what happens when youre only 17 and you have a std?

Question

my family is angry with my bf, and i understand that, but i dotn feel ashamed of what happened and i love my bf and i dont plan on breaking with him....what it yoru opinion?

and its HPV, and my gyn is almost completed treating it....nothing too major live hiv or herpies!!!

Answer 1

once u get hpv, it stays in ur blood stream...finding out your child is sexually active is upsetting enough, much less that they have an std and now have to seek medical assistance which i am sure costs plenty money that probably was allocated for some other bills etc. so look at it from that perspective. what u did affected everyone. not just the two of u. use safe sex practices if u must have sex. be thankful that it did not lead to an unwanted pregnancy so early in your life...get yourself educated and able to financially take care of yourself, and get into a long term relationship with someone with no STD (get them tested before u play) before you use unsafe sex practices.

Answer 2

Actually, over 25% of all adults tested in a recent study carry the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV). It's more concerning which VARIANT of the HPV you have. If you have type 16 or 18, you have a very high risk of contracting cervical cancer at some point in your life. This is the reason the HPV vaccine was recently released - to help prevent the incidence of cervical cancer resulting from infection with HPV. Like I said, most adults will get infected with HPV in their lifetimes - most of the variants of HPV are totally benign and don't cause problems. It's not something routinely screened on STD screenings since it's usually not a problem... instead, it's detected in CANCER screenings since it is specifically related to cervical cancer in women.

In short, you are better off than most women in that you know about the virus's presence and that you're seeking treatment and regular gynecological examinations for it.

HPV, for the record, is an STD - but it's not like HIV or HSV (Herpes)... like I said, most people get it and it's benign. All these people on here trying to be all high and mighty by saying "should have waited, now you have an STD because you're dumb," are totally, 100% wrong. Like I said, 1/4 of all women will have this virus by the time they're 60! See the article linked at the end of my answer from the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA)... there are few resources more authoritative than that. So, to everyone that's being a jerk... keep it to yourself. You may very well have the same thing and not know about it. At least this girl is trying to get it taken care of.

As for your family and your boyfriend... I have nothing to say about that. If you were my own daughter and only 17 and I found out about this... I would probably have skinned the chump alive... or at least beaten his car into scrap with a baseball bat.

Answer 3

The same thing that happens at any other age.

You have the medical issues of:

(1) contact tracing
who you got it from
who you gave it to

(2) treatment

You have social issues of trust/betrayal

I would be wary of your boyfriend. If I was related to you, I'd be very angry with him too. However, I would be happy to let you make your own decision about continuing a relationship with him. You would have to understand that if some guy gave you a sexually transmitted disease, it would imply that he had been having unsafe sex with someone else ... and then unsafe sex with you. Your family would not like EITHER of those implications and are probably very right in being angry.

You need to have a good look at your way of making decisions. Your current decisions have led to you having a disease and needing treatment.

Some diseases have long reaching consequences (eg. Herpes) and some have no treatment (eg HIV)

THEN there is the issue of pregnancy

Answer 4

well im not entirely sure but i dont think that hpv is a virus promiscuous people contract but if not then it might not even be any fault of your bf. but, it is your fault and you should take full responsibility because you chose to have sex so that means that you agree to face all of the consequences. it sounds to me like you just got a reality check. i know that there is almost no way you could have known short of an std test but next time just be more careful, just think, it could have been something more serious.

Answer 5

Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are passed from person to person during sexual activity. STDs such as chlamydia and gonorrhea are caused by bacteria. Single-celled organisms called parasites cause trichomoniasis. Genital herpes and human papillomavirus (HPV) are caused by viruses. The HIV virus, responsible for causing AIDs, is one of the deadliest STDs.

Visit the STD and Genital Infection Center at Your Total Health for expert advice and answers to your questions. Good luck : )

http://yourtotalhealth.ivillage.com/std-genital-infections

Answer 6

i think you should have waited untill you are married
if it comes back, you are going to tell every guy you have sex with that there is the possibility of him getting a disease.
on your wedding night, you will have to tell your husband this.

i understand your family
if your bf didnt do anything wrong, there is no reason to break up with him

Answer 7

My late hubby thought it was cool to keep all his girl friends and he got human papillae virus it also causes venereal warts he gave that to all the woman he slept with he had it on his balls so wearing a rubber to him was a laugh. So just think you can have something that could cause you pookie cancer no joke!

Answer 8

your just the dumb one to not getting tested together first before having sex with him. If you are that serious, then those are the steps you should have taken together. If you were my daughter I would be very dissapointed too because I care about you and love you.

Answer 9

My opinion is that your boyfriend should have been more considerate of your health. If he knew he'd slept with someone else unprotected, he should have made sure he was tested before sleeping with you, or at least used protection until he was tested.

Answer 10

I don't think that you should break up with your boyfriend just because of that. But, it is now really clear to you that STD cases are really rising, and that you should be really careful.