Do you visit grave of your family member or relatives?

Question

My dad passed away when I was kid, but me and my family rarely visit his grave. I just visited it once or twice, coz my mom wanted to show me the place where she wants to be burried

Answer 1

Yes, when ever possible. I cry for them, and read the Qur'an by the grave and ask Allah to please forgive there sins and admit them to heaven inshallah. The prophet of Allah use to do it, it is sunnah. The Quran says you should not visit or pray for the non believers, but who knows who is or isn't a believer.

It is reported from Imam Baqir (as), “ . . . That our fourth Imam Zayn al-Abidin wept for his father Imam Hussain (as) for twenty years, and every time he was served food and drink, he wept for Imam Hussain (as), until on one occasion his servant said to him, "Is your sorrow and grief not going to end?", Imam Zayn al-Abidin, (as) replied,

"Woe unto you! The prophet Jacob had twelve sons, and (when) Allah made one of them disappear, his eyes turned white (i.e. blind) because of his increasing crying for him, his head turned gray because of grief, and his back humped because of sorrow, and all this while his son was alive in the world. Whereas I saw my father, my brother, my uncle, and seventeen members of my family killed around me . . . so how can my grief and sorrow end?"

It is reported that Imam Zayn al-Abidin (as) cried and wept so much for Imam Hussain alayhis-salam that it was feared that he would loose his eyesight.

I am so glad, you asked this question, and so glad that some people did some research on the subject. Alhamdulilah

Answer 2

Thank you for your question. It is a timely reminder. My mother recently expired. I went to her grave quite a few times.
But it is in Lahore, about 700 miles from hrere.

But my father's grave is here, very close to my home. But I visit it only rarely. Although I love him but cannot make it to his
grave. The faithful momin is liable to visit the graves of his parents ; this way he can re-claim some lost sawab which he
would have received on serving them in his life.

While we are at it, please visit on Fridays, because on that day the souls are brought to graves and the dead listen to
our salam and prayer we offer for them, on that day.

Javed Kaleem

Answer 3

I'm not Mulsim so don't know if that matters or not, but I visit my brother's grave often. He died 4 years ago and I still miss him very much. I know his soul is not at the grave, but his body is and it helps me to talk to him like I used to. We talked on the phone at least once a month and always helped each other with any problems we had. As I said I still go there and talk to him and tell him my problems and my good news. It helps me to miss him less.

Answer 4

None of my blood relatives are buried around where I live, but I do visit a very close friend of mines grave...(we grew up together, and our parents still live across the street from each other)...not so much on certain holidays, but when I'm missing him ALOT more than normal.

Answer 5

I used to go fairly often with my mother. Now we both live far away from where most of my relatives are buried (in opposite directions). I wanted to go when my husband and I went to visit my mom and then on down to where I grew up but he didn't feel well so we ended up not going. I really wish we had gone...

Answer 6

Very often,my grand ma use to advice me when was young, that three places should be visited very often.

1)Library--->In seek of Knowledge
2)Hospital--> To thank god, we are fare better than some one.
3)grave--> where we have to come back once for all and fear the god.........

keep this three things in your life also you will also a human

Answer 7

Yes I do.......and not as a compulsion or as a regular visitor, but when ever i get the oppertunity to do so.

And also do try my best to make it a point to visit the least during the Eid's.

And remebering them, praying, dua's are adivsed in Islam irrespective of gender.

Answer 8

I personally don't unless I'm at another funeral and happen to be at the cemetary. In my opinion, it's not really them anymore so really find in unnecessary to go out of my way to go and visit the ground their bones lay in.

That sounds cold when written in words, but I prefer to visit them by praying for them on my own time or remembering them from photos.

Answer 9

I'm not entirely sure if this question is open to Muslims only, since I'm not one, sorry, but since there aren't any specifics, I'll answer. :D

Yes, I do visit my relatives' graves; my parents more than I. We usually do this on their birthdays, or on All Saint's Day.

Answer 10

i go about once a month to my dads gave. It is good to go and pray for the deceased. At times i go there just to reflect on my life and what is to come inshaAllah. The grave is our final destination in this world and it's good to be reminded of that.