think the problem really is he cheated on me though i have forgiven him i think somehow in my mind it always rings a bell. i love him so much and i do not know what i should to make to achieve an orgasm. we have tried different positions but it does not work.
2007-12-04 21:29:04 · 11 answers · asked by Sandra Melody M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your mind!, you mentioned it!, it's all in there!.. either forgive, and truly forget, at least for the moments that matter!, or move on, and find a way to relax, be yourself, and it will happen, but just stop thinkingabout it!..
2007-12-04 21:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women's sexuality is so tied up with their emotions and feelings of trust. It's not surprising you can't achieve orgasm right now. You don't say whether this problem is only since him cheating, if it is then rushing things won't help. Your mind has to be ready. Have you worked through his unfaithfulness together sufficiently for you? It's such a deep hurt it's obviously lurking in your mind and stopping you really letting go again (which requires a degree of trust in your partner anyway). Take things at your own pace and pleasure yourself in the meantime so you are not completely unsatisfied. You seem to love him very much and I think this strong feeling will win through in the end. Good luck.
2007-12-04 21:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Boudicca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you said the answer yourself, your mind in pre-occupied with what has happened, the fact he was doing the same thing to someone else and you can't relax or get in the zone.
It will come in time but this is something you and especially he needs to work on.
He needs to spend an awful lot of time reassuring you and showing you how much he genuinely sorry for what he did.
You can't just get over something like this in a few weeks, it might take months or even years.
It's psycholoigically and emotionally a difficult time and even if you don't show it or think you've got over it, trust me, you haven't.
It might take you to try things alone (if you know what i mean) so you can dissassociate having an orgasm with him, so it becomes something that is not linked to having sex with him and in turn, what has happened.
Make it at separate entity, make yourself climax when your relaxed and alone so you know then that's it's not you, it's not your problem and your not at fault here.
2007-12-04 21:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the problem is the bell. Actually you are telling a lie that you have forgiven him. Am I true?
Forgive him by mind and not by heart. Heart is very naughty and possessive.
The second thing is when you are ready, create in your mind that it is him and only him who can satiate your thirst and you are to cooperate and *** simultaneously.
It is a game of mind and both the minds should remove all absurd things and concentrate to orgasm only.
2007-12-04 21:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by james love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you the best way to get an orgasm is to put your hand down there and rub on yourself in the spot that feels real good and just keep rubbing it until you do have one. It works and I love it so much because I can control it myself I have like 6 orgasms in one night and it is wonderful
2007-12-04 21:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Nae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When ever someone that you trust betrays you its hard to let go. You just have to give yourself some time to really forgive him time does heal wounds and i think that that's what you need to do. Because your body has forgiven him but your mind is still having some problems.So just give it some time..Peace and Love
2007-12-04 21:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by D.Marie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you have not truly forgiven him. It takes a very very strong relationship to overcome cheating. Why don't you suggest a break, and give yourself time to reorganize your thoughts, and reassess the relationship.
2007-12-04 21:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
concentration is necessary for orgasm. think about sex while having sex and you will be through.
2007-12-04 22:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new partner
2007-12-04 21:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
consult a doctor
2007-12-04 21:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋