I recently found myself falling for someone who is so not my type; in looks and in taste for music and interests. I'm just curious to know who has been in a situation like this before and how things worked out for them in the end.
2007-12-18 02:21:32 · 37 answers · asked by nohandtohold 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One little detail and this is directed to fh.
Dear fh,
I am only asking for other people's experiences. I do not need you to judge me and you obviously don't know me at all.
Thank you.
2007-12-18 02:35:32 · update #1
It is a cliche, but opposites attract . You will always be attracted to people who interest you ..... no matter if they are your type or not.
A picture (which my wife took) of my old 71 HQ (which I picked her up in the first time we went out) now hangs proudly on our wall .... a great combination of a beer and fast car guy with an art gallery and champagne girl .
She now enjoys a good beer and I certainly enjoy a good champagne.
And our 2yr old boy points at the picture and says either "Dad car" or "Mum car" . We only wish we had had him earlier instead of concentrating on the beer and champange !!!!
Things might work out in the end ..... you have to give them a chance first.
2007-12-18 02:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by MickyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of a type is well, limiting I think. Yes we do have certain preferences, but we also have to be somewhat flexible without giving up important things like common values, beliefs, etc.
When we really go out on a limb and start seeing a person too diverse from us, that sets us up for heartache. The more in common you have, studies on relationships showed, the better off you will be in the long run. Looks and taste in music are superficial, the important things to look at are core values, religious beliefs, morals, how one spends money, are they selfish, etc.
2007-12-18 02:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope! I fall for guys that have similar interests! I mean how can you fall for some one that doesn't like the same music or hobbies or interests or even the looks! What would you guys do or where would you go so that both have a good time together? What is the attraction here? Am I the only one with brains here! Sounds more like a lonely hearts club question and you enter the club hoping some one will talk to you or even look at you!
2007-12-18 02:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by fh 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yup.... we've been married for 10 years now...... "Types" are something we look for when we are younger ( I would imagine that you are fairly young) Music, interests..... they are all on the suface type stuff. Who people are on the inside is what is so often overlooked. Find things that you share interest in together...... You don't always have to listen to his music, or do the things you only like to do. Just have fun and be open minded.......
2007-12-18 02:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opposites attract I do not know if taste in music should ever be a big thing for instance I do not like country music but I have dated several girls who do like country music. I like Asian horror and lot of the girls I date do not but it does not get in the way but things like pets and smoking have hurt my tolerance for some people so it depends how much you can put up with.
2007-12-18 02:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sean B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time to me. It is not very hard to let it happen "opposites attract" and all that, but in the end it never works. It may work for a week, a month, or even a year, but there is always a major conflict. I know from experience.
2007-12-18 02:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by spethrocks22 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I have, You can really learn alot from each other too, Its amazing learning about someone interesting that you are attracted too. It opens alot of doors to place and thoughts you have never been or thaough about.
Do not feel that it is a bad thing to be attractive to someone you have never been interested in before, they may just intrigue you!
2007-12-18 02:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the guy I'm dating now was not my type but I learned to like him over the years and we adjusted because I'm really not his type either. Were still together, it's a struggle sometimes but I'm hoping it will work out. Try it out, but if you cant seem to get passed the "interest" you mentioned then it's best not to pursue a relationship as it may produce hurt feelings later.
Merry Christmas!!
2007-12-18 02:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by Barbie doll lover 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and it ended miserably. I was attracted to the fact that he was so different, and in the end, at least for us, we were TOO different. Very different upbringings, different educational backgrounds, different values. Now if it is just a person who LOOKS different or has different hobbies, I can see that working. My sad story was deeper than that. I have had fun relationships with guys who looked differently than I am normally attracted to and who introduced me to different hobbies. But, if you want a serious relationship, look very carefully at the big differences I mentioned up top.
2007-12-18 02:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2007-12-18 02:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by cmentore 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋