been with bf for almost 3 years. been up and down due to me having pmdd that i struggle with (seeing a counselor and take meds). i also have 3 kids that i care for part-time. i'm 28 and he's 29-no kids,never married.
we've discussed living together-marriage and said one way or the other things had to be figured out by this Feb when my apt lease is up. so far, plan is for me to move in with him (my cat and over half my stuff is at his house now)
got into a little tiff today mostly due to me being a little moody and tired. things seemed ok when we left for work but he won't email or call me back.
a friend of his back home in IL emails him from time to time and emailed him to see how things were w/his life and w/me.
he emailed back not saying anything about me so the friend asked again. he emailed the friend back saying he didnt mention me the first time b/c things are the same-one week good, the next bad. more below and important-please read!!
2007-12-04 22:46:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he then wrote that his view on things changes from day to day!!! i want to die-i had to leave my desk at work b/c i started crying!! how should i take that?!!
thank goodness the friend did right back saying that good and bad days are part of any relationship and that if the days were all good-the relationship wouldn't be real. he hasn't checked that email yet so i don't know what his take on it will be.
what should i do?!! i'm angry and hurt
2007-12-04 22:46:49 · update #1
First you have to stop reading his email, secondly don't worry too much about this if he had said the bad was out weighing the good then you'll have reason to worry. It's gonna be a Lil moody until after Feb so just try to be patient he'll email you when he settles down. Good luck!
2007-12-04 22:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems like an issue of communication. Seems like he is having issues dealing with the relationship but since you have been together for 3 years and virtually living together (when a women is willing to move her cat she is already moved) and not spoken about break up things are not bad. As your mutual friend pointed out relationship is about ups and downs. But the most important thing is communication. Plan a weekend together for something that both of you find fun doing. Personally I enjoying cooking with my gf. So we always cook together every other day or so. Use that opportunity to talk things out and see where the relationship is at. Why does he feel that way? What is going through his mind? Is he getting scared of the possible commitment? It could be something to do with the approaching Christmas, he want's to inform his family that you are finally tieing the knot. could a million other reasons. Just talk to him. Don't confront him. Make it a casual talk. Pushing each other in a corner will only make matters worse. And keep a check on your anger. Even if he gets angry stay calm. That always works with me. And do something that turns him on ;)
2007-12-04 22:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by hither2forlorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be hurt he just needed to vent a little just like you're doing now. It's true every relationship experience good and bad moments. I've never seen one experience good all the time.
2007-12-04 23:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by justus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get off that medication! that medication you are on is only making your doctor rich and causing a lot of problems for you and in your relationship. so get off those meds. and take control of your life.
2007-12-04 22:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun, relationships are always like that, he will probably come round and things will be alright.
2007-12-04 22:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you just talk to him juts sit down and talk to him if he really loves you he'll listen and try to work thing out just try it and don't give up on the relatinship!!
2007-12-04 22:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by - P E r K i N s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋