My uncle moved my dad & I about an hour an a half away from my hometown to be closer to our family. A huge reason that was discussed to why we moved was to help my dad's drinking problem. This took place 1 year and 4 months ago. I saved my uncles life 4 thanksgiving's ago from an overdose of heroin. Little did I know my uncle still is an addict. Not a heavy user like everyday but here an there. Any use of heroin is too much. My dad and uncle aren't only brother's but bestfriends they are both aware of one another's addictions an continue's to hide it for eachother. My uncle promised me a year an four months ago (thinking he was sober himself) that he would get my dad into treatment an everything would be ok. I have a person in my life right now who is off an on seeing my uncle who understand's an is there for me to the fullest. For her own comfort I think she tells me things will be okay but deep down i don't think she knows what to do either? Any advice or help would be great!
2007-12-04 17:20:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
excellent question....it is always difficult to know what to do because you can't make an addict do anything they don't want to do. other than knowing that, i'm not sure.
2007-12-04 17:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi.. i'm very sorry for the pain this situation is causing you.. i understand from personal experiences.
Your uncle can't make your father go into rehab.. your father has to admit he has a problem and get help on his own.... And your uncle isn't a very good one to "help" your father anyway, consider he's an addict himself....
sometimes addiction can be a family problem, and many people with addictions have underlying emotional problems, so they turn to drugs and alcohol as a means of escape, without realizing the consequences (such as addiction).
what you can do, and i'd suggest it, is attend Alanon or Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings.... you will find good support and that you are NOT alone! many people out there are living the same type of life and circumstances as you.
Narcotics Anonymous has "open" meetings, in which you are free to attend even if you are not an addict... these open meetings are for anyone to attend for support, advice and help.
YOU are the person you need to worry about right now... you have been affected by addiction and alcohol, too...
please take the time and make the effort to get help... Alanon and Adult Children of Alcoholics both have websites, and you can find them by doing a yahoo search. Same for Narcotics Anonymous.
2007-12-04 19:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As someone previously mentioned, al-anon would be a good place to start. Your uncle is kidding himself if he thinks he can stay just an every once in a while user. He might be able to do that short term, but eventually he'll be worse than before. But do get yourself to some meetings, go with your friend, go alone, but, go for sure, meet some people who are living with alcoholics, addicts, they'll have the best advice, ways to deal with things, they've been through everything you are going through. Good Luck.
2007-12-04 18:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
educate yourself on addiction first( education is the key to success) ask GOD( no offense)( that's just who I believe in ) to grant you the serenity to accept the things you can not change and courage to change the things you can and the wisdom to know the difference. Go to a support group for life with an addict
2007-12-04 18:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by ljjmjd3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best favor you will ever do for yourself is to go to AlAnon, it's for families of drug and alcohol abusers. And bring that "person in yur life" too!
Best wishes.
2007-12-04 17:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋