this all started with my bf wanting to record the birth of our baby when it is born. I told him I didnt want a camera on me in the delivery room when I'm going through with that. B4 I got pregnant, he passed a kidney stone & it sounded more like he was birthing a boulder in the bathroom & then I heard him scream! I told him that if I he records the birth of our baby, then I get to stand in the bathroom & record the birth of his next kidney stone(he's passed 5 in the last 8 yrs, so more will come). Is that fair? He said no, because a man passing his stone is a more private experience than a woman giving birth in a hospital. When he was married to his ex-wife, he got their 3 kids on tape I guess, but between then & now had 2 kids w/ 2 different women & didnt get to be there at the birth. I mean, he stands there & pisses out a rock & lets out a yell, then its done, childbirth is much different. Do you thinks it more private then childbirth? you'd have to caputre his penis would you?
2007-12-18 01:31:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Based on what you have said, I believe both of your concerns about having your private areas on camera are equally justified. I think both are equally private. If I were having a kid and my wife didn't want what is between her legs on camera that would be the end of the discussion. How could I argue with her if she feels uncomfortable with that? In my opinion, your man is being a weirdo to continue this conversation with you and needs to respect your wishes concerning your private area.
2007-12-18 01:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Nikolas M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well your BF has never had a baby, so he can't compare it to passing a kidney stone. So put that aside. He wants to film the birth of his child, you say no. There has to be some kind of compromise. Can he film the birth and stay up towards your head? He is still going to be able to catch the birth and give you your privacy. There is no need for him to be down between your legs. Only the doctor needs to be there. Set up a mock video and see how that works before the due date. That way you will both know what will be shown and what won't and rather it will work. He needs to have respect for you and your feelings but you also need to do the same for him. Good luck and God Bless you on your new baby.
2007-12-18 04:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not a lot to see when passing a kidney stone.
As far as having the camera in the birthing room, that's up to you. Many couples find joy in seeing their children come into the world.
I have been told by several women who have had both kidney stones and vaginal birth children, that they would rather have another kid, than another kidney stone.
Your husband needs to see a doctor about the kidney stones. There are diets that can help and medications if diets don't work.
2007-12-18 01:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that it is a private moment, then it is! If you want him to be there, then great, but you should get the final say in your birthing experience. Even if the camera avoids your private areas, you may not feel like having everything you say taped. If you are on the fence, agree to allow the taping, but insist you get final say on edit or delete. Good luck on your birth, may you and your baby be healthy and happy!
2007-12-18 01:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by Saph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can be real jerks when it comes to this sort of thing. I have heard passing a stone is comparable to the pain of childbirth. But it still doesn't quite make an equal measure. A better comparison would be for him to be forced to have his scrotum pulled up over his head for 12hrs or so. If you don't like the idea of the camera, don't go for it. You don't need the extra stress during delivery. It may have been something he did with his ex, but you are not her and he needs to respect that.
2007-12-18 01:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
seems to me the issue here is not his kidney stones and not your birth process, the issue here is that he is comparing you to his previous wives. In my opinion a totally unacceptable thing for him to do. You have a right to your privacy, as does he, if he can't respect that then maybe you would both do with some counselling, you need to learn to stick to your guns and he needs to learn that you are not like his "other wives".
Comparing the two events is like apples and oranges and it does nothing but cloud the real issue...his lack of respect, and your lack of spine.
2007-12-18 01:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done both and there is nothing private about either one of them.Trust me on this.If he insists on taping the birth and you don't want it taped then by all means tape him passing a stone and compare notes on the pain after.They are both equally painful except with child birth the pain passes faster in my opinion
2007-12-18 01:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by dymond 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever he feels about passing kidney stones is irrelevant.
Whatever you feel about giving birth is the most important thing to take into consideration.
He must abide by YOUR wishes!
2007-12-18 01:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by jet-set 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't just sit around and do nothing like my doctors suggested.
They didn't want me to do anything or to take herbs or herbal remedies, but I had to try something - they just wanted me to do dialysis!
This program allowed me to take control of my health. I went from Stage 4 to Stage 3 kidney disease.
It was easy to do and my BUN, creatinine and anemia are all in better ranges.
Reversing Your Kidney Disease?
2016-05-14 19:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. I'd have to agree with him. When you two are 10, 15, 20 years older, you can look back at that tape and remember how you guys watched as a symbol of your love came into this world. The same can't be said for a kidney stone.
2007-12-18 01:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋