The chemotherapy did not work as I suspected. I never heard of anyone surviving chemotherapy induced leukemia. My mom's blast is 70% at the time now. She is now taking chemotherapy pills. I dont know why they giving her those after telling her that they cant cure her. And if those did not work she has only up to january or february to live. Best gift idea for her maybe last christmas.
2007-12-18 01:41:01 · 11 answers · asked by o_olikeomg 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
No gift is required for a dieing mom. What you can possibly give is your LOVE and ATTENTION towards her and PRAYER for her recovery if possible or to have a peaceful end.
I am extreamely sorry to hear the condition of your Mom and also to write like this. I feel these are the only things left. We will also pray for her. -
2007-12-18 02:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jayaraman 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I read an article recently called hope in the terminally ill patient. It said that hope started out as hope for a cure, then as it became apparent one was not forthcoming, hope changed into hope for loved ones and family. Hope that one's children would prosper and have good lives.
Assure her that you love her. Just be there for her. Tell her you are going to be alright.
As far as more chemo goes, sometimes it is done in the hopes it will lead to a better quality of life. It is the quality, not the quantity, that is the real goal for life for all of us.
She's not interested in a gift. She's interested in the love that you show her. Tell her in what ways she's made a difference for you. Make her feel that her life has been important.
Good luck to you and her.
2007-12-22 01:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Scott S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that any mother who had a couple of months to live would LOVE a scrapbook that YOU make her of your lives together (:
inside you could maybe place two plane tickets (or enough for your family - im not sure how old you are) to a place she has always wanted to go. If you need ideas, try 1,000 places to see before you die. Maybe check with your dad to see if she has had a life long dream that she never fulfilled. you could maybe do it for her (:
You could also just give her a bible, and your could write her a message in the front of it. But i am not sure of your religion either, so its just an idea
i hope i helped
2007-12-20 17:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by KJK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a nurse at a cancer hospital in NY. One of my patients that way dying told me that the best gift she ever received was a letter from her son telling her how wonderful she was. He explained to her how grateful he was to have her by his side no matter what. He told her that he will raise his children with the same morals and values that she instilled in him. He reflected upon some of his favorite memories that they had as he was growing up. He told her that he felt blessed to have such a wonderful and strong loving woman in his life. This will make her feel like she did her job in life as a mom and woman! Good luck...this will be the hardest thing you will go through but stay strong and may God bless you always.
2007-12-18 18:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her comfortable, be with her, pray with her and tell her you love her. If she is up to it, remember old times with her and the good things she has done for you in your lifetime. Regarding a material gift, ask her what she wants.
It sounds like you are really questioning the medical treatment she has received and is receiving. If you are like me, when my father was dying, then you are probably quite angry. So, my advice to you is to hide that anger from her - it won't help her at this point. She is not capable of questioning and fighting the medical people who have been treating her. She is fighting for her life - that is all she can handle right now. You will need to deal with the anger without her help. If she is going to die, then allow her die in peace. I am truly sorry about your mom and what you are going through right now. Take care of yourself.
2007-12-18 09:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Shilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your best gift to your Mom will be the gift of time. Spend as much quality time with her that you can. Both of you need this.
Treat each time you see her as the last and make it most special.
Make her comfortable and you may need to get in touch with Hospice. This will be for her and for all family members. Her Dr. should know their numbers.
I wish you the best during this journey.
2007-12-18 14:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by wyomingcowgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh I am so sorry. Make a scrapbook of the family and let her watch videos of the family with her. Tell her how she has influenced you so dearly. Tell her what she means to you. Ask HER what she would like. Often we overlook what they want, its usually what we think she would want. Most of all just spend as much time with her. I am so sorry. Its the saddest part of life I know .
2007-12-20 15:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Sorry to hear this... but I think I have a really good idea. You can get some scrap booking goodies with special photo albums. She will then keep herself busy by reliving the happy and careless times she had with your family and friends. this will cheer her up as well, just to be surrounded by good memories - which is yours too. You can then keep this albums she made in her last times, and will be really special. have a really good Christmas!
2007-12-18 09:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Erné R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my mom was dying all she wanted was to spend time with her family. We went on holiday to Australia with the 'Make a Wish' foundation (paid for) and she died there, by Ayers Rock, where she was born.
2007-12-18 12:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
the best gift you can give her right now is something from the heart, listening is always good.
2007-12-18 16:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by nurse moe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋