Okay, I'm dating a guy, have been for about two weeks now. Our first date was very serious, and things have deepened since then. I really like him, I can see us being together for a while and all that jazz. But, in a week he has a friend coming out from the USA to here (Australia) whom he likes, and he intends to spend six days with this guy who likes him back. The guy I'm dating also has an older friend who likes him, and he told me that they recently had sexual relations, and that he may be travelling abroad with him next year.
This guy told me he could see us in a relationship soon and if we do start one, it'll be the first for both of us. But. What do I do about this American friend and other older guy? I mean, if he really likes me he wouldn't be doing things with them, would he? He seems to like them too, but we're dating and all, and we established that we're going to be monogamous.
I mean, should we start a relationship, or should I stop before I get hurt? Will I? Help please
2007-12-04 17:49:34 · 9 answers · asked by Jay Jay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he is either confused or yanking you around.
My advice? You're worth more than that. It sounds like you are ready to be monogamous and serious. You deserve to have the same from your partner. Let this guy figure out his heart and when he's ready to give his all to you--and only you--he knows where to find you.
Best of luck!!!
2007-12-04 17:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that if he was interested in a relationship with you and only you, then there wouldnt be other men in his life. Soon!!! how long will that be? Ask yourself this question, would you do this to someone that you were serious about? If the answer is no then you have to decide if you want this relationship to be casual or serious. As it seems clear that this guy really doesnt know what he wants. I would move on for awhile, he may change or he may not either way you will avoid all the drama that he will bring you along the way. I would remain his friend and move on best to not settle for second best, there is better out there. Best of luck with you're new man I'm sure that he will treat you better.
2007-12-04 20:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by marie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found something might be helpful?
Finesse Mitchell hopes women who need dating advice will turn to him. After all, he is a guy.
So he wrote a book, Your Girlfriends Only Know So Much: A Brother's Take on Dating and Mating for Sistas, released this month. It's published by Simon Spotlight Entertainment, the folks who brought us He's Just Not That Into You.
Mitchell, 35, of Miramar, made a name for himself by appearing on Saturday Night Live for three years.
He has gained a female following with his advice column in Essence, a magazine that targets black women. He also says he's the go-to guy when his female friends need dating advice.
The book is aimed at African-American women, Mitchell's fan base, but despite its title, his humorous advice will ring true for women and men of all races.
He has some advice specific to Florida men:
"I think Florida men have it real good. And I think we have it really good simply because, since it's always so warm here, either you want to work out or you don't want to work out. But you can't say it's too cold to work out," he says.
"Whereas people up North? You ask them about working out, they look at you like you crazy. Like, 'Why get started? Pretty soon I'm not going to be able to go.' So I guess Florida men are very spoiled, and the ones that know they're a catch -- a lot of women will agree with me here -- the ones that know they're a catch, they act like it."
2007-12-04 17:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by Teesmaar Khan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Britt! Grow up!! The guy asked for advice not your little girl attitude. Anyway, it's sounds like you already started a relationship. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. TRY before you give up, then at least you'll know that you did try. Good luck.
2007-12-04 18:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Diamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will end up getting hurt if he's not ready to commit to only one person. If you're searching for a serious relationship between you and him, then he might hurt you by not wanting the same from you. Talk to him and find out what he wants. I hope it all works out =)
2007-12-04 18:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nina M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-28 12:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should defiantly kick him to the curb now. if he is at all interested in the other guy then you know what will happen when he is there visiting.
2007-12-04 17:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Steph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ughhhhhh i hate gay people why do you do it ewww anwazy i think you should go out with him ..... ya and to much confusen
2007-12-04 17:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him.
2007-12-04 17:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by a.sade86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋