I am 13 nearly 14 and i am going out with this guy and i often sleep over his house his mum sleeps around and he is trying to make me have sex. he doesn't have a condom and i sneak out he is saying that he will use the pulout method as safe sex is that a safe sex method?
2007-12-04 22:36:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First and foremost, 13 or 14 for a girl is far too young for having sexual relations. Second, nobody must ever force you to have sex when you are not ready, not now and not in the future. If you give in to him, for certain you will only regret it, not to mention the broken heart you will get once he dumps you for another girl. Teenage boys and even older men love to conquer and "prey" on girls. Once they have conquered you, their predator instincts will still be there, and therefore you definitely won't be the last.
Also never accept that you have unprotected sex with anybody, no matter how "inlove" you are with him unless you want to have a baby and not mind changing the diapers and nursing the baby at 4 in the morning. The baby could be the least of your problems. Have you ever heard about AIDS and other Sexually Transmitted Dieseases? If this guy cannot respect you, then dump him. Go with someone who can respect you. Respect comes before love. So how do you expect him to love you if he cannot even respect you?
You have to be strong in saying "no". If you can talk to your mom or to to an older woman who can give you guidance and advice. Don't ruin your Youth by having sex too early. Concentrate on your studies and the things you love to do best.
2007-12-04 22:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lev Davidovich ;) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the? Leave him right now!
#1) you are what, 13? Sex is not a good idea right now. Really, it isn't. Not good for you emotionally, or for your body. Oh yeah, and if you had sex both of you would be breaking the law since you are underage. If he is older, he could be charged with molestation. Just dont get into that.
#2) You say he is forcing you? That's a big,fat red flag that he is no good. If he liked you he wouldn't be forcing you to do anything you weren't comfortable doing.
#3) this dude is either amazingly stupid, or a complete as$hole who is lying to you. The pull-out method is the LEAST safe method of all. Men still release tiny bits of sperm before they are finished, and the odds of him remembering to pull out every time is next to none.
Dump this loser. Really, he is an a-hole.
2007-12-04 22:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by kf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First hes an ass hole for trying to make you do something you dont want to do. If somebody loves you they dont force you into things. And second the pull out method does mot work!!! I have a few nephews and neices cause of that. Use a condom always and think about goin on birth control if you are goin to do it, just make sure you do it safely, a child is a 18 year loan you dont want.
2007-12-04 22:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by big.boy802 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to have sex, then don't! At your age you should not even be ready for intercourse yet. Heck, do you even feel your own sexual desires yet? And NO pulling out does not prevent pregnancy. Guys usually have a small amount of pre-ejaculation before they finish off. Find out more information for yourself first. Did you know that a large percentage of women don't even come for the first time? My mother is 70 and she has never really come. So wait and talk to your boyfriend. If he can't be considerate of your feelings then find a boy that would rather be friends with you. Being friends first makes for a better relationship later on.
2007-12-04 22:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by timberteri24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, goodness, you are 14, do you really want to give something that special to a guy who is "forcing" you to have sex or pressuring you to do it, if he really cared about you he would wait until you are ready, think about it, you can only give that gift ( your virginity ) to one person, one time.... do you really want it to be a guy who is pushing you to do something you dont want to do, and im sorry hun but a guy who obviously doesnt truly care about you, because if he did he wouldnt be trying and the first itme you said no, would be it, and he wouldnt try it again, it sounds to me like this guy is after one thing.... and how old is this guy?? you are 14 yrs old.... the pull out method is NOT a safe method... because yeah when he fully does *** not all of that is in you, but there is also pre ***.... which can get you pregnant, you obviously do not know enough about what acctually happens when it happens, so if you dont know you definately shouldnt be doing it, and condoms are not always effective i have seen so many girls getting pregnant from guys who have said i'll use a condom nothing will happen... and it does.... think about it....
1. Are you ready to give yourself to a guy who is pressuring you into doing something you dont want to do, and you being 14 it is probably a guy that you are with in a relationship that isnt going to last... give that gift that is so special and something you will never get back... are you ready for that... and for the possible guilt and regret, and also the consequences
2. Are you ready to be a mother, regardless of how many precautions you take ANY time you have sex, you need to ask yourself are you ready and stable to be a mother... because well... it could very well happen...
Live your life sweety find a boy to kill time with who will respect you and your body, save sex until you are married or at least until you are old enough to work a full time job to suppost a child that you could possibly "accidentally" end up with...
all in all... dont do it, you will regret it, and it will eat at you....and in most cases with most people sex is addicting so there is a higher chance of you getting pregnant at a young age right there.... AND also... if you think just giving in one time will shut him up, THINK AGAIN if you do it once, he will want it and expect it anytime he wants it....
there is a lot of stuff to take into consideration here, if you dont want to do it and if you are not ready, which i think even if you think you are ready you are not... then DONT if he doesnt understand then he isnt worth your time... you seem like a smart girl because you have not given in yet, be strong, and leave this guy, because he really isnt worth you losing your young years as a preteen/teen... no guy is worth that..be young as long as you can because once you cant be young anymore you will miss it.... and just remember, you can only lose your virginity once, do you want it to be special with someone who respects you, or do you want it to be with someone who has pressured you into doing it and who is only thinking of himself and being a selfish asshole
2007-12-04 23:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 13.... you have the rest of your life to have sex with someone you love.
something else to think about is that it will bloody hurt and prob be very bloody
withdrawal method is not safe and there is still i high chance you can get pregnant, sperm are in precum as well (a liquid which comes out from his penis while having sex).
tell him if he realy loves you he will wait till you are ready
DO NOT FEEL PRESSURED INTO HAVING SEX EVER
if his mum sleeps around he has the wrong idea of what love is.
and remember you are still underage...
just wait.... it will be worth it in the end. i promise
2007-12-04 22:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if he only wants to have sex with you, then get rid of him. Don't sleep with him if its not what you really want, males lose all respect for a girl, if she puts out easily. Secondly, i realise that yous are very young, but the pull out method is a very bad way of contraception, use a condom so you don't end up pregnant, or secondly you don't end up with diseases. If he doesn't want to get them, or use them, then tell him that he isn't having sex with you unitl he does. Its not something to be taken lightly. good luck
2007-12-04 22:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by honeybee84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the only safe method is to use a condom. The "pullout method" is not safe as he can leak sperm before he comes and you can still end up pregnant. If and only if you want to have sex with him use a condom.
2007-12-04 22:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by knight32 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
well your only 14 basically..so i wouldn't do it if i was you and there really is no safe method when you have sex cause even with a condom you have to cautious.. so yea there isn't really a safe method especially the "pull out" method///
good luck
2007-12-04 22:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it is not safe, and if he loved you, he would not be trying to make you do something that obviously both of you are not prepared for!!! Dump the jerk, he is only thinking about himself.
Tell him that next time he wants to force someone to have sex with him, at least have a condom.
2007-12-04 22:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋