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Ok, 3 years ago I got hurt at work, I had a couple back surgeries, and I am still dealing with a great deal of back pain. I had an appartment with my boyfried, he was not working. I was working about 90 hours per week, to try to pay bills, well when I got hurt, I went on workers copt, I have been out of work since March of 2005. My boyfriend's grandmom hepled paid the rent, which was only right, since he was sitting around doing nothing all day long. So she paid the rent about 8 times for him. Now my boyfried and I are staying with his grandmother for the time being. I went to court for my settlement, which I will be getting the check for in the next few days. Now his grandmother wants $12,000 plus dollars from me, because she's paying the storage fee and wants the rent which she has paid, now I have things I need to do, like pay my back bills, and put my self in pilot school and all, I will have enough money to do all this, but I feel I do not owe her shyt, what would you do?

2007-12-17 02:08:12 · 10 answers · asked by jjnc 1 in Society & Culture Etiquette

Now it ticks me off too no end because my boyfriend and his grandmother got into this big fight over MY money, I told the grandmother that, it was very disrespectful of her to talk about MY money while I was not around, she don't understand that it is not his money, it's my money. She also thinks that my family will have there hand out to me for some money from me. But, she was the 1st person who asked for money. My family knows how much I'm getting, but my in law doesn't. A few months ago, grandmother and I was talking about money, she told me that she wanted 16,000 dollars, I told her that there is now way I would ever even give her that much, I told her that I don't know if I'm even getting that much, but it turns out that I'm getting way more then that. But there is no way I'm going to give that stingy b i t c h even $12,000, my boyfriend even said that shes being a b i t c h...

2007-12-17 02:08:44 · update #1

Ok, I know my boyfriend was not working and everything, now he has a wonderfull job with great pay.

I have other people to stay with, I have family members, like my mom or I have 3 aunts I could stay with, and I was going to move in with my mom, and the loving and wonderfull mom that she is, she would not want money from me for staying there, but I here on the count of my boyfriend, he wanted me to stay here with him, or we could of stayed with my family. I don't really know why we moved in here, instead of moving with my family. My family is wonderful, because none of my family would not want money from me, even if we both stayed, they would not even want money for food. Bot of course I would buy food and stuff. But my boyfried and I talked about this money problem lastnight, and I'm just gonna give his grandmother about $1,500 just too shut her up.

2007-12-17 02:09:15 · update #2

Then again she may try to take me to court for the rest of the money, but it would be my word agenst her world, and my boyfriend would step in and be on my side, so I would win the case, where I would not owe her squite didley. She don't understand, I'm doing things with this money, I'm buying a house, a new car, investing in the money. This woman is just a gready hag...

2007-12-17 02:09:41 · update #3

Most of you are wrong, god damm it., what the f uck, I mean, I don't owe her shyt, Im giving the fu ckin hag 1500 dollars for letting me stay here, and thats it, the way i look at it is when she payed the rent those few times, to me thats helping her grandson out, and repaying me back, i know, we are in a relationship, and the way i look at it is if i that the rent money for the month then i will pay it, if he has the rent for the month then he pays it, but since i have been supporting him while he was not working it was all on me, and since his grandmother did pay our rent a few times thent that to me is repayment to me since she payed my part of the rent, so the only thing i will pay her back for is for letting me stay her which we stayed here in her house for about 4 months, and i will be more than happy to give her money for that, but other than that, thats it, no more money, if she needs to borrow money from me, i will be more then glad to LEND her money..

2007-12-17 13:23:38 · update #4

now my boyfriend is working, he can come up with some money for his part of rent, instead of it being all on me... and as far as the storage goes, i did not help with moving, due to my back issue, but i do go the storage to get things out here and there, but the grandmother should of gottin a much smaller space, i mean it was only a 1 bedroom apt, and every thing would of fit into a 5x5, it would have been jamed in there but it would have fit, we have a 10x10 and out crap is not even filled up to the top of the storage unit, and is less then half filled, if it wasnt for my back i would have packed our things better, instead of plastic trash bags, i would of went around town to find boxes 3x3" boxes taped them up, nice and neat, and would have tons of boxes but would have been much better and organized. but i guess if you want stuff dune right, you got to do it your self...

2007-12-17 13:32:20 · update #5

You people need to read my story from start to end, I did say that I'm going to pay her $1,500, and thats it, I do not owe her anything, I have done lots of things for her, like help her move into her new house, which left me in bed for the next 7 days in pain, than help move her bedroom set around, and left me in much pain, again I could not get out of bed for like 4 or 5 days after that, there was much more that I have done for her in the past, like cut her grass, fixed her AC unit, which I saved her hundreds of dollars, did all kinds of odds and ends for her, and did not even ask her for any money. So the only thing I owe her is about a thousand or so dollars. If you don't agree with me well, I don't know what to tell you.

2007-12-18 04:14:26 · update #6

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Nobody here agrees with you, and neither do I. I think that should be a hint as to who is right here. His grandmother doesn't owe you anything, and yes, you should give her the money since your good for nothing lazy boyfriend was not doing a damn thing to pull his share of what was owed. You should be ashamed of yourself for even thinking about not paying her...and if you were to take her to court, I think you should realize that you would not win even if your boyfriend stepped up and was on your side. If she paid that much rent out of the goodness of her heart, you should pay her back...don't burn bridges, it WILL come back to bite you in the ***.

2007-12-17 02:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Well, personally, it sounds like there are SEVERAL "greedy hags" in this story . . . Either that, or the pain has made you delusional . . .

You didn't mind taking her money when you were flat on your back and her grandson was lolling around your apartment. Why do you feel entitled to her paying YOUR rent just because her grandson was living there? And then when you moved into her home -- she gave you shelter, that wasn't worth anything?

Yes, you have things you need to do -- bills to pay, etc. Repaying her is one of them. How could you possibly have accepted her generosity without feeling the need to repay it? Frankly, your boyfriend, who now has a great job after sitting on his azz for so long, is the one who should be coordinating a repayment. And you should be sharing in that repayment, because you shared in the benefits from her helping you out. Both your boyfriend and his grandmother are rude to discuss your money behind your back -- but you're rude for trying to dismiss her generosity as something that you were "owed". Frankly, she didn't owe you -- as you so elegantly put it -- shyt.

You shouldn't be paying the whole thing. But you owe half. Your boyfriend owes the other half.

2007-12-17 10:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

if there was no agreement to pay her back then you don't owe her a penny. now this is what i would do. i would take the total amout that she paid for rent and storage and divide it in two and give her your half of the bills. And when you give her the money make her sign a promise note stating that you and her didn't have an agreement that you would pay her back this money she gave to you and your b/f in a time of need and that you are giving her this money to repay her for her kindness and not a loan. Then write the check out in her name so that you can report it to the IRS that she didn't claim this money on her taxes because she most probably won't. An file that you donated this money to her on your taxes so you can stick it to her and get the last laugh.

2007-12-17 11:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

While I agree with you that she is being rude asking for all that money, she does have a point. She's given you a place to stay when you needed it, provided food and warmth, and she is entitled to some kind of gratitude. It sounds like your settlement check is going to be more than enough to cover your bills and get you back on your feet plus compensate her for her kindness. I suggest paying her at least half of what she is requesting and do so graciously. How quickly we forget those who helped us in our time of need when we no longer need them.

I don't mean to sound rude or harsh, because she is being incredibly rude by demanding money, but is there perhaps a reason she believes you will run out of her home as soon as you get your check and forget she ever helped?

2007-12-17 10:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Love My Hubby - Hate His Mom 6 · 3 1

I dont think she is owed $12,000 but I do think you owe her something. She paid your rent and then let you move in with her plus paying for your storage?? Your boyfriend, her grandson needs to be paying her as well. Now that he is working he can do just that but you do owe her something too..

2007-12-17 11:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Your boyfriend should pay back the money for the rent payments and the storage his grandmother was kind enough to help when he needed it he should repay her he never knows when he may need her help again. I dont think you should have to pay you were paying the rent before your accident. As for your money do as you wish get debt free go to pilot school just dont waste it you may never get that sum of money again

2007-12-17 10:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by emma 6 · 2 1

A greedy hag? The one who helped out when your lazy *** boyfriend wouldn't get a job and be a man and take care of the situation? If there was no discussion of repaying her, and there was nothing in writing, sure you may win in court. But if you could live with yourself for taking money with no intention of paying any of it back, and your boyfriend would side with you over his own grandmother who helped out, personally I wouldn't want anything to do with either of you. Do the right thing.

2007-12-17 10:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lady G 6 · 6 2

Why was it "right" for her to pay the rent -- it wasn't HER bill. She doesn't have to pay for her grandson.
You are living in her house because you decided to live there -- why should she foot your bills.

Sorry -- I agree with the "greedy hag"....you owe her some money.

2007-12-17 10:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Susie D 6 · 4 0

She paid rent for 8 months on your apartment to help you out. I don't think I would pay her for that, unless she said in the beginning "I want to be repaid." But since you're living with her now, you should pay her rent for all the months you've lived with her.

2007-12-17 10:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by xK 7 · 1 2

I'm glad that I don't have to be near any of you.

2007-12-17 10:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by HELEN LOOKING4 6 · 5 0

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