Are parents scared to use any sort of real punsihment for fear of abuse charges?
2007-12-18 02:43:50 · 13 answers · asked by Kim S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A good old fashion spanking is still very legal. Just as long as no permanent marks are left (temporary redness is OK, and your spanking only on the bottom (bare or clothed) your fine.
Don't allow the Anti spanking crack pots to plant a false sense of what's legal and what's not. This is still a free country (assuming your in the states)
2007-12-18 20:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 6⤊ 3⤋
There are all kinds of legal and effective ways to teach your kids how to be good people. I don't know any parents who are scared to teach their children how to be good people.
I hope that I don't know any parents who think that the only way they can teach their children is through using abusive methods and who therefore are scared to teach their children for fear of being charged with abuse.
If you are not aware of non-abusive methods of teaching your children, I suggest you do some research online. Try googling 'parenting with love and logic' - it's a great starting point. You should be able to get the book in your local library, too.
2007-12-18 04:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So many are. In WY you are allowed to spank your child with an open hand on the butt only. Since spanking has been taboo, crime has gone up in the small children. They think they have the upper hand. My daughter's school isn't even allowed to raise their voice to a child here in GA. I and my wife were both swatted as kids and learned to think twice before we purposely screwed something up. I just make sure that when I discipline my child, I do it out of sight of the cameras. Such as at my house or in the bathroom.
2007-12-18 02:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by hunter52690 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its not what you do to your kids, its how you do it, how often, and if it is paired with the appropriate alternative ways of punishing...
If you spank, hard, and with an object, every time and never explain why or help the child understand the problem, then that is wrong.
If you spank on occasion, when the situation is serious, and also explain the problem to the child and why they shouldn't do it again, then its not wrong.
Just examples, but hopefully it helps.
2007-12-18 02:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by amber 18 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
my kids had a healthy fear of being spanked.....i don't care what anyone else thinks. my kids aren't the little hoodlums that kids with no discipline are so those who tell me its wrong to spank for bad behavior can take a flying leap. i've never been afraid of being arrested for disciplining my kids. when my daughter decided to call the cops because she got spanked, the officer told her that its a parents perogative to spank as long as it doesn't become abuse and that she had no clue what abuse was!!!! guess she shouldn't have thrown a rock and shattered a full length closet mirror.....
2007-12-18 02:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by 4Xthe fun 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes -
you can put them in time out
you can find their target (something they value)and take it away until they have earned it back
In extreme cases you can take everything except their bed,pillow, and blanket out it in large trash bags and have them work to get it back.
Reward them every time they do something good or helpful and let them earn back their most prized possessions.
They need to understand you have the authority to give and take and you are willing to be a good example by showing them how to behave properly without using violence or force.
I don't care about being charged with abusing my children because I will not hit them. I have two well rounded children because I am consistent and I teach them how to behave through rewarding with love and approval.
Our children need love and they need discipline done out of love not anger.
2007-12-18 03:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Some are, because people have been sent to jail for questioning for spanking their kids before. I'm not afraid, however. My 4 year old gets swats on the butt at least once a week.
2007-12-18 02:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Squirrel 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
There is nothing of which to be afraid. If parents are NOT abusing their children, then their means of punishment and discipline are obviously something appropriate.
If people are actually abusing their kids, then naturally they should be scared.
2007-12-18 02:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by AV 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
absolutely they're scared because it's happened to me. I barely tapped my child on the leg and the next day, the person who had witnessed it had called dss and they came out and accused me of being the crap out of him. It was so embarrasing. They looked him over, found no brusies, and apologized.They said they have to check out every case they get. All I had done was tap his leg.
If he acts up, I put him in the corner and take away his favorite things.That's all I can do.
2007-12-18 02:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by jean d 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a child I was punished and whipped and I turned out just fine. So if I want to do the same to my kids I will, they're my kids, I'm not abusing them, they are being punished. And people wonder what's wrong with the world today, everyones too afraid too punish they're kids.
2007-12-18 02:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by poopykins81 3 · 9⤊ 3⤋