I have a 1-year-old son. I'm going to wait another year if I do decide to have another one. But how did you feel growing up as an only child or as a child with siblings? I was the only child for 10 years and I hated it. I ALWAYS wanted a brother or sister just so I could have a playmate around all the time. My parents are both RN's so they worked around the clock and left me at home alone most of the time. I used to envy kids with siblings and it was really an issue for me. I don't want my son to go through this because I'm in nursing school right now and I don't want my son to feel lonely when I'm at school and work. What do you think. I know many kids do very well being the only child but it really can have a negative affect on others.
2007-12-18 03:16:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Are you married? Steady income? Stable? If so, then go for it in another year or two. I grew up with one sister. I myself have two boys and a girl. I could not even imagine growing up an only child or only having 1 child. They need sibilings to create childhood memories with, to fight with, to talk about you behind your back with. Just my thoughts/opinions.
2007-12-18 04:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is really no way to know- these situations can go either way, and there are no guarantees. If you have another, the two kids could be best friends, or they could hate each other. They might find comfort in having a sibling, or they might feel it is a burden. Ask around- everyone has their story to tell, and most people will tell you how they would have changed things, if they had the chance. I'll bet most of your friends with siblings were envious of you, because you had your own time and you weren't competing for attention from your parents.
Do what you think is right for you and your family. Don't have another child just to keep your first child company. Have a child if you truly want to raise a second child and you are financially able. The rest will work itself out.
2007-12-18 12:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with 9 kids in my family! :o) I have 7 brothers and 1 sister (then myself) I wouldnt trade it for anything. A huge age gap though as the oldest is 38 and the youngest is almost 16. I always wanted to have 2-4 kids BUT no more then that. I can relate to you on not seeing your parents. Although they didnt work around the clock-I never had any time with them since there was soo many of us to tend to. My older brothers def helped so I have most of my memories with them. Now it is soo hard to have more then 3 kids-finacially. I def think your son should have a sibling but not too many! Im sorry you went through that as a child. GoodLuck and best wishes to you and your family.
2007-12-18 11:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Gee, its Bree! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having two children left alone while you are at nursing school and work will just leave two children lonely. Children deserve the time and love from a parent. A sibling cannot replace the time you need to put in!
Don't you think another solution is possible. Perhaps finishing your education BEFORE having children? Where is your husband?
Don't have another child until you pull things together.
2007-12-18 11:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i came from a house of six kids, it had its ups and downs like fights and arguing but in the end it was great because someone was always available to help and talk to. Another thing is my boyfriend was an only child for 15yrs. and he is selfish and greedy and I'm the complete opposite i share everything and always consider other peoples feeling a quality brought on by having siblings and knowing that everything isn't all about me unlike the those who have the only-child syndrome.
2007-12-18 11:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by mina 56 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I decided to have a second child, first of all I WANTED another one (sound like you want one too), I didn't want my first child to think the universe revolved around her and I wanted my daughter to grow up with sibling(s) like my husband and I did. All good reasons for having more kids.
2007-12-18 11:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ тнє σяιgιиαℓ gιяℓfяι∂αу ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had two brothers, older twins! and one younger sister, My brothers are 33, 4 years older than me and my sister is 7 years younger, i liked being part of a big family although my little sister was spoilt because she was the youngest and we had all grown up!
Depends on your lifestyle!
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2007-12-18 11:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by Love_Me_Jaffa_X_O_X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT the place to get advice on having another child. Go to social / health care centre.
2007-12-18 11:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋