She is in another country trying to achieve a better life for them both. He sleeps with his x girlfriend on valentines, and he says he did not want the child, but now of course he loves the child. They are still not married. Is it right (good Karma) to still love and want a man who is not married but has a child now with another woman. ??
2007-12-04 16:38:55 · 10 answers · asked by rainbow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say that she can't help her feelings, but she should be aware that past behavior is often a good predictor of future behavior - there will probably be other women.
2007-12-04 16:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are very codependent. I have 1 recommendation. Read the following 3 books in this order (1) "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. (2) "Bradshaw On: The Family" by John Bradshaw. (3) "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey. Good Luck.
http://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025
http://www.amazon.com/Bradshaw-Family-John/dp/1558744274/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1196865916&sr=1-1
http://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People/dp/0743269519/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1196865952&sr=1-1
2007-12-05 01:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Compguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help who you love but how can you truly love if you cannot fully trust..... i could never trust a man who not only cheated, but didn't even have the decency to be careful, think of what he could have given you on top of everything else. If you want to forgive and move on that is your call, but i could never do that, i would never be able to trust him again, without trust there is no real love
2007-12-04 16:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by jasonsgirl_825 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is still sleeping with his ex-girlfriend I think he's probably not the man for you.
If he really loves and respects this girl who loves him, why is he sleeping with his ex-girlfriend?
You can love him all you want, but he seems to want his ex-gf back again. So let him have her.
2007-12-04 16:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been in a similiar situation as yours. i been told not to mess with a guy that has a kid. i don't believe in any of that stuff. the decision is up to you, if you love him then nothing should get in your way. just make sure he feels the same way. and ooh yeah be very cautious.. good luck!
2007-12-04 16:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by LILY [ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lady is it u who is staying in another country....... if yes .....dont panic. frankly we guys are bas............ but u have to decide for urself that do u love him so much that he can be excused and given another chance.no their is nothing wrong to love him becoz the kid might have been a mistake but the mere fact that he now loves the kid and wants to bring him up is a humane approach...........yes u have to think about his x .is she included in bringing up the child
2007-12-04 16:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by dk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you always want what you cant have...and in your own way you probably wish you were that girl... and i hate to say it but hes going to have the other girl in his life as long as theres a baby in the picture... so sorry, but try to go on other dates to get you mind off him.
2007-12-04 16:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it moves like a snake and sounds like a snake, guess what? it is a snake. get over him and move on. the more time you spend wasting on mister wrong is losing opportunity for mister right.
2007-12-04 16:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by speedy ski 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it is about right or wrong i just feel bad for you and i would try to get over him
2007-12-04 16:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazyyyy
2007-12-04 16:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by macsareeback 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋