than capable of making your own life decisions. Do what YOU feel is right, always, all the time.

Answer 4

Welcome to the wonderful world of religious intolerance. There is nothing "wrong" with atheists, but this is what goes on with some people if their children are involved with someone of a different faith, or of no faith.
My best friend, born a Catholic, has been married to her husband, who is Jewish, for 30 years. Their children (3 girls, so no bris issues) were not baptised, nor were they bat mitzvahed. And, to this day, her mother says she prays a novena every night that those girls, now all in their 20s, will be baptised, and she still blames my friend's husband for this, although this was a completely mutual decision between them about how to raise their children. He's a successful ob/gyn, they're very happy, and most marriages don't last anywhere near 30 years, but neither family thought they should be married.
It's hard to stand up to your parents, but you need to live your own life.

Answer 5

I think they may be afraid you will stop believing. There is nothing wrong with atheists, each person is an individual and should be judged as such. There are good and kind believers and not so nice or good believers. It goes the same for nonbelievers as well. You sound like a very nice person who is willing to accept people for who they are. I am sure you are the one to know if your girl friend is the sort of person you feel connected with and share the things in common to make a relationship. Best wishes to you, I wish for more people like you.

Answer 6

For some it is very difficult to conceive the fact that their children are dating outside of their religious beliefs. They tie their dogma into everything and personal happiness isn't a concern. I'm lucky I never had this problem but then I'm an atheist child of christian parents who married a christian. My parents, though, would have accepted anyone I found suitable.

My in-laws have no problems with my being an atheist but then they are from England and religion as a whole is looked at a bit differently over there.

Answer 7

Actually from the story you just told, it sounds like it is your "Christian" parents who have the problem, not your girlfriend. If your girlfriend doesn't believe in a higher power, that is her choice. And if you have no problem with that and still want her in your life, that is YOUR choice. Your parents have a choice too- either they can practice what they preach and be tolerant and loving, or they can disown you and lose you forever. There is not a problem with atheists, or anyone whose belief system lies outside of Christianity, for that matter. There is a HUGE problem with closed-minded people who believe that their way is the only way, who behave as hypocrites by preaching love and tolerance in one breath, then condemning anyone different in the next. Good luck!

Answer 8

The problem is not with Atheists. The problem is with the other arrogant, "My way is the only way" christians. I would tell your gal the truth. She will find out later anyway, then be angry with you for lying to her. Perhaps the two of you can start your own traditions.

With parents, it's probably better to not tell them your significant other is Atheist if they are scary about their religion. My SO's daughter invites us to christmas and easter church services with her family. I always go, go through the motions, and enjoy spending time with them. They are nice people. But, they would be really put off if they knew my feelings about their religion. It serves no purpose to tell them.

Answer 9

You are not interested in an atheist , you are interested in a person. Politics and religious beliefs are personal choices and shouldn't be up for general discussion because they always cause "issues". If you want to date her take the heat from your parents. If you can't be honest with your girlfriend, so be it. Just remind your parents that we all must die to get to heaven or hell so tell them not to rush you. It's God's job to judge. I prefer to have my heaven on earth. Good luck and God Bless. ( there will be no winners today)

Answer 10

There isn't anything wrong with us. I think it's wonderful you being a believer can feel that way about an Atheist, because churches really do teach that Satan is behind all Atheists and he just uses us to draw you away from god.

Think about it this way - the bible said the worst possible thing to do, the only thing you could not be forgiven for, is to deny the holy spirit. So basically, I deny the holy spirit and am a horrible person, but ones can rape, murder, steal, and do other bad things, but since they did not commit the one unforgivable sin, that makes them a better person than me in god's eyes.

How horrible is that?