help! how do i go about rectifying a major mistake?

Question

i got married 4 months ago, i was told that if i had thank you notes at each place setting i could bypass thank you notes after wedding. i have since heard that thats a major "no-no". how do i go about fixing this, i am so ambarressed, im losing sleep. HELP!

thank you all for your help. im gonna get with it tonite.

Answer 1

Just calm down and write thank you notes and get them in the mail. Actually having little notes at each place setting might have been a lovely touch that helped people realize you had taken the time to speak to them personally. I'm not quite sure why it's a "no-no." However, if you feel like you need to write additional notes, there's nothing wrong with that.

Don't be embarrassed. Just because you find out something is "wrong" doesn't mean that everyone else has that opinion. Think of it this way. You put a personal touch on your reception that not many brides took the time to do.

IF the notes were generic and each was the same, then I'd say you should write personal notes to everyone. However, if you specially thanked Aunt Sally for the place setting of china in her note, and thanked Mrs. Carson for the toaster in her note, I'd honestly forget about it and stop worrying.

Answer 2

Send a proper thank you note, that's all.

If you still have your list of who sent what gift, use that as a guide to thank them properly. Otherwise, just a simple "thank you for attending" will work just fine.

Everyone screws up a wedding at some point, big or small, so don't lose sleep over it. Time goes on, and no one will remember in five years.

Answer 3

Relax. Send them thank you notes for the gifts they gave now. Explain that the thank you notes at the place setting were thanking them for attending the wedding. Or just let the thank you note at the place setting go and just write thank you notes now for the gifts that you received. But whatever you do, relax first!

Answer 4

Don't even worry about it. Sit down this weekend with some nice notecards or handmade paper, and handwrite little thank you notes. Every one knows that newly weds have a million things to do, and little things like writing thank you cards sometimes fall on the backburner.

Don't bother apologizing - just send a very sincere (personalized) thank you note asap.

Technically, no one is forcing you to write thank you cards, but it is considered good etiquette, just like sending holiday & birthday cards.The younger generation might not care, but I betcha your aunts/uncles/grandparents will be looking forward to it :) When I was a kid my mom ALWAYS made me send thank you cards for everything, so it's become second nature to me.

Answer 5

Simple: Write each person who attended or gave you a lovely gift a short thank you note, making specific reference to their gorgeous attire, their wonderful addition to the spirit of the occasion, or the specific gift they gave you and how much you appreciate it and use it so often! Just be simple. No one expects newlyweds to have their heads on straight all the time, and a simple and genuine specific heartfelt thank you will put you back in everyone's good graces.

Answer 6

Well you can do one or two things, Let it go and not worry about it.. Or send out Thank you notes...

Answer 7

Write them out right away! Write 10 per day, and in no time, you'll have them all written!

Answer 8

No need to send any thank u notes to anyone.No need to worry.When u get a chance, go and see them personally.

Answer 9

chill and send them each a personal letter syaing sorry for the delay in this thank u

Answer 10

OK, its only been 4 months, you arent that late with them, sit down and write them out and mail them immediately.