I am a mother of a 4 year old and I have a baby due in 14 days. My daughter (the 4 yr old) is by my ex husband. Every Christmas we have to switch off on who gets to keep her on Christmas Eve night. Well this is his year to keep her and I know I am going to cry my eyes out. The year before last when she was 2 and he had her, I didn't sleep a wink and I cried all night long. Now, being 9 months pregnant and emotional as ever, I need to keep myself calm. What do you think I could do or not do to get upset. Thanks so much in advance
2007-12-18 01:32:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I just got through reading the 1st 7 responses and I already can't stop crying. Thank you ladies so much!!! And all of you are right......I am lucky to have her dad want to spend time with her and I do give her lots of kisses before she leaves, and I really like the idea of keeping one of her stuffed animals or something......and I know its all about her. I also like the idea of making it a VERY special time with her when I get her back. THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!!!
2007-12-18 01:46:27 · update #1
Just remember its all about her, not you. At some point you loved her daddy, or she wouldn't be here. Be grateful that she has a father that wants to be a part of her life. Make your Christmas with her a good one and don't cry if its not on the technical date. As a child of divorce, I loved multiple Christmases with my parents and family. She's probably excited. Be excited for her.
2007-12-18 01:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind she is with her dad and is probably having a great time and you will see her again soon. Given you are near your due date there is the possibility you will be in labour on Christmas anyway and at least then you won't have to worry about leaving her with someone. You will get used to this arrangement over time....my kids spend alternate years with their dad as well and now it has just become routine for me and I pack them off and say have a great time.
2007-12-18 09:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy yourself and calm down so you won't cause that much stress on the baby. Your daughter will be safe and it's not like she's going away forever. Just think of all your many blessings like her and your baby on the way. Christmas music always make me happy too. Best wishes!
2007-12-18 09:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄ƷAℓεx & Aаяöи have my ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with all of the answers so far. also, use the time to relax since pretty soon, you won't be able to! maybe spend christmas eve with other family or friends, and be happy knowing that your daughter is having the time of her life. And you'll have her next year, being the first Christmas with your new baby!
2007-12-18 09:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by eljmoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way. You are trying to give her some balance in her life, and she needs her dad just like she needs you. Also think how grateful you are that he wants to keep her, some men don't even make and effort to see their kids. When you baby comes you will be very busy, so seeing that it's so close, take the time to get as much rest as you can.
2007-12-18 09:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by islandgirl God and family 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Allow yourself to get upset. Fighting your emotions only makes them worse. Take lots of time before/after she goes to pamper yourself.
You cannot stop your emotions, so just roll with them. It will stress you out less in the long run.
And enjoy your new baby!
2007-12-18 11:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by asrai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about HER. Is she going to have fun at her dads? Is she happy while she's there? Then thats all that matters!
2007-12-18 09:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember that it is about being together. it doesnt matter what day you celebrate. plan something super special for when she gets home.
2007-12-18 09:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋