Does Islam demand mindless obedience of women to men?

Question

From this quote, what do you think? Do you think that in order to deserve the respect of his wife, a man must earn it? Or do you believe the same as extremists, that the thing between their legs is some kind of a big deal and merits respect even at the cost of life?

"There are so many forms of exploitation in the workplace: And there are so many in marriage. The husband who is 'out at work' from, say, nine to five, and then comes home and puts his feet up for the rest of the evening while his wife continues to work has forgotten something--she was also working nine to five, and very likely started long before that. This applies not only when the wife has a job outside the house, but also when she is working in the house. Many men find this hard to grasp, for some reason.

The simple way to prove it would be for the wife to leave him for a few weeks and let the household run down, as it would swiftly do; and then suggest that perhaps the husband should sort it out by hiring someone to come and take over the wife's jobs.
Husbands usually understand all this as regards their place of employment, but many need to realise that the main worker within the family is the wife. She must never be taken for granted--for her payment is so often not money at all, but being noticed, appreciated, and loved.

Due to his imperfection and selfishness, there are many times when the husband, while wanting very much to be respected as the head of the family, fails to show the needed consideration and love to his wife, and thus 'shoots himself in the foot.

No matter how much a man may actually love his wife, if he doesn't show it, she will not feel loved. No matter how much he does appreciate her, if he doesn't show it, she will not feel appreciated.

She may deduce from his attitude that the only things that matter to him are his own pleasure and satisfaction.

The man has to show the protection, the maintenance, and the strength before he receives the obedience and the co-operation.Just because a man is head of the household does not mean that he is issuing commands at every hour of the day. Usually it simply means that when the two of them at times disagree, and a row threatens, he has a casting vote. The husband does not always have to give in to his wife's wishes; but he is a fool if he does not listen to her reasons why she wants a certain thing doing, or wants it doing a certain way. Good Muslim husbands and wives both realise that everyone is capable of making mistakes, of not being perfect, and both should consider each other's rights and requests with an open mind and humility. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) emphasised this time and time again.

Answer 1

I haven't seen you for a long time! last time you where in a bad car accident - I would love to assume you are OK now!
what you are writing today in all fairness should be everywhere . look how many women in the western world are being abused and even killed by their boyfriends. Housewives are the cream of the crop in any event! you are soooo right! they clean; they cook; they raise children; they keep the money in check and keep their husbands taken care of as well! but again this is not just a Muslim issue it is happening all over the globe! peace !

Answer 2

Hmmm Islam v's Christanity over female rights. I'd say it was a tie with them both having the same fettish over sexuality. ou can look at a society like a person and by thier actions how evolved they are. As both seem to be obsessed with sexuality that would make them both teenagers. Teenagers react in two ways to sex, they either turn into slappers or become over religious. No wonder the world is having problems. lol lol lol. (added) The real reason for guys to want to control their women folk so much is because women have no doubts as to who thier offspring are. Men on the other hand can never know 100%. But instead of setting their women free they would rather inprison them out of spite. The ego's of men trash many a female's life, but disguesd and all in the name of some man made religion.

Answer 3

Purist Muslims retort your questions with "Islam, like us as humans and our souls....have evolved", which is a lame cop out crutch that gives answerer, "Evan" the nail on the head answer.

If Islamic women were treated fair by their men--that was a long long time ago in a galaxy far, far away!

Islamic women are "silently, but strongly" brought into submission. Believe it or not: some like the lifestyle (go figure).

But the day is comming, according to the Islamic beloved Koran, that women will remove the scarves and saris--and show faces of rebellion and strength (a rebirth of the women's rights movement, perhaps??), driving their dominant men crazy. I've actually been told by purist Islamics they believe their next civil war will be between their women and men.

Answer 4

These imperfections of men that you have mentioned are also seen in Christian men and all religions' men. Religion has nothing to do with mindless and unsensitive men. These men who insist on using Islam as a reason to nuture their incapabilities should be noted as such; incapable of showing affection and an ego. Women are respected in Islam and should be a priority for the husband. Do not use religion as basis for determining the man's inability to grasp humanity. He needs counseling.

In conclusion, you are right and I agree.

Answer 5

I am married muslim husband and I agree with Ethan - "man demands obedience from women using Islam as the excuse. Blame the person - not the religion".

A true muslim respect his wife and help each other at home. A true muslim understand that it is not the responsibility of the wife to go out for work but her willingness to do so should be appreciated as a contribution to help ease the cost of living.

My advise to anybody with this kind of husband, if you cannot advise directly, use indirect approach very wisely (eg. buy some Islamic book on responsibilties of husband-wife, etc and put it on a place he can easily see)

Answer 6

Obedience? My husband does not get obedience from me nor does he ask for it. He never will. I honor and respect my husband because I love him. I do things for him because I love him. I told him from the very beginning that if he were to EVER demand obedience from me, that will be the day I sit my butt on the couch and quit.

I honor, love and respect him as how God has it in The Bible. Eve was taken from Adams rib. To stand beside him, not behind, not in front, not above or below. Equal respect.

Answer 7

Islam is the only Religion in the world that gives equal status to man and woman in society. Man and Woman have to perform certian duties and roles to run a household in the manner as enshrined in the 'Holy Koran'. It is the wrongful social conditioning in a male dominated society that ignores the equal rights granted to woman or wife by Allah. It is the gravest sin being committed by Husbands/Men and for this sin they will be judged accordingly by Allah.

Answer 8

The word "MINDLESS" applies to 99% of anything related to Islam

For example, when the kids gave me this name, genuine muslims demanded execution

Islam seems to have problems with cartoons and toys... interesting

Answer 9

No, man demands obedience from women using Islam as the excuse.

Blame the person - not the religion.

Answer 10

I judge religions by their fruit rather than by quotes. You simply can not deny that the laws are different for women than for men in theocratic Islamic nations.