Like....no dicipline at all?
Im not jealous, or angry. Not anymore anyways since I am now 25. But my little sister is 17 and does not have to do a damn thing around the house. When I lived there, I had daily chores on top of having to wake up at 8am every Saturday morning and clean the ENTIRE house. I would get yelled at if I forgot to polish the table legs!!!!
So why does my sister have to do absolutely nothing??
2007-12-18 01:17:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This seems to happen in every household. Your not alone. Although it seemed like your parents were strick and demanding, they only wanted the best for you. It made you responsible, accountable and I am sure it made you a better person than what your sister will eventually turn out to be.
This was how life was in my family home as well and I wouldn't change a thing! Now that I am 35 and a parent myself, I value the discipline and structure that my parents had given me...even though I hated it back then!
Soon enough you will see your parents faults for not being as strict with your sister!
Take Care!
2007-12-18 01:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are not perfect. They all try to be the best parents that they can be, but sometimes they fail. Usually the first child is treated differently because the parents never had a child before and are disciplining them according to how they feel is best or how they were raised. When a second child is born they tend to see them as the baby and they don't put as much pressure on them. They tend to keep treating them like a baby usually because they know they will not have another child. They want the second child to be the baby as long as possible. Anyway, I don't think they realize that they are doing this on purpose, but it is just human nature. Sometimes the older child needs to say to the parents you need to stop babying her. This sometimes wakes them up and they start giving the younger child responsibilities. Parents need help sometimes realizing what they are doing. They are not perfect, even a sibling can teach their parents some things. Food for thought.
2007-12-18 01:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by DoogieT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you wore your parents out and they don't have the strength or the energy to enforce the rules and the chores anymore. But think of it this way: in the real world, they showed they loved you more because you now know how to work, how to take care of your things, and are and independent adult. Your little sister is in for a rude awakening once she leaves home.
2007-12-18 01:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My house was similar, I would have tons of chores and my younger brothers didn't. I think it might have to do with being the oldest child because older generations seemed to feel that the oldest girls responsibilites were to help at home by doing chores and such. It sucks though!
2007-12-18 01:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents wrongly focus all their attention and energy on the first child and neglect to be firm with subsequent children. Then they just assume the next child will pick up on what's expected and somehow "self discipline" herself without much work from the parents.
Looks like this is what happened in your family.
2007-12-18 01:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd guess that they are tired of raising kids, so they aren't as strict on her as they were on you. Sometimes the youngest gets its easiest because the parents are just ready to be done. The sad thing is, their strictness probably better prepared you for the reality of adulthood and she won't have that advantage. How bad would it suck to move out at 18 and not be able to take care of yourself?
2007-12-18 01:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that your parents realized that they overworked you, or that your sister doesn't have the capacity to do all the housework like you did. Some kids can't or won't do it, no matter what punishment you hand out.
Don't be upset...you have a better grounding to be able to take care of yourself. When she finally has her own place, imagine what a pigpen it will be!
2007-12-18 01:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Flowerlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents are changing over time. Everyone does. We grow, we learn, we have experiences in our lives that make us rethink the way we're doing things & try something else. Sometimes the new way of doing things works out better, sometimes it doesn't and, hopefully, we learn & grow from that experience, too.
2007-12-18 01:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes parents don't see what they are doing. Not much you can do, except point out to your parents that they NEED to MAKE her do things, and if she refuses, she can either take a hind end beating or move out.
2007-12-18 01:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they have "chilled out" over the years. Many parents do this. I teach high school, and have heard from many many kids over the years, how leniant they are with younger siblings after they were raised so strictly.
2007-12-18 03:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by sugarpie2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋