Lately I have found myself too controlling at home husband kid and to a small amount at work although home is worse.I find myself telling my 7yr old if her bobbles arent straight or if my husband wants someting for dinner he should have something more healthy instead .It drives me mad so god knows how they put up with it.However if I don't say what I am thinking it eats up inside until I have to blurt it out.I never used to be like this
2007-12-04 22:58:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you need to have an open and honest conversation with your husband.
Tell him you do not know why you are being so controlling and you do not want to be this way. Explain how you feel when he does certain things that result in you becoming controlling.
Work together to find a way that you can express your feelings in a more constructive and positive way. Tell him you really need his support to help you get over this behaviour.
I'm sure you guys will be able to work it out.
Remember that your daughter is only a child though, and she is at a very delicate and fragile age when she will pick up on your emotions and feel hurt and upset when you criticise her.
Be very careful- you and your husband have the power to bring your daughter up with good self esteem and confidence that will develop her into a well adjusted adult. If you continue the way you are going you could be creating unneccessary issues for her in later life.
Good luck- at least you recognise that you need to make a change, thats the hardest step!
2007-12-04 23:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by billy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try doing some things spontaneously and relax a little. If you can't figure out what to cook for dinner one night, just drop everything and go out to eat. Try letting everyone else in on some decisions or some choices. Share the responsibilities don't dictate them.
You've noticed your behavior and you don't like it so only you can change it. It happens. I've done the same thing here and there. I get on little kicks or rants where everything has to be a certain way...I get over it by letting some things go and just spending quality time with the family. We will cook together, I will let the house go for a day and we will play games or just have fun. As far as your daughter goes...really open up to her. You want her to be a strong independent woman and that starts by letting her control a few things on her own. She is old enough now to do certain things for herself. She will get the hang of making sure her bobbles are straight eventually.
2007-12-04 23:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be stressing about something and your taking your mind of it!
Whenever you want to say something go and write it down! Just think to yourself how you may be hurting peoples feelings by saying these things!
Try and think about what is stressing you out! You may not realise what it is so maybe you should just make a point of spending more time on your own or out of your routine!
2007-12-04 23:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by emzy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that something is really stressing you out and you need to find out what it is. I wou;d recommend seeing a counselor to try to get to the bottom of it, because that is probably the biggest piece of working through this and you deserve better than to bottle things up inside.
2007-12-04 23:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lola honey i use to have the same thing and the reason why i was like that was cause i was hurt badly by some one i cared for and just to know that i use to leave him to do as he pleased he took advantage of that so when i broke up with him i felt so hurt and so i became very controling and over protective so all i can say to you is try and get out what is really buging you honey and try and face up to it cause the more you go on like that your gonna lose your family or youl hurt them so come to terms with whats really buging you and get it sorted out
2007-12-04 23:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by nicky b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a think about what could be bothering you and get it sorted. I got like this for a while and lost my boyfriend and a fair few friends. Good Luck.
2007-12-04 23:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by Different 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you're beginning to address the issue by simply recognising it's destructive potential. You should talk to your GP ..maybe there's an underlying reason he will eak out.
2007-12-04 23:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Think if the stress you're putting in their lives. Be careful or they'll end up resenting you.
2007-12-04 23:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont control
2007-12-04 23:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋