My husband has 2 kids from a previous marriage. He would like to gain sole custody, but still let their mom see them from time to time, but no over night stays. Reasons: #1 Her last live in boyfriend was a registered sex offender. #2 She smokes marijuana and cigarettes heavily in the house with the kids #3 Received a call from son's teacher yesterday, saying that he is going to be held back in 3rd for the 2nd time if he doesn't start turning in homework. When my husband asked mom about it she said that she's doing all that she can. #4 Mom allows kids to roam unsupervised AFTER DARK through the apartment complex,which is located in a very bad area. My husband called the other day to talk to the kids at 6:30 at night, which half an hour past dark. Long story short, mom was freaking out because when she walked out to the playground give daughter the phone she was gone.She was across the street at a park.She is 6yrs old. (My husband and I have both witnessed these things) Please help.
2007-12-04 17:28:08 · 7 answers · asked by Fire Side Water Side 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Report it to your local social workers department, have evidence, call the police so you can have a report, but make sure everything is in control in your house so your husband can keep the kids, other way the kids may end at a foster home. Let the police know about the boyfrien sex offender. But you have to do it soon, so those kids can be safe. Good Luck and God bless those kids and keep them safe, from any danger.. You guys are taking too long to do somenthing about this situation.
2007-12-04 17:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a family court judge, but merely knowing these things happen is pretty worthless in a court of law fighting over custody.
You need some proof. If the husband has access to the children. He should ask the children's teachers at school to provide written statements, stating how the children appear to be suffering in the custody of their mother, at least academically. Who knows, you might find a teacher who cares. (Typically young idealistic ones, not the older ones who just want a day job and a pay check)
Get the teachers to provide it in writing, or get it video-taped.
Just make you're being honest in court, there is nothing more damaging to your case than making false statements in court. Even if the evidence is slam-dunk.
2007-12-04 17:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should not continue. My husband and I are going through basically the same thing with his ex. Drugs, no supervision, etc. Get those kids completely away from her. If HE does not, then he could also be held responsible. He knows what is going on and he is refusing to do anything about it. Does not sound like he wants to protect his children. I provided my daughter a "safe-haven" at our home. Then, with my new husband, I am also providing his two children with the same. It is a safe place free of issues of the sort and full of love, laughter and responsiblities. That is what he should be converned with and should provide that for his children.
God does not give us these children. He LOANS them to us. It is our responsibility to do the best for them as well as the best by them. If we do not, we will answer for these infractions. Don't know about you, but I don't want to face His wrath.
2007-12-04 17:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal LeeAnn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck, sincerely, I wish you all the best. My advice is:
1) Document EVERYTHING! Save every email, keep journals and leave out personal feelings, take photos, etc.
2) Get a good lawyer
3) Ask as many credible people as possible to make sworn affadavides for you.
4) Assure the children that you BOTH love them and will always be there for them
Anytime that such things as the child being alone at the park happens call the police and or child services.
Also, make your house READY to take the children full time.
Again, good luck, for the sake of you, your husband and those children. Fight for them because they can't fight for themselves yet.
2007-12-04 19:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to contact a good family law attorney for advice...
He can also request that the mother have a psychological evaluation to determine whether she is capable of raising and nurturing her children properly. Psychological evaluations "tell all" about a person's worst traits, by the way, and in some courts, when one parent requests an evaluation, BOTH must take it...
That is my best answer. For the sake of those kids, i sure do hope something is worked out soon. Their mom really needs to get help.. she is making bad choices.
take care
2007-12-04 19:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call child protective services, and tell them to investigate her.
The only drawback is if they decide she is not providing a safe home they may put them in foster care if they cannot get a hold of you.
If my x was letting my kids run a-muck a night I would probably call the police and try to have him arrested for neglect.
I would be so mad, you defiantly need to seek a lawyer, if something happens to them you could be in trouble too since you knew what was going on .
You will need to do something drastic and fast.
2007-12-04 17:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by GabbyGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to a lawyer!!! Document everything from the time called to aspects of the conversations with the children as you will need to start building a case.
2007-12-04 17:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by fandigirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋